WWYD-Had neighbours parcel for 4 weeks

[HalliwellManor]

So,new build estate,we all moved in middle of this year,don't really know the neighbours apart from the lady right next door to me.Not long after we moved in,postman knocks my door and says can I take a parcel for one of the neighbours as they arent in? (the back of their house is at the side of my mine),I said yes,no problem.Few days later they came and collected it from me,no thankyou just took it and left.Few weeks later,same thing happens again.

4 weeks ago,same thing happens again,neighbour not in can I take 2 parcels for them again?.I was a bit pissed off as id been on a night shift and was woken by him knocking the door with these bloody parcels,I agreed and Postman says he will pop a note through their door as usual saying parcels are at mine for them to collect.
They still haven't collected them!,they're small (feels like an item of clothing or something) so not in my way or anything but I'm thinking why should I have to go and knock their door and say "here's your parcels"if they can't be arsed to come and collect them.
Am I being an arse?
I can't find a senders address as it looks like they were delivered somewhere else first (maybe their old address)and have been re-directed to their new one.
I just think why should I have to take it to them?,surely they should collect from me?
I won't be taking in any more parcels for them in the future either!
WWYD?

How difficult is it to take it round? Then it's out of your house and your head.

I think the onus is always on the parcels owner to collect it rather than yours to redeliver it.

Except often the parcels owner doesn’t know where it’s gone. The vast majority of people who order something actually want it rather than to play a game with their neighbours

I can’t believe you’ve kept someone’s parcel for 4 weeks. I thought this thread was going to be that you’d misplaced it and hadn’t taken it round and were mortified.. I didn’t expect you would be keeping it ransom.. 😂

Honestly OP, stop giving this non issue headspace. Take it round. Next time they ask, politely refuse.

It’s not that serious.

I’ve never left a neighbours name as someone to leave parcels with and I’ve still had parcels left with neighbours before. Even neighbours I’ve never even met.

I had this happen once. The problem was that the delivery man hadn't told the neighbour which house he'd left their parcel at! So I was sat with their parcel waiting for them to collect it, but they'd tried knocking on several doors and had no idea that it was with me across the road! I felt awful! Now I always drop it to the neighbours, in case the same thing has happened.

Omg the pettiness

Also "hours of disrupted leisure time" whats wrong with you🤣

"Then hand them back the parcel so they know you're deadly serious"

🤣

That isn't true. I've never given a neighbour's address as an alternative delivery place and parcels still get delivered there if I'm not in and they can't be left on the doorstep.

there is a very good chance they've not had a delivery slip or not seen it. I would have taken it round weeks ago.

Put a message board out when you've worked nights and are sleeping. I have one for when I'm obviously home but in a meeting that can't be interrupted.

I'm sorry for your loss op

Yy to taking the parcel round but (and I appreciate it's petty) I'd be annoyed about having to do that as well!

Just take it round and tell them you can't do it again. Also tell post people you are not taking it in.

Our street is very good at taking in the occasional parcel for other people. Think postie just goes round all the doors if he can't get a response for the recipient

'multiple excursions'
'weeks of disrupted leisure time'

Do you live on a mountain and your nearest neighbour lives on the next mountain? In my life an 'excursion' to take a parcel entails a 30-second trot over/up/down the road. My leisure time generally recovers.

If it takes you 30 seconds then fine, you go ahead and do it as often as you want.

Finding shoes, coat, keys etc takes time, and your 30 seconds is ridiculous unless your plan would be to knock and then head home without waiting for long enough for someone to hear the knock and make it to the door. More like 5 minutes minimum for the whole operation and yes doing it once is fine and I wouldn't begrudge it but when neighbours are always out you are talking about doing it 40 times before you strike it lucky.

If they are small I would put them back in the post box. I would also refuse to take any more parcels for them

neighbours have been good enough to take in your parcel, you go and collect it, not expect them to inconvenience themselves even more be delivering it

It happened to me and I went round with it and the neighbour wasn't in, so I just went back with a postcard saying 'Got your parcel at number x, come round and get it'. Turned out they hadn't received an 'attempted delivery' message.

I didn't realise my postie wasn't leaving cards until he didn't leave one for me - I got a photo saying my parcel had been delivered, he'd actually given it to next door who dropped it round a couple of hours later.

I said a silent apology to my neighbour who like yours, had neglected to collect a parcel a couple of times - clearly she hadn't known about it!

I think particularly with RM being a shitshow at the moment, cut them some slack, they might not realise you have it. But also, tell the postie you can't take parcels in anymore as you work nights.

The postman goes round knocking on random doors when someone's not in and leaves parcel with whoever accepts it. There are no named persons where I live.

I think many people would prefer parcels not to be left with anyone and have it returned to post office or redelivered but there's no option that says "do not leave parcel at any other address".

Yes there is. Royal Mail will give you a sticker to put on your letterbox if you want to opt out of the whole charade with being a post office service for your neighbours and vice versa

https://www.royalmail.com/personal/receiving-mail/delivery-to-neighbour-opt-out

Maybe they didn't get the note so don't know they're there. Just pop over, it would take less time then posting this thread.

Four weeks? Just take it round fgs 😆
And just say no in future

I'd take the parcels to their door and wouldn't think anything of it or be annoyed 🤷‍♀️ On the other hand I always say thank you when my neighbours take parcels in for me. Were they unfriendly? Or friendly but just didn't say thanks? Sometimes people who are nervous socially realise afterwards they've not said the socially appropriate thing in the moment, even though the thought/emotion was there (I'm people)

I would drop them off. They probably don’t know you have them.

The postie probably didn't leave a card. Just drop tge parcel round and, in future, don't accept any more parcels for others

I take in my neighbours parcels and feed the cat for them because my children are noisy you however shouldn't bother!

First of all your not on anyone's list for taking in parcels, there aren't lists. My postie will leave parcels with whichever person in the street answers the door, none of us know each other and haven't elected to have our parcels left.
Secondly the postie probably hasn't put a card through their letterbox so they probably don't know where to collect it from. Especially as every other time they've collected in a timely fashion.
Thirdly you've been very unreasonable not taking it round to them for 4 weeks!!
Fourthly surely you didn't need to ask strangers on the internet what to do?