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Anyone else HATE NYE?

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Jeffsmeffsmiff · 31/12/2023 09:05

I don't know if I'm a bit of a weirdo but I just find it so totally depressing. All of it. Especially Jools Holland on the telly. It seems to be celebrating the end of the holidays, going back to work and the start of the absolute WORST period of the whole entire year - Jan and Feb. Ugh.
I have a friend who finds November depressing because of SAD but likes Jan because she can see the days getting longer. I'm the opposite. November has so much to look forward to that the dark evenings seem exciting to me. January is just flat, cold, grey, broke and LONG. 😭

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DRS1970 · 31/12/2023 10:24

I don't hate it, but I definitely don't understand all the hype it receives. If on the odd occasion I stay up to hear the gongs at midnight, the whole experience fails to invoke any emotions or feelings beyond meh.

Whattheduck · 31/12/2023 10:27

I’m with you op
Going to my bil’s this afternoon then will come home have a bath put my pyjamas on and spend the evening with Dh.We are having a cheeseboard later and maybe a few drinks I’ll probably be in bed before 12
Dd is going to her Friends tonight and Dh will pick her up
Tomorrow we will have a roast and take the dog for a long walk
Tree will come down Tuesday in preparation for Dd’s birthday

ShowOfHands · 31/12/2023 10:27

It's my birthday too.

Used to love it. Still do in some ways, I see it as part of Christmas. However, the annual "I hate NYE, it's shit" threads on social media, coupled with people telling me they hate it or they're sorry but they're so miserable post Christmas they didn't have time or headspace to remember my birthday etc, it takes the shine off it somewhat. I've just had my first "shit, it's your birthday. I'm sorry but I forgot. You see, I hate NYE" text.

I treat NYE as a new beginning, new year for me in more ways than one. I try and imbue it with hope, optimism, fresh starts. Tough when the current move is to cast it as a terrible day.

toomanyleggings · 31/12/2023 10:28

I bloody hate it. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks on NY one year and it always brings it back. This year we’re stuck in because the kids all have a stomach bug

TheTecknician · 31/12/2023 10:28

I don't hate NYE and NYD but I really don't mark the occasion either. I haven't stayed up till midnight on NYE for about 25 years. Needless to say NYE 1999 has always been a difficult act to follow which might explain why folk are largely less enthusiastic about it now and also might explain the relatively new tradition of midnight fireworks! None of this applies if you're age 23 or under!

RocketIceLollie · 31/12/2023 10:32

I don't really caught up in any celebrations over a clock countdown or use it to reflect on time. It's just another day to me.

KezzabellaB · 31/12/2023 10:32

The older I get the more dismissive I become of NYE. I'd happily go to bed at the usual time and just wake up in a new year but DH thinks we should celebrate and see it in at midnight. Then comes the phone call to his parents and the usual awkward conversations - 'Have a great new year!' 'Yes you too!'..... 'Erm... What else have you been doing tonight?' (answer, nothing cos neither of us has been anywhere)
Then he wants to watch the fireworks that we can see from where we live. And all the time I'm thinking I just want to go to bed 🤣
I don't think it helps that my parents were in the pub trade when I was growing up so each NYE saw my parents working till silly o'clock, experiencing loads of paralytic customers (and sometimes fights) , people snogging people they shouldn't be snogging (cue more fights) etc etc, you get my drift.
These days I'm just ambivalent and couldn't care less!

Cadno31 · 31/12/2023 10:32

Yep I'm the same. It's my birthday NYE and I've always hated it. Gives me terrible anxiety. Like I should be doing something amazing. Horrible day.

dooneyousmugelf · 31/12/2023 10:42

I find it so eerie! I don't like the countdown thing either, it feels like when you get to 1, the world might switch off or something.

PhillMichellsbrother · 31/12/2023 10:46

Hate it.

Not helped by the fact that every year gets worse for me, and there is no “new start” the same problems and worried over hang. I’ve got a consultant appointment on the 2nd, ffs, so that’s been on my mind constantly.

lollipoprainbow · 31/12/2023 10:49

Agree! The lovely bubble of Christmas feels well and truly burst on 1st Jan.

northeastnowhere · 31/12/2023 10:49

I don't hate it, but there are certain elements of it that are depressing if you let yourself think about them.
For me, I'm sad it marks the end of the 'ber' months I love so much. I'm happy in autumn- September to December. The onset of January marks the end of all that. By the time it all comes back it will be another year behind me. I celebrate NYE in a low key way. DH usually works but is off this year so I'm going to enjoy not spending it alone. I used to love it when I was younger and my parents had a party for friends and neighbours. Nowadays the idea of getting dressed up and going out is my idea of hell! A Chinese and a bottle to see the year in, then start the long trudge into bleak January!🤣❄️

moonlitwalks · 31/12/2023 10:52

I don't like it at all. There is always so much pressure to "have a good time" and it never lives up to expectations because it's been built up so much. Most people end up drunk, tired and emotional with a massive hangover the next day (the very same day they said would be the start of something amazing and new, and they start it feeling like crap lol). Nights out on light, warm, summer evenings are SO much more enjoyable and fun- less pressure and genuinely more enjoyable.

