Friend keeps slagging off my artwork

[Yor]

I have an Instagram account dedicated to my artwork as a hobby which consists of my drawings. Whenever I meet up with her she always says things like “you’re hardly any good to post to insta, are you?” or “looks like a 3 year old drew it”, then just laughs. I just do a fake laugh and move on. I think she thinks is just banter but I think she means it secretly and she never likes the posts either. It really makes me feel shitty when she puts my artwork down all the time.

A friend?

You spend your time with this woman and open your life to her because...

Why do you consider her a friend, exactly?

Well she’s not a friend and she fundamentally misunderstands social media.

Tell her straight that she’s being rude and there is no minimum standard for Instagram posts.

i would do this and then block her.

She isn't your friend and after those sorts of comments I wouldn't be meeting up with her at all. What a cow.

Yes, it’s deeply mysterious why you would choose to spend time with someone who just criticises you…?

Ditto to all of the above.

Get rid.

This whole thing is such a non-issue. Just move on from her. Putting your work on social media means you need to accept critique but not mean & repeated criticism in the manner of that woman.

With friends like that, who needs enemies?

That's not "banter" and she's not your friend.

Stop letting her get away with her nasty remarks. Try "Excuse me?" or "Keep your nasty comments to yourself" or, better still get rid of her.

OP... this is the tough part about putting your creative work out there. Ignore her jokes. I think fulsome praise is worse than mindless bagging, personally.

Fondly remembering Freddie Starr's routine:

Vincent: Mother, o mother, for what can't I sell none of my paintings?
Mrs Van Gogh: they're crap!

Block her

That's just plain nasty.

I don't expect my family & friends to like every post I make on social media and beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but there is no need to be rude about anyone's art.

This person isn't a friend

Ask yourself why you allow people like this a place in your life.

While I agree with the comments above in principal it would be quite funny if the OP posts some examples and they’re all childish stick figures and potato printing

We’ve been friends since primary school so I feel I can’t just cut her off like that. We do have a good laugh about other things like primary school nostalgia but it’s just this “banter” amongst other rude comments I don’t like.

In the absence of stuck figures and potato prints she sounds like the kind of person the words fuck and off were invented for!

She's not going to stop unless you say something.

That only makes it worse.

You are being polite for the wrong reasons.

She's a person you randomly happened to be in the same class with at primary school.

Beyond this, do you actually have anything in common with her anymore?

So what if you've been friends since school? She clearly thinks she can be unpleasant to you and you will allow it (and she's right).

Up to you but this is not my idea of friendship.

I either would say something to her about it or distance myself. She doesn’t seem like much of a friend if she makes fun of you and you only have fun when reminiscing about primary school!

I would reply " neither is your face but that doesn't stop you". Just kidding. Do you take part in any drawing challenges on insta? I love to see everyone's pictures, even if they're just learning or doing quick sketches. I put my stuff on insta as a sort of creative diary, not for anyone's approval, but when I look back over the months and years I can really see progress, it's quite encouraging. Better to compare yourself with your old self than to compare with others.

Just saw your last comment. If she is a good friend you should be able to say that you don't find her 'banter' funny and would rather not talk about your hobby with her. If she does it again a laughing yawn and 'Bo-ring' might remind her. Also, she sounds like a cow.

We’ve been friends since primary school so I feel I can’t just cut her off like that.

Yes, yes you can. I had a 'friend' like that from primary school as well, who spent her entire life making similar digs. I didn't even realise how ridiculous it was to tolerate it, as she had always been doing it. Was so liberating to realise I don't actually have to suffer primary school mean girl behaviour.

She's no friend.