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So fat….help

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FatFemale · 25/12/2023 19:24

Hello, i know its Christmas day and im currently lounging on my bed in elasticated pjs. We took some photos earlier at dinner and im disgusted by myself. Im so fat, have a double chin and currently size 18. Yes, ive eaten my body weight in Christmas chocs and yes i will continue to until 27th. How tf do i turn myself around? How do i become disciplined? Whats best way to start exercising? Ive school age kids (who wont go for a walk with me), im 42 and around 17 stone (so 7 stones to lose). I dont drink (alcohol free for past 7 years). Feel so shit with my body/mindset/lack of discipline & motivation

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olderbutwiser · 25/12/2023 19:26

What are your trigger foods/emotions? What leads you to being overweight? There are different solutions for different issues.

hashbrownsandwich · 25/12/2023 19:26

Slimming world.

Ulysees · 25/12/2023 19:29

Maybe joining slimming world might motivate you?

What are your weaknesses? I don't have a sweet tooth but like crisps and cheese.

Why not join a Mumsnet thread and maybe that might help?

I'm going to really cut down on amounts. I'd like to lose a couple of stone. It's not easy so be kind to yourself.

Jinglebellrocked · 25/12/2023 19:30

Have a gastric sleeve, read threads about it. You won’t regret it. £3k Dr Tamer in Egypt, I have maintained 7 stone loss for 4 years. Cured my horrendous binge eating

Lovemusic82 · 25/12/2023 19:35

I’m the same age as you, I have eaten way too much this week but I will go back to eating healthy after tomorrow.

I walk every day, my dc won’t walk, I walk without them, luckily I get time when dd2 is at school.

I meal plan, don’t buy any bad food, I just buy enough food each week for 2 meals a day and DD’s lunch box, no extra snacks other than fruit/veg.

I don’t follow any specific diet, I just don’t eat as much crap (I do have chocolate as a treat and the occasional take away). For me I need to exercise daily or I gain weight.

BelieveInYourElf · 25/12/2023 19:38

One step at a time. Go to the GP and ask to be referred to their healthy eating (or insert polite name for weight loss monitoring) nurse and follow their instructions. Include exercise in your week; force yourself to do this; I used to. You will be offered specialist support (tablets). Keep going. I used to do Slimming World as well. But I struggled to lose weight as there are genuine factors that make it very difficult. I begged for a referral to a bariatric team at the hospital and checked to see if I had any other 'problems' that qualified me. Eventually, I did (I was delighted!) and got my referral. Because I had done Tier 3, i.e. community, supported weight loss, I jumped in at Tier 4 and began the slow process to a surgery date. This took two years from the beginning of Tier 4, but I got there. With surgery, you will lose 60% of your excess weight. You are unlikely to lose 7 stone with a starting weight of 17, but you should get to 12. Surgery has its own post-surgery complications and difficulties, and eating will never be the same. Before you get anywhere close to eating your own weight in chocolates, you will feel full and unable to eat more, or you will try - and be very sick. You will have plenty of time to learn how to eat healthily again, keeping protein intake high and at the top of your needs, and sweet things will become too sweet for your body to cope with. On this journey, you must recognise your poor relationship with food and strive to change it to protect your second chance.

Whoopitywhoops · 25/12/2023 19:40

I have a similar amount of weight to lose. Send me a message if you'd like and we can motivate each other. I'm not worrying about it until the 2nd January.

Undineimmor · 25/12/2023 19:41

As with the poster above exercise and don't buy as much food. I am disgusted with myself although I gave had a bad injury but will be back on the straight and narrow from tomorrow. Luckily I am not that into food un general snd love fruit and vegetables.

LaahDeeDah · 25/12/2023 19:45

The one mindset thing that helped me was whenever I felt hungry to be OK with it. I tell myself hunger is my friend and that whenever I am hungry I must be loosing weight. Everything else is just good old calorie counting.

Exercise barely reduces any calories but it does make me feel good and that in turn makes me more able to be OK with the hunger in-between meals.

I hope you find something that works for you.

scoobydoo1971 · 25/12/2023 19:48

Say goodbye to carbohydrates for a while in the New Year. When I start piling on the weight due to Polycystic ovaries and other metabolic problems, I avoid crisps, bread, potato, and restrict eating to one big meal per day.

shearwater2 · 25/12/2023 19:50

FatFemale · 25/12/2023 19:24

Hello, i know its Christmas day and im currently lounging on my bed in elasticated pjs. We took some photos earlier at dinner and im disgusted by myself. Im so fat, have a double chin and currently size 18. Yes, ive eaten my body weight in Christmas chocs and yes i will continue to until 27th. How tf do i turn myself around? How do i become disciplined? Whats best way to start exercising? Ive school age kids (who wont go for a walk with me), im 42 and around 17 stone (so 7 stones to lose). I dont drink (alcohol free for past 7 years). Feel so shit with my body/mindset/lack of discipline & motivation

Well, don't do it today. Eat up all your leftovers and chocs and start in the New Year.