strugglingwithlife · 31/12/2023 10:53

Jeffsmeffsmiff · 31/12/2023 09:05

I don't know if I'm a bit of a weirdo but I just find it so totally depressing. All of it. Especially Jools Holland on the telly. It seems to be celebrating the end of the holidays, going back to work and the start of the absolute WORST period of the whole entire year - Jan and Feb. Ugh.
I have a friend who finds November depressing because of SAD but likes Jan because she can see the days getting longer. I'm the opposite. November has so much to look forward to that the dark evenings seem exciting to me. January is just flat, cold, grey, broke and LONG. 😭

I could have written this myself. Totally agree. Hate it. Hate NYE, don't see what there is to celebrate and I despise January

RicherThanYews · 31/12/2023 10:55

I loathe NYE but with good reason, my late mother was a violent and abusive alcoholic who would use NYE to be particularly vile to me. I remember her being so violent that I hid under my bed from her wrath. I've tried to make it cheerful with my husband and son by having wee parties etc but it just feels hollow. Nowadays I plan something nice for January instead, its good to have a positive focal point. (I'm going to a spa in a gorgeous manor 😁)

Willmafrockfit · 31/12/2023 10:58

jools holland is even filmed in november
that was disappointing to find that out!

OrangeBlossomsinthesun · 31/12/2023 10:58

I have had a crappy year with money worries, bereavements and so on and on TV it's all about who has died this year. I had gastroenteritis on Christmas day this year and so it just feels a bit miserable. Not in the mood to celebrate anything.

Justosaythis · 31/12/2023 10:58

Nights out on light, warm, summer evenings are SO much more enjoyable and fun- less pressure and genuinely more enjoyable.

I like NYE and New Year’s Day generally even in this dismal weather, but one of my favourite NYE was on a beach in Florida many years ago . If I remember correctly, no alcohol was allowed and it was a family friendly occasion and the weather was mild enough to be wearing sleeveless tops etc. hoping to be somewhere warm this time next year!

Interesting that some feel it takes a very optimistic or positive personality to be positive about New Years! I’d never thought of it that way, but hey I’ll take it 😂

NahHumBrag · 31/12/2023 11:01

I LOVE it! It’s not about going out for me - I stay home and get an early night - but I really love waking up fresh on NYD, going for a run and enjoying the start of a new year and all the promise it can bring.

January is great - crocus’ coming up, Spring on the way, longer and brighter days.

I loathe December and the build up to Christmas (but like this period of Twixmas)

Grimpo · 31/12/2023 11:27

January is just flat, cold, grey, broke and LONG.

But the days are starting to get longer rather than shorter, which in my book is a massive plus. It's also a time to plant what will ultimately be lovely flowers etc, with any luck snowdrops will start to appear, you've got all the stress of Christmas over and done with. Think positive!

diamondpony80 · 31/12/2023 11:28

I'm not a fan and would just watch TV and go to bed early if I could. Unfortunately having a Scottish DH who LOVES Hogmanay more than even Christmas we end up celebrating. I like starting a new year and don't mind January & February at all though - I just don't care to celebrate it.

MeinKraft · 31/12/2023 11:41

I don't like it either. My DH is a musician and loves music and he insists on putting on Jools Holland, the most depressing show of the year, and whatever absolute shite concert is on bbc1, followed by the equally depressing fireworks/drone display. I might have to tell him we are watching a movie tonight or go to bed. My mum died this year and I don't particularly want to look back on 2023 and listen to auld lang syne (which i also find maudlin)

gluenotsoup · 31/12/2023 11:43

I’m always a bit introspective on nye, feels like time is slipping by, but try to look both back and forwards and think about the possibilities and positives as well as the the things that were hard. New Year’s Day is like pressing reset for me. Time to make plans and changes, and actually make them happen. I’ve taught myself to look forward to January, and focus on the benefits, even little ones like early nights with a book, a tv series planned or cold walks and board games. Healthy hot food, a bit of self care , making plans and being positive about what the year might bring.
Maybe it’s just survival mode, because the things I worry about are still there but I have to try to make the best of the life I have and make it better where I can 🙂

JennyGracexx · 31/12/2023 11:43

I hate January too. I always feel sad once Christmas is over and feel there's nothing left to look forward to (even though my birthday is in Jan Grin). I also like when it gets dark early

PastKnives · 31/12/2023 11:47

MeinKraft · 31/12/2023 11:41

I don't like it either. My DH is a musician and loves music and he insists on putting on Jools Holland, the most depressing show of the year, and whatever absolute shite concert is on bbc1, followed by the equally depressing fireworks/drone display. I might have to tell him we are watching a movie tonight or go to bed. My mum died this year and I don't particularly want to look back on 2023 and listen to auld lang syne (which i also find maudlin)

We watched Jools for the first time last NYE and you're right - it's joy-sucking stuff!