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Us dp taking the piss

65 replies

Windmill34 · 25/12/2023 14:15

Around 11am do day he announcing
“ what time Can I go and see mum “ I’ll only stay 30 mins and get back as I feel guilty leaving you to it “
mum lives 40 mins drive away in care home
so he would if got there 12.10pm

I know he’s messaged his sister to ask her what time she is going (they both call each other and don’t really speak)

it’s now 2.15 pm and he’s not back !
im getting angry by the minute

Tomorrow he’s announced he’s going to tennis which will be 3 hrs

He can be a selfish git at times
good job there’s no kids

OP posts:
cansu · 25/12/2023 14:18

I would imagine going to see your mum in a care home on Xmas day is quite tricky. It would be hard to stay just 30 mins and leave again.

cansu · 25/12/2023 14:19

Isn't it a bit selfish for you to begrudge his mum a visit on Xmas day?

Oppositioblue · 25/12/2023 14:20

His mum is in a care home and you think he’s a selfish git? When else is he supposed to go. Personally, unless something else is going on, have a word with yourself and give your head a wobble. Being in a care home could mean she’s not here this time next year. If he’s back in an hour or so you’ve got the rest of the day.

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TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 25/12/2023 14:20

He’s visiting his elderly mum in a care home.

Yeah, what cunt…

gamerchick · 25/12/2023 14:22

I don't understand your boggle. Why didn't you go with him? You've no kids, the house to yourself for a bit.

Unless you're hosting a hoard and have been left to all the prep.

Goodlard · 25/12/2023 14:22

Is this for real? You're upset he is spending too long visiting his mum?

TedMullins · 25/12/2023 14:24

What’s the issue? You’re the selfish git here, not him

Floopani · 25/12/2023 14:25

That he even had to ask what time he could go and see her is quite sad to be honest. YABU.

justalittlesnoel · 25/12/2023 14:26

I don't think it's selfish to see his mum in a care home at Christmas, but the lack of clear communication is a bit annoying.

MonsteraMama · 25/12/2023 14:26

Oh yeah, what a dick, going to visit his elderly mother in a care home on Christmas day. Grade A wanker.

Unless there's going to be a massive drip feed that you're catering for 20 and he's left it all to you, you need to find a grip and grab it.

User1775 · 25/12/2023 14:26

You've not got dc and his dm is in a fucking care home! What's wrong with you? You sound like a total brat

Sparklfairy · 25/12/2023 14:27

You haven't got kids and want him there with you instead of seeing his mum in a care home?

Someone in this relationship is selfish but I don't think it's him...

NestaArcheron · 25/12/2023 14:30

Yeah he isn't the issue here

margotrose · 25/12/2023 14:32

Why can't he see his mum for a few hours on Christmas Day?

Nicknacky · 25/12/2023 14:35

Are you hosting or supposed to go somewhere?

ChristmasCracker23 · 25/12/2023 14:37

He can be a selfish git at times

He’s not the selfish one here, his mum is in a care home, you have no children, go figure…

PickAChew · 25/12/2023 14:41

The problem is not that he's visiting his mum, is it? It's the fact that he's sprung this on OP without any prior communication and claimed that he won't be very long, giving an unrealistic time line.

Goodlard · 25/12/2023 14:47

PickAChew · 25/12/2023 14:41

The problem is not that he's visiting his mum, is it? It's the fact that he's sprung this on OP without any prior communication and claimed that he won't be very long, giving an unrealistic time line.

The problem is visiting your DM in a care home, you need to consider how she will feel, how much longer she'll be around......

I mean dinner being later is hardly an issue!

Maybe when OPs in a care home she may feel differently?

SelectiveParticipation · 25/12/2023 14:55

Tomorrow he’s announced he’s going to tennis which will be 3 hrs

So? Are your hips joint? No sorry, they are not, then you would have gone with him to visit his mum.

TypicalCoach · 25/12/2023 15:14

Jesus christ it could be his mothers last Christmas but your pent out of shape because your not the first priority.
3 hours out of 24 spent playing tennis and your upset god what a precious little thing you are .

But no, you must be the centre of attention at all times.

onlyoneoftheregimentinstep · 25/12/2023 15:19

I'm with the OP. He's had all year to plan the timings of his visit to his DM. It's not reasonable to spring it on her on Xmas morning, with a completely unrealistic time frame.

Kwasi · 25/12/2023 15:20

He's a little selfish for not considering a Christmas visit to his mum until the actual day. He's a silly sausage if he knew he was going but forgot to mention if. You're incredibly selfish to object to him seeing his mum in a care home on Christmas day.

HalloweenIsDone · 25/12/2023 15:21

For me I wouldn't be that he's gone to visit. It would be the bad planning of it all. Although I would preempt it and have asked him to make arrangements ages ago.

MeinKraft · 25/12/2023 15:22

I'd dump you as quick as a flash if you objected to me visiting an elderly relative at Christmas.

SequentialAnalyst · 25/12/2023 15:22

Of course he should see his DM on Christmas Day, if they both want him to. However, it would surely need planning anyway. For example, what time is lunch in the care home?
If that had been known in advance, then he, his sister, and you could have planned the rest of your Christmas Day so that everyone is happy.

I would not be pleased. And I wouldn't be too chuffed about the tennis, either!