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Appropriate for a funeral??

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Helpmeout124 · 15/11/2023 13:14

I've got this dress for a funeral I'm attending soon, and now I'm looking at it I'm like.. is this appropriate? 🤨

I'd wear with black tights and heeled boots

Appropriate for a funeral??
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WeighDownOnMe · 15/11/2023 13:15

Oh, I wouldn't.

Go plain if possible.

fitforflight · 15/11/2023 13:16

I think it's fine! Especially with black tights.

gentlemum · 15/11/2023 13:16

For me, no I wouldn't wear to a funeral. But I'm very traditional with thinking about dressing in all black for a funeral.

Stephisaur · 15/11/2023 13:16

I wouldn't - too fussy.

I would go with plain as above.

Kaamos · 15/11/2023 13:18

No, I wouldn't wear it to a funeral.

pinkfongg · 15/11/2023 13:18

Normally when there's posts like these I like to agree with the OP and advise them to ignore the negative responses but sadly on this occasion I don't think it's quite appropriate - sorry. If the flowers were darker it would be okay but I think you need something more plain without floral.

NotLactoseFree · 15/11/2023 13:19

For me, probably no. But it also depends on where the funeral is, who its for etc.

For my dad, I might wear that with a black jacket, black tights and black boots as he hates the super traditional all black thing.

For my great aunt, I would rather die myself than wear that as she would be mortified. She likes plain black, or dark blue, for funerals and would NOT approve of a flowery floaty dress.

Solongnow · 15/11/2023 13:21

I would if I was just attending as a friend or work colleague but not if I was close family.

NotLactoseFree · 15/11/2023 13:21

Also, just to say that I think it's just overall too casual. Funerals are one of the few events left where I think most people go with a fairly formal approach, even if it's not traditional. So tailored trousers, not tracks. A plain, structured dress, not something floaty and soft.

CorylusAgain · 15/11/2023 13:23

It's the nature of the fabric that feels off for a funeral to me. It looks like gauze? Slightly see-through and floaty.
Based on the funerals I've been to I don't think dark florals would be out of place unless it's a very formal, older person.

Solongnow · 15/11/2023 13:29

The last funeral I went to I just went to the service and kept my coat on so you couldn't really tell what I was wearing under it, depends how much of the funeral OP is going to and who it is

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Helpmeout124 · 15/11/2023 13:30

Thanks all, honestly I'm rubbish at clothes. I have no idea what im doing 😂 I'll find something else

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WaWaWaWaaaaaa · 15/11/2023 13:53

I think it's perfect. It's a nice dress.

countrygirl99 · 15/11/2023 13:56

Currently arranging MILs funeral and wouldn't bat an eyelid at anyone turning up in a dress like that.

Candleabra · 15/11/2023 14:00

I think it’s fine, anything dark is ok really.

Sexlivesofthepotatomen · 15/11/2023 14:00

Can't see an issue with it personally, it's hardly flamboyant. I'd wear it

Sleepeezey · 15/11/2023 14:01

I can’t remember a single thing people wore to my mum’s funeral. That dress is lovely and it’s fine to wear.

DrMarshaFieldstone · 15/11/2023 14:13

OK with a smart coat over the top as long as it is a reasonable length? I am very tall and it looks like it would barely cover my bum.

Whataretheodds · 15/11/2023 14:15

Unless they've specified colour I would go for something plainer.

The convention for trad British funerals is black, or at least dark grey or navy, modest (no minis, or hint of cleavage), basically not decorative.

Though in mourning for QE2 the royals managed lace and dripping with jewels they did always wear black or charcoal and knee length or below, 3/4 sleeve or longer and no patterns.

RecoveringBorderlineIsBack · 15/11/2023 14:17

It's very pretty and I like it, but its a bit too "gay" if you see what I mean. A bit too happy.

Paperbagsaremine · 15/11/2023 14:22

If you're younger / not too close to the deceased. I wouldn't think it in-appropriate. But as PPs have said, if you're the sort of age where you would reasonably be expected to get hold of a sober all-black/charcoal/navy get-up, go for that.

wonkylegs · 15/11/2023 14:25

Fine if you have a long smart black coat you can wear over it.
If not I'd go for something a bit plainer
It does depend a bit on whose funeral it is

Conservative elderly relative then I would tone it down as their are likely to be a slightly more sober group of mourners
Younger person or someone with a more vibrant personality then it's probably fine.
Think of whose funeral it is and who is likely to be there - then make a judgement.

witchypaws · 15/11/2023 14:29

Depends, have they said a dress code? If they've said colour then yes, if not then no

I have a funeral outfit (which is depressing) which is a Boden jersey dress in grey, black tights, black heels and a black blazer

Appropriate for a funeral??
GigiAnnna · 15/11/2023 14:34

It depends on the funeral. A few I've been to recently have been on the casual side so if it was like that, I don't think it would really matter if you wore that as it's quite smart. I'd usually have gone for something black but if you have that and don't want to buy anything else, you could just wear a black jacket or cardigan over it.

HerMammy · 15/11/2023 14:48

Thanks all, honestly I'm rubbish at clothes. I have no idea what im doing 😂 I'll find something else
It's a funeral, it's not difficult, wear black.

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