Am I a poser for wearing things that are outrageously more expensive than what I normally wear?

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Happy Christmas to those who celebrate,

My question is:
although I have a great job that pays well and live comfortably however I'm not a someone one would identify as wealthy, I live very frugally (lucky to be able to put away a large portion of my income) and I don't shop often usually wear bargain stuffs and not ashamed wear them again and again sometimes for years. However when I really really love something (which happen extremely rarely) I would try my best to save up and buy them. Therefore over the years I acquired a Rolex, a set of earrings and necklace with colour stones similar to the watch that was over 100k quid (sorry for being crass, just trying to paint the picture better), and an bejeweled Judith Lieber clutch... literally the only expensive stuffs that I own. Wore them to formal occasions maybe over 20 times each already (in variations; sometimes the watch and earrings, necklace only, earrings and purse etc.) they look flashy and expensive but that's not why I bought them, purely because I like their appearances.

But recently I read an comment online (not here but on other site, a fashion forum) that what I've been doing is actually 'wrong' because I don't normally wear items that are in that price range or socialize with people whose median income think those are acceptable purchases (eventhough my friends generally dressed in more expensive clothes than I do and they buy new clothes all the time) do you think I'm a poser?

no it's not the Alhambra, which I love and I have a bracelet just like that from Etsy 😆

Most people won't notice or care. Sometimes I meet people who obviously have money and dress incredibly well. But it's down to the whole package; materials, stitching of clothes etc. Plenty of people with very ordinary incomes have an investment piece like a nice watch. I'm sure many have fakes too.

I think it’s quite hard to tell if something is truly expensive. Fakes and costume jewellery can look so good nowadays that unless you know a lot about these things (most people don’t), study it very carefully or are told by the owner most people wouldn’t know what it’s value is.
If you’re not shoving it in peoples faces and going on about where it was from or how much it cost nobody you meet is going to know or care.
My most expensive jewellery is the most understated things I own.

Everyone varies in what they like to buy.

I'm not interested in watches and just wear a simple gold band and gold necklace with pendant.

I wouldn't have a clue if something was expensive or cheap so I wouldn't notice.

I wouldn't think you were a poser, because it would never occur to me that a normal person would be wearing 100K worth of jewellery. I'd just assume it were costume jewellery (not that I'd be thinking about it)

If I knew it cost 100K I'd think you were ridiculous.

Do what you please OP..

I wouldn’t notice or add up the price of what my friends wear. I have white gold diamond studs in my ears and I expect my friends assume they’re quartz or crystal because I don’t tell them. I doubt it’s even crossed their mind.

I guess if you’re wearing lots of bling and you’re not at the met gala, people may assume you’re a drug dealer 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

Same here, unless the price ticket was still on I'd have no idea what you were wearing g so would give it no thought at all

I would have no clue what they cost unless you told me.
For that price I would want huge diamonds!

Of course not. We all have different things we want to spend our money on. Some people spend on holidays, some on their house, some on their children’s education, some on designer wear. You have not thrown the money away but spent the money on something you love and is an asset that has a value. How dare anyone else tell you how to spend your money or judge you for your choices? Life is very short so enjoy. Nobody on their death bed looks back and goes I wish I hadn’t worn that jewellery. They think, ‘why on earth didn’t I wear it more!?’

To be fair also this. My prescription sunglasses cost £600. And my glasses more than that. Horrendous prescription, astigmatism, the lot. They are always the most expensive thing I am wearing
😀

I don't think you have done anything wrong at all OP. In my mind though you must be wealthy to be able to save 100k on jewellery and assuming you've bought a house.

It's your money and you should enjoy it!

No. You're clearly not a poser if you live frugally and dress let's say, casually. I do find it very strange that you don't have a middle ground, though. Since you're asking for opinions. Like there's no middle ground: bargain clothes and then jewellery worth a literal house in some areas. Eccentric but you do you.

Can I ask what is it you're putting away most of your income for? Shopping in charity shops yet you own £100k of jewellery? Is your mortgage paid off? are you saving for something?
Not what I would spend £100k on personally.

To add if you dress like that I'd assume your jewellery was fakes.

Don't be silly. This is an anonymous thread so the op isn't getting any kudos. She's giving context. You just sound bitter

If you like beautiful things you really can't be worrying about fakes. Everything is faked but if you own the real things the pleasure is in the quality. A cheap bit of shite metal shaped the same doesn't feel the same to wear any more than some copy of an Hermes

I had cataracts and had to have them removed and the best thing about the whole process (well, apart from having my sight restored) was them correcting my short-sightedness and me not needing to fork out 500 quid for glasses and 500 quid for prescription sunglasses. Oh the joy, of being able to buy and wear normal sunglasses...

Off topic really - but felt I had to sympathize with you about the cost of the damn things!

As for the 100k jewellery - well to be honest, people can buy what they want and wear what they want. I still think it's a ridiculous waste of money but if it makes you happy and brings you joy then go for it. However, I'd not have a damn clue that the items cost 100k so I wouldn't think you were a poser because I'd have no idea they weren't just costume jewellery or what I would consider expensive jewellery in the 1K range.

I live with my parents by choice and rented my property which mortgage has been paid off. I do go on holidays just rather infrequently

Oh stop it. Most Rolex's are very discreet. You just sound passive aggressive

A poser is done one who wears things for the admiration of other people. Just having and wearing nice things doesn't make you a poser.

The sad cousin of the poser is the loser. The people who passive aggressively say things like 'they are tacky anyway' or 'looks exactly like something I bought in Claire's'.

You wear your lovely things and enjoy ☺️

But no one knows if you bought the items new, secondhand, or if they were gifts, inherited or borrows, or even stolen or counterfeit/fakes and some people won't even know they are prestigious brands or luxury items.

Wear whatever you want.

I wouldn't be paying much attention to what my friends were wearing beyond it looking nice or not.

Unless they were drawing my attention to the brand of their jewellery I wouldn't have a clue. Privately think they were silly if they told me they were wearing £100k of jewellery one day, but I know it's their choice and if £100k on some jewellery brings them joy it's not my place to say otherwise.

I don't think most people really pay that much attention to what people wear so you might as well wear what you love.

No way !
Your friend spend their money on
poafs of clothes you save and buy certain pieces . Each to their own .

You work hard it’s your money .
Do as you please .
Anyoen who says yes is just jealous / envious