How long were you with DH/DP before babies came along?

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Wondering what the average is. If you could, would you change it and try sooner, or have more time as a couple?

Stupidly got with a friend who I'd known for many years, and we started to try for a baby after about 4 months. He turned out to be an awful partner, then shifted into being outright abusive. I already had 1 DC from a previous relationship and thought he was a safe pair of hands who I could complete my little family with. I absolutely cringe when people have asked me this question in real life, and fudge the dates because in hindsight it was so fucking stupid of me!

I have heard that it's a good idea to get a pet with someone before having babies with them as you can see their parenting style, how they cope with responsibility etc. before having an actual child.

First dc after 5 years together. 2nd dc 3 years later. Married after 11 years. 31 years together this year.

19 years. Started trying after 14.

3 Years with DC1, DC2 followed 4 Years later and got married somewhere in the middle

25 years. We were told we shouldn't be able to conceive after four failed obvs 20 years ago. Last year at the respective ages of 44 (me) and dh 50 I had a little baby boy totally natural conception and apart from GDM and other age related complications it was a fairly straightforward pregnancy and ds was born strong and healthy weight 8lb 7oz ar 37 weeks

DC1 was born 2yrs 11 months after DH and I met and 12 months after our wedding day

Several years by choice, we wanted to get life ‘sorted’ first in terms of house and career etc. However I wish we had kids a bit earlier now as I realise none of the other stuff really matters and I think I’d have more energy now if I was younger 🤣

Congratulations

DS1 was born 2 weeks before the end of our first year together 😆

Not at all planned of course but we were young and in love. We were engaged after 2 weeks and married after 2 years together.

Still together 22 years later.

14 years. not through choice. But cherish every day we got together on our own

I was with my ex husband for 10 months when we married, but we had been friends for 18 months before, I fell pregnant (planned) 6 months after our wedding.

3 years, I was 34 and he was 32.

We got together at 19, it was 10 years untill we started TTC, had our first 9 months later.

Within two years. I'd rather have waited, but we met when I was 39, married at 40. So not a lot of time to waste!

2 years, a year after we got married i got pregnant. We wanted at least 3 kids though and I was 27 when we got married, dh was 35.

With my ex I fell pregnant just a few months in despite being on the pill. We'd been together 13 months by the time she came along, we were both pretty young and it was really hard.

With DH it looks like it'll be forever as we haven't been able to have kids in the 10+ years we've been together and I'm 42 with health issues now. He's an amazing stepdad though.

Eight years. We met in our 20’s and knew that we needed to mature before having children, especially me!

13 years but 8 of those were university years and 3 were ttc and pregnancy

We dated for less than a year, got married, had sex for first time on honeymoon and had first child 9 months later!!