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My Autistic son who we were told would never talk and needed to be in a specialised environment

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IncompleteSenten · 22/11/2023 09:15

Is attending his graduation ceremony today, having got a 2.1 in games development.

He is my elder son and is now 24. He was diagnosed at two and a half with what was then called classic autism. We were told we needed to teach him makaton, that he wouldn't ever talk. When he was 7 he began to talk in small sentences. He was unable to potty train and we were told that this would not change, when he was 6 he came out of full time nappies, by the time he was 10 he was no longer having soiling incidents. He was explosively violent. We were told he needed to be in a special school. That we were unrealistic.

He drove to collect his gown in his own car and has no lectures this week for the master's he's currently doing.

I don't give a fuck that this is a boasty thread. He is amazing. He has worked so hard and defied expectations all his life and I want to shout it from the rooftops. I'd like to take his degree and his driving licence and wave it in the faces of the experts who constantly told us how delusional we were to even expect that one day he would look at us!

OP posts:
EasternStandard · 22/11/2023 10:55

Incredible

Well done to your Ds, you all must be so proud

Kyogo67 · 22/11/2023 10:55

That's just fabulous!!!
Delighted for him and for your family.❤️

MrsMariaReynolds · 22/11/2023 10:56

How lovely, Op! ♥️ What a fantastic achievement for your son and an inspiring story! Congratulations 👏

OnGoldenPond · 22/11/2023 10:57

That's wonderful, brought a tear to my eye.

Shout it from the rooftops! Well done to your DS for all his hard work and huge well done to you for being such a great Mum and being his tireless supporter Flowers

Giggorata · 22/11/2023 11:01

This is the most fantastic thing to read! Congratulations to your wonderful son - and to his family. 🏆💐

Wotrewelookinat · 22/11/2023 11:03

Oh congratulations! What a wonderful post!!

ArthurbellaScott · 22/11/2023 11:05

Gosh, I don't usually get hayfever at this time of year.

Well done to you both, OP. That's so wonderful to hear. Congratulations to both of you!

Whothatbe · 22/11/2023 11:08

Unbelievable. That is amazing. Well done to him and you.

beachcitygirl · 22/11/2023 11:16

Bloody wonderful ❤️

lifeturnsonadime · 22/11/2023 11:18

Amazing, well done to your son and you.

As a parent of two autistic children I know how hard you will have worked to support him!

Enjoy your celebrations!

CaravaggiosCat · 22/11/2023 11:21

Aww brought a tear (several) to my eyes reading this. So happy for you what an amazing turnaround. Well done to you all 👏🏻💖

Stomacharmeleon · 22/11/2023 11:32

That's brilliant! I love reading threads like this.

I often feel on here that parents going down the pathway and some thinking about special Ed worry it will be limiting.
Two of my sons attended special Ed schools and one has graduated and one is in his second year at uni (with support)

queenofthewild · 22/11/2023 11:36

Oh OP, this makes my heart sing.

I used to work in games development and now work with autistic children. He's definitely chosen the right career path.

Congratulations to your amazing boy, and give yourself a huge pat on the back for believing in him.

PerspiringElizabeth · 22/11/2023 11:37

You should brag and be BLOODY proud of yourself OP!!! He sounds brilliant.

LateToTheParty · 22/11/2023 11:38

Brilliant! Congratulations to him and best wishes to you all 🥳

magimedi · 22/11/2023 11:41

I have a lump in my throat reading this.

Congratulations to the whole family. 👏

Phonedown · 22/11/2023 11:41

Massive congratulations to your son and to you. May his future be bright and happy. 💐🎉

Cas112 · 22/11/2023 11:42

Love this OP

Starseeking · 22/11/2023 11:43

That is amazing! My DC is currently in early primary and at the stage your DS was at that time. It's encouraging to see this, thank you.

Many congratulations to your DS!

Rosiepeta · 22/11/2023 11:44

Thats wonderful ! You must be incredibly proud! Well done to you both! Lovely to see something so positive 🥰

pointythings · 22/11/2023 11:46

Absolutely boast away, what a massive achievement for him and for all of you who believed in him.

ClemmyTine · 22/11/2023 11:48

This is such a lovely post. Well done to all of you especially your wonderful son.

TheHouseElf · 22/11/2023 11:51

Bravo to him, and to you too. Just goes to show that putting no limitations on our children, and they will achieve anything they wish to.

Sashamans4 · 22/11/2023 11:51

Congratulations to you and your son ♥️

bryceQ · 22/11/2023 11:54

I'm so glad you posted this! I can't imagine how you feel.

I have a non verbal 5 year old with high care needs and I love to read these stories!