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What is your biggest regret?

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Whatsmyusername1235 · 05/12/2023 18:54

What have you done that you regret the most? I’m just sat at home feeling sorry for myself and very regretful about something I’ve done recently. What would you take back if you could?

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mrsla1 · 05/12/2023 22:41

Also stayed with my nan on her deathbed but decided to go home early hours of the morning, as I had a newborn DS at the time. Nan passed about an hour after I left. Everyone tells me it's what she would have wanted, not for me to stay and watch her die but I always feel I should have been with her right until the end.

EducatingArti · 05/12/2023 22:41

My childhood!

alwaysmovingforwards · 05/12/2023 22:44

cardibach · 05/12/2023 20:20

Nothing.
Regret is pointless. All the choices I’ve made led me to who I am now. To regret anything suggests I don’t like myself. I do.

Same.
I've made mistakes, but no regrets.

starlightcan · 05/12/2023 22:46

Libre2 · 05/12/2023 22:41

Sorry to say, but having children. They are 13 and 15 so it's not like it's a recent thing.

Why do you regret it? (No kids here so just curious)

BeyondMeasure · 05/12/2023 22:46

Giving my Dc their father's name.

It's a bloody awful name and I really want to change it but I can't legally and he will never agree.

RomeoOscarXrayXray · 05/12/2023 22:50

cardibach · 05/12/2023 20:20

Nothing.
Regret is pointless. All the choices I’ve made led me to who I am now. To regret anything suggests I don’t like myself. I do.

This is almost exactly how I feel.

I've had some horrific things happen in my life but I can't regret any of them because they all add up to me now, and I like myself!

bonzaitree · 05/12/2023 22:51

Not many big ones to be fair…. YET haha 🙈

Lovethistimeofyear · 05/12/2023 22:52

I regret going to meet my biological father in my 20’s. It caused my mum so much hurt and made her feel so insecure. At the time I thought she was being unreasonable but as a mother now, I understand.

There are other things that I would have done differently had I known what I know now. But not regret as such.

Jessforless · 05/12/2023 22:53

Not having a third child, too old now and think about it all the time.

Devilsmommy · 05/12/2023 22:55

JamSandle · 05/12/2023 20:22

If only everyone lived twice. Once to make all the mistakes and once more to make some new ones!

☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️

madamepresident · 05/12/2023 22:55

Not going to uni
Getting in a lot of debt when I was younger

Sunflower8848 · 05/12/2023 23:00

Not comforting my sister when she was upset, she hung herself a few hours later.

Bigcoatweather · 05/12/2023 23:00

cockwomble73 · 05/12/2023 20:00

Failed to establish a meaningful career.

I've always worked in jobs that fit around the family, and now it is too late. Shame really because I'm pretty bright and think I could've done well at many things!

I’m late 40s, teen DCs and finishing an MSc and about to start a great and challenging new job. It hasn’t been plain sailing, but if I can do it, you can do it!

Ladylacklustre · 05/12/2023 23:02

A couple of key things. not listening to my dad when he tried to gently warn me off my exh. I ploughed on and ignored the fact that he had no career, no qualifications and fragile mental health. I thought that because he was kind and gentle that was enough, turns out it wasn’t and now we are divorced and I am struggling to bring up three children with almost no financial support from him.

it has affected my career, where I live, my friendships and my relationships since my marriage ended. I will always regret it I think.

PosyPrettyToes · 05/12/2023 23:04

I wouldn’t change a single thing because DS wouldn’t be DS if I did.

ru53 · 05/12/2023 23:06

@mrsla1 I’ve heard from a few different friends who work in healthcare that it is very common for people who have been hanging on to go just when their family aren’t present, even if they’ve just nipped to the toilet or for a quick snack. Their perspective was that the person dying almost chooses to go then. Like they’re hanging on for family and then once they’re alone they feel like they can go. I found that quite a reassuring thought.

december2020 · 05/12/2023 23:08

Not a regret fully as my decisions have taken to my current life and there is a lot to be thankful for.

But I very often wonder what my life would have been like had I said yes to the offer and relocated to LA 10 years ago to keep following my dream career.

LittleMissSunshiner · 05/12/2023 23:11

I have regrets about most of my life since a very young age if I was to buy into that thinking, I'd lose my mind entirely.

Most recent - putting my two beautiful and much loved cats up for adoption because I was being stalked and harassed and needed to urgently move. One of them died shortly after I'd adopted them and she was only young :( I should have stayed put and fought back harder.

Most recent - allowing a pair of absolute c*nts calling themselves gynaecologists (they were gynaecologists at the UCLH) to talk me into accepting a procedure that was not lawful and in which I was profoundly injured, wiping the last 18 months out of my life and requiring surgeries - one I'm still waiting for. I knew they were full of crap at the time but doubted myself.

Conniethecatapillar · 05/12/2023 23:14

@Sunflower8848 I'm so sorry

Hiddenvoice · 05/12/2023 23:15

I regret always choosing the safe choices and roads. I was taught to be careful and do the easiest thing but I’ve recently realised j settled so much.

I’ve always been afraid to take risks incase it didn’t work out but now I’m wondering why, what’s the worst thing thag could happen. I’m making sure I encourage my children to really go for what they want in life and not to settle for something because it’s easy or because they might be afraid.

Nomad19 · 05/12/2023 23:17

Saying no when my first serious crush asked if I wanted to hold his hand after school to walk to the shop. I thought it was too grown up, but bitterly regretted it over the next year and still did for years.

StolenCookie · 05/12/2023 23:17

baubletits · 05/12/2023 20:12

Chose the wrong degree at uni.

I wish I'd chosen something with a more defined career path, instead of something that everyone said would open up many different jobs. Turns out it makes me very ill qualified for most jobs.

What degree did you do?

OftIwandered · 05/12/2023 23:18

I regret not being with my father when he died. I wanted to pretend he wasn't so ill, sitting at his hospital bedside meant acknowledging he was dying.

Cello60 · 05/12/2023 23:21

Being me

TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment · 05/12/2023 23:24

Not buying bitcoin in 2014.