Make sustainable changes to diet and exercise, no crash diets.

Catsknowbest · 25/12/2023 19:51

Hey 😊 I've hit this problem in the past year especially since starting peri menopause. I bought an exercise bike and starred using the food recording app on my phone. I have taken a break over Xmas but even just going on my ex bike gives me motivation and makes me feel I am doing something positive

shearwater2 · 25/12/2023 20:03

You can make a big difference in year, just think this time next year how you would like to feel.

12 months ago I'd been going to a new gym for a month. Carried on but didn't really focus on diet until after a holiday in September. I even went to the gym yesterday on Christmas Eve. Today I put some size 14 sparkly trousers on which DDs bought for me last Christmas and fitted well on the waist then- you could have got another person in there with me today.

Ansjovis · 25/12/2023 20:10

The best way to start is by setting some small, achievable goals. Avoid the temptation to go all in and make loads of big changes at once because in all likelihood you will become overwhelmed and struggle to stick to it. You didn't become 7st overweight overnight and so it follows that losing the weight is not going to be a quick process. Slow and sustainable change will give you the best shot at losing it and keeping it off long term.

Can you post a typical day of food and drink intake? The more we know about your current situation the better advice we can give you.

Fundays12 · 25/12/2023 20:12

First of all enjoy what you ate today but cut back and make healthier choices from now on. Get out walk everyday, find an excersise you enjoy and do it. It's ok to over eat on Christmas day. It actually won't due a huge amount of damage if you counter it with healthy eating, excersise etc afterwards. I walk daily, do excersise classes 3 times a week and try make healthy good choices. Its easier if you meal plan and have lots of healthy alternatives in. It's not what you eat between Christmas and new year that matters that much it's what you eat and your lifestyle between new year and Christmas that count. Look at your triggers is good a reward?

bellac11 · 25/12/2023 20:15

I had a sleeve, have lost so far 80% of my excess weight and on track to lose all of it. I hope

Today is not the day to focus on it though, wait until life is back to normal, celebration times always involve a lot of food and it can be overwhelming so just relax now and afterwards you can look at what strategy you want to use to lose weight

MeOldeSainty666 · 25/12/2023 20:33

The only way is to learn to love yourself. I never knew what that meant before i discovered some guided hypnosis on youtube and started really caring about me. What i want, how do i feel, what is important to me, where is my joy in life..
I recommed Michael Sealey and Jason Stephenson. Start today. Listen at bedtime. Every night for at least two weeks. You don't need discipline and being strict. The right choices will come

Dartmoorcheffy · 25/12/2023 20:36

Keto diet is a great way to kick off weight loss and encourage you.

Ulysees · 25/12/2023 20:37

Do you like porridge op? That fills you up for hours. I use full fat milk and a bit of honey a tiny bit of salt. I need to get back into eating it as lost a few pounds when I had it regularly.
You can make it with water but not that nice imo.

Bdaybdilemma · 25/12/2023 20:46

What worked for me was the Fiit app and dumbbells. Seeing it as gaining muscle, adding something to my life, rather than restricting and punishing myself.

supercatlady · 25/12/2023 20:48

I’m in a similar boat, but size 20. Going through menopause and so tired all the time, despite HRT. On blood pressure medication too. Asked GP what is available and they said I need to make another appointment. My BMI is 39.4. Practice nurse text to say I’m slightly overweight and suggested I do a weight loss programme Olio. I put on a few lbs.

Ulysees · 25/12/2023 20:51

supercatlady · 25/12/2023 20:48

I’m in a similar boat, but size 20. Going through menopause and so tired all the time, despite HRT. On blood pressure medication too. Asked GP what is available and they said I need to make another appointment. My BMI is 39.4. Practice nurse text to say I’m slightly overweight and suggested I do a weight loss programme Olio. I put on a few lbs.

Are you taking magnesium and vitamin D? I've gone through meno and had to come off hrt. Magnesium 5 in 1 really boosts my energy. And drinking plenty of water.

LollipopViolet · 25/12/2023 20:57

I'm in the same boat - size 18, and I'm 5 foot 1. I'm 34 and I hate how I look. I have a holiday in May and am determined to lose at least 2 stone before it. Slimming World worked for me previously but every time I've done it I ended up putting more weight on after I stopped. I'm thinking of going back to adding veg and portion control and seeing how that goes.

Touty · 25/12/2023 20:59

Low carb.

marychristmas44 · 25/12/2023 21:01

Also at this point. In the new year im planning on:

Daily exercise (taking up a fitness challenge with friends for accountability)

Calorie counting

Not snacking

Dry January

It's a drastic change and I probably won't manage them all but anything will be better than the current state of affairs.