Am I a poser for wearing things that are outrageously more expensive than what I normally wear?

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Happy Christmas to those who celebrate,

My question is:
although I have a great job that pays well and live comfortably however I'm not a someone one would identify as wealthy, I live very frugally (lucky to be able to put away a large portion of my income) and I don't shop often usually wear bargain stuffs and not ashamed wear them again and again sometimes for years. However when I really really love something (which happen extremely rarely) I would try my best to save up and buy them. Therefore over the years I acquired a Rolex, a set of earrings and necklace with colour stones similar to the watch that was over 100k quid (sorry for being crass, just trying to paint the picture better), and an bejeweled Judith Lieber clutch... literally the only expensive stuffs that I own. Wore them to formal occasions maybe over 20 times each already (in variations; sometimes the watch and earrings, necklace only, earrings and purse etc.) they look flashy and expensive but that's not why I bought them, purely because I like their appearances.

But recently I read an comment online (not here but on other site, a fashion forum) that what I've been doing is actually 'wrong' because I don't normally wear items that are in that price range or socialize with people whose median income think those are acceptable purchases (eventhough my friends generally dressed in more expensive clothes than I do and they buy new clothes all the time) do you think I'm a poser?

Wear whatever you want if you can afford buying them.

No I don’t think you’re a poser. And few people will have any idea how expensive those things are.

If it's 100k V&A is it the high jewellery collection? Or multiple motifs?

Tbh I think to me a poser is someone trying to dress a certain way / portray a certain lifestyle and post it all over social media, not someone who buys and wears nice things.

I wear my fancy watches and jewellery most days, it's not being a poser - it's wearing things I've bought!

It depends if the people you are with could tell if the things you have are expensive and if they are, could they know the approximate price. I would have absolutely no idea about designer stuff and their prices so what you'd wear could not affect me in the slightest.

Who cares? Wear what you like.

I have heard of Rolex but have no idea what one looks like. Never heard of the other two brands so wouldn't recognise any of your items as expensive. So I wouldn't think you were posing because I wouldn't realise anything you were wearing was pose-worthy.

No, you do what you want.

I would like to see piccies of the necklace though 😁

Why do you care what other people might think? Presumably you get a lot of joy from wearing them and owning them, and that is all that matters. Don’t let worrying about other people steal your pleasure in them

I am deliberately a poser when I need to be!

I really don't go for designer labels (except that I love Lucy and Yak, which is hardly the same sort of thing) but I have a Mulberry bag which is either genuine or an undetectable fake - I have never bothered to find out.

The very rich people I know never dress up in the day time, so if I need to look posh* I just wear normal clothes, but sling my precious bag around as if it meant nothing to me. I do think one good accessory makes an outfit! So I am a total poser....

*For very high end mystery shopping. Otherwise I am posh enough not to care 👹

I meant to say, though, that when I mystery shopped solitaire rings that cost anything up to £500k I realised I would never wear them - I'd be too scared of getting attacked. I don't think I would wear £100k jewellery either!

Can we see the jewellery? I would be interested in seeing what you have bought for that amount in the light of your post. Where do you wear it to?

Where what you want.

Of course some people will think you are a poser. You are going out with 100k of jewellery on. To events where people are not wearing those sorts of things. Wearing them all at once may just look like you are trying to hard.

But do those people matter? If you aren’t wearing them to try and illicit a certain response from people what does their response matter.

I work in a shop
Because my son has sn and I like to work . This suits
Me . My dh has an amazing job which makes me much much more wealthy than my Friends at work ..

I don't wear my
Diamonds to work or my fancy watch but I agree a lot of designer stuff looks fake anyways and if it didn't
Match your perceived income level then I'd presume fake .

Anyways juts do what you want and don't overthink it .

Well this is the other thing. You are correct. Many people won’t notice.

A lot of people won’t instantly clock it’s a Rolex. And depending on the environment people may assume the jewellery isn’t genuine. So won’t think Op is a poser at all.

It's not the Alhambra I hope that is being copied all over the place and reproduced cheaply?

https://lulub.co.uk/products/clover-necklace-with-mother-of-pearl-short-rose-gold?variant=41577555984516&currency=GBP&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIqIumrKargwMVzZFQBh3ulwXOEAQYAiABEgIk5fD_BwE

Rolex's are so gauche but it really doesn't matter what I or anyone else thinks.

Tbh I wouldn’t even notice - I just had a google and some of the stuff looks like the most recent line they had in Pandora and my local jewellers. Most people are probably like me and wouldn’t know either that it was expensive and wouldn’t care.

I’d argue that if YOU feel like a poser if your expensive jewellery (or anything you own that’s insanely priced - given you felt the need to post about it) that says more about how you feel about yourself than anything. The fact that you’ve felt like you had to comment on what your social circle wear normally and made clear it’s £100K worth of jewellery (instead of just saying the make - which would have been a less ‘showy’ way of demonstrating wealth) implies you probably are a poser.

If you love something and it makes you happy, where it as often or as little as you like. Some people will be into that and clock what you you're sporting. Others, like me, will wear no jewellery at all and have not a clue. Neither reaction matters. The older I get, the clearer that is.

I think it's up to you what you purchase and what you wear and I'd never judge you for spending more than you outwardly appear to be able to on fashion.

But what I can tell you is that unless your entire look is 'elevated', and by that I mean good healthy skin and hair, neat clean nails, an overall healthy 'glow', expertly applied natural makeup etc then your handbag ain't worth shit because people will just assume you are carrying around a fake Phuket knock off.

To me that would be way way more embarrassing than just being head to toe in Primark with the bag to match, but owning it.

I'm with the people that wouldn't even notice. If you took the time to tell me how expensive your jewellery is I would think you are showy because who does that but otherwise I wouldn't have a clue what bag or necklace you have.

I sometimes think that it's a bit incongruous to wear a £15 pair of trousers, and £350 sunglasses

You won't when you get older. Have you seen the price of varifocals?

Money talks Wealth whispers. Why on earth would you tell anyone much less an online forum what you paid? Wear it or don't wear it do what you want?? Who cares about opinions?

I wouldn't even notice probably.

But I'd probably think they were fake if I did.

I'm quite interested in what people wear but I really wouldn't have a clue OP and imagine the vast majority of people would be the same.

Or just decent prescription sunglasses in general. I put glasses/sunglasses on every day that cost more than my entire outfit. But you know, seeing is worth it.

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