Dealing with very competitive school mum

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I thought my daughters bfs mum wanted to be friends. However only wants to meet for a cuppa to chat about my daughter, her extracurriculars, what she's doing in school etc.. Anything she finds out my child is doing she gets her daughter into by hook or crook.
For context both are top sets. Other mum left very high powered job & is very wealthy. Her dc's appear to be her projects.
I feel like she sees me & my daughters as rivals!

I agree with this.

I think this is less "another mum is competitive" as opposed to "I like to feel my DC are doing the most, favoured the most, and I'm pissed that someone else is competing with that"

I think it's quite hard to describe but the general air is that her dc is brightest & best & woe betide anyone who gets in the way 🙄 It's an air of passive aggressiveness. Most parents would not have an iota or even care who the teachers favourite was or is & are even less likely to say it to the child's parent.

My older dc has a child in his class who gets picked for everything going but it's obvious why, he's articulate, musical, very confident at public speaking & he's obviously a safe choice as he's reliable. I wouldn't dream of saying to his parents he was teachers favourite!

Sounds like a snide comment on her part I would avoid her

Which is exactly why she said it. Not because it's actually true. Though bless you for thinking it was true

So how did you respond to her when she told you this gem - what did you say?

@isittimetoflounceyet I said that's the first I've heard of it! Since it was!

Harp lessons aren't actually a bad idea. It guarantees an additional income stream every Saturday from March-September and then again for Christmas throughout University and adulthood if they're halfway decent at it.

This is all swept away in the teen years. It’s a great leveller. Parents tend to be kinder to each other because our power over our kids is essentially gone and we are all one phone call away from disaster.

I have seen little swotty perfect Peters bin their numerous activities and school work habit and choose vaping in town and worse.

Have some fun. Start talking about rediscovering your DH's "Celtic roots" so your DD will be looking for a good bagpipe teacher and Scottish dancing classes. Or DD is keen to try axe-throwing. Or you did a DNA test and found some Polynesian/Madagascan/somewhere exotic heritage so you are keen to explore that. I would love doing this - shame my DC are adults.