Don't know if we should give DS condoms or not

[Monkeybrains192]

He's 14, in year 10. He's had a girlfriend for a few months now. They'll both be 15 next month. We've had lots of chats with him about sex, we've said he should really wait until they're both 16, he says they're not having sex yet and we asked him to come to us if that's going to change.

Should we get him some condoms though or will he see that as a green light from us? Can you tell this is our first teenager!

Give him condoms now.
Get his dad to explain the importance of how to fit it properly.

Buy them put them in his room. He's not going to take from the drawer in your bedroom.

My,now very adult, sons were given condoms aged 14 and always reminded
" wear a condom"

In which case they need condoms.

I was 14 my first time, in a long term relationship (we split up aged 18), and they will do it if they feel like it. I say get the condoms, the easier it is to get hold of them the more chance there is they will use them. I don't feel comfortable with the term "poor girl" used in a previous post, I was just as much in charge of the decision as my bf was at that time to have sex. I don't regret it, we had a great relationship. So long as you've had conversations around consent, responsibilities and boundaries and the age of consent, you're doing a good job.

To add to my previous comments, l became sexually active around my 15th birthday. I can’t remember if l was 14 or 15 at the time. All l do remember was that my hormones were bubbling.

I did not “lose” my virginity. Northing was lost, that is rubbish sexist male generated speak.

Before people start mud slinging, l am now in my 40s with a professional job and no unplanned pregnancies.

The first liaison with boyfriend was planned like a military operation, elder sister provided the condoms and demonstrated with a courgette.

Mum was annoyed when she first found out. Not that l was having sex, but that l hadn’t confided in her. After that, she was supportive on the contraception front. Her advice: If something is not making you feel nice, stop doing it.

I hope other parent’s will follow mum’s example.

DH has bought DS (17) condoms as he's meeting up with a girl soon. Best being matter of fact about it and being prepared. Not talking is when disasters happen.

Buy a packet and then find a drawer in the bathroom to leave them in and make sure he knows they're there so he can use them if he wants to.
Make sure they aren't in an unsealed packet so he doesn't need to worry that it's obvious if he's used one as the packet would be open or something like that.

If he doesn't need them, no problem, but they are there for if he does.

They are both underage so technically they would both be having sex with a minor, he is not more culpable because he is a boy ,why do posters comecout with this shit?

Zombie thread 😉

GET THE CONDOMS!!
seriously though - they will have sex. Better to give the protection and avoid any STD or pregnancy.
it won’t be a green light, it will just mean that when it happens (if not already) they can be safe.
I was sexually active from 15 and my mum thought I wasn’t but still encouraged me to go to our local sexual health clinic to get free condoms and birth control

Just realised this is a zombie thread.. why though?

When I had teenagers, I left a basket of "stuff" obvious in the bathroom. Tampons, paracetamol, wipes, condoms, breath mints...things that they or visitors might need.