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My Autistic son who we were told would never talk and needed to be in a specialised environment

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IncompleteSenten · 22/11/2023 09:15

Is attending his graduation ceremony today, having got a 2.1 in games development.

He is my elder son and is now 24. He was diagnosed at two and a half with what was then called classic autism. We were told we needed to teach him makaton, that he wouldn't ever talk. When he was 7 he began to talk in small sentences. He was unable to potty train and we were told that this would not change, when he was 6 he came out of full time nappies, by the time he was 10 he was no longer having soiling incidents. He was explosively violent. We were told he needed to be in a special school. That we were unrealistic.

He drove to collect his gown in his own car and has no lectures this week for the master's he's currently doing.

I don't give a fuck that this is a boasty thread. He is amazing. He has worked so hard and defied expectations all his life and I want to shout it from the rooftops. I'd like to take his degree and his driving licence and wave it in the faces of the experts who constantly told us how delusional we were to even expect that one day he would look at us!

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tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 22/11/2023 09:26

And to all the other tiger mammas on this thread going through tough stuff ... sending much love and support. You are all bloody awesome ❤️

Chouxpastryishard · 22/11/2023 09:26

What an amazing story! Well done to you for being a brilliant mother, and to him for his achievements.

Echobelly · 22/11/2023 09:26

Mazel tov! I'm glad your son had you fighting his corner and that he's done so brilliantly by anyone's standards!

Latenightreader · 22/11/2023 09:27

Absolutely boast - he has defied the ‘experts’ and you have refused to give in. It must have been tough, but wow, well done to you all!

ApolloandDaphne · 22/11/2023 09:28

Congratulations to your son on his achievement and to you in your belief in him over the years. You have all shown what can be possible.

IHateLegDay · 22/11/2023 09:28

What an amazing guy! Congratulations to him and to you for always believing in him when no one else would! 👏

LauderSyme · 22/11/2023 09:30

How wonderful! I feel very moved OP and vicariously proud for you and ds. Congratulations on ALL your successes!

Peridot1 · 22/11/2023 09:30

Wow. That’s amazing and well worthy of a boast!

squirrelnutkin10 · 22/11/2023 09:33

Congratulations to you BOTH ! Boast away it is lovely to hear such an uplifting story of parenthood.
Here's to your strength op, few realise the strength needed to parent a child with difficulties, always fighting their corner.

YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake · 22/11/2023 09:33

What a lovely story. My ds is almost 10 and very much how your ds was (delayed speech, violent, not completely toilet trained yet) and this gives me hope for his future. Congratulations to your ds on his graduation!

ListsWonderfulLists · 22/11/2023 09:34

What an uplifting post. Made me well up as a mum to another autistic boy here. Damn right you should boast. Sing it from the the rooftops about your fabulous young man.

CormorantStrikesBack · 22/11/2023 09:37

What a lovely thread. I hope it gives hope to anyone else who might be struggling with a diagnosis.

Newuser75 · 22/11/2023 09:40

Ah this has made me so happy! Congratulations to him and well done to you for always believing in him!!

AIstolemylunch · 22/11/2023 09:40

Congratulations to him and to you. People are too quick to write off kids that have challenges. Good for him and for you for not letting them.

steppemum · 22/11/2023 09:42

This is bloody awesome!

He is bloody awesome!

Such fab news. Boast away!

RainbowZebraWarrior · 22/11/2023 09:43

This is just wonderful ❤️ Massive congratulations and thanks for sharing this happy story. It fills me with hope for my Autistic daughter.

Arthurnewyorkcity · 22/11/2023 09:43

As a mum of an autistic 5 Yr old ds being told the same, I applaud you and your son Will showing the world who's boss. Congratulations young man

Sirzy · 22/11/2023 09:43

This has made me well up. At a time when I am really worried what the future may hold for DS this has really made me smile.

Lavinia56 · 22/11/2023 09:44

What a great achievement! Well done all!

SaltPepperPotato · 22/11/2023 09:44

Love love love this! Be as boasty as fuck! Whoohoo

Bluevelvetsofa · 22/11/2023 09:45

That is so amazing and may give hope to parents in similar situations as you were.

You’ve done a magnificent job and so has he. You’re entitled to be the proudest parent and shout it from the rooftops.

mommatoone · 22/11/2023 09:45

What a lovely post! Congratulations to your fabulous son on his achievements. What a bright , exciting future he has ahead of him. ❤️

Whataretheodds · 22/11/2023 09:46

Congratulations to your son! And to you!

When you have a moment I would love to hear more about his journey and yours, but for today just enjoy!

britespark1 · 22/11/2023 09:46

What a fabulous post OP!! As a mother of an autistic son this proper made me cry. Congratulations to him and to you!

FlipsSakeMum · 22/11/2023 09:49

That's brilliant. I hope you have a brilliant day. 👨🏻‍🎓🎓🍾🥂

I have a question about what you were told when he was younger. Did they actually say he categorically wouldn't do those things or did they say he absolutely would never walk and be toilet trained etc. If so, who told you these things?

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