Appropriate for a funeral??

[Helpmeout124]

I've got this dress for a funeral I'm attending soon, and now I'm looking at it I'm like.. is this appropriate? 🤨

I'd wear with black tights and heeled boots

Not appropriate for a funeral

These would be more appropriate than the two you have already suggested @Helpmeout124

Option 1

Option 2

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They are generally block colours, in muted colours, so navy blue not sky blue, or charcoal grey not cloud grey if you get my meaning. It's a sombre occasion and you're going to support your fiance who will be supporting his family.

Hope the above gives you some idea.

Best of luck to you.

Yes it's absolutely fine

Honestly, see through lace isn't really the vibe at a funeral.

Just get something plain or even just wear dark trousers and top, like the many many people on this thread have suggested.

You don't have to dress up. It is in no way about you. Just look sombre, it's really really easy.

@LookItsMeAgain
Has great ideas.
I'm a bit mystified why you're picking dresses that are for going out, not an elderly persons funeral. It's really not a hard outfit to choose.
Even smart trousers and a blouse.
What age are you?

Honestly, both dresses are great for a funeral. I prefer the first one FWIW.

I wore a black wrap dress with small sprigs of flowers for my mum's funeral. She would have liked the little addition of some colour.

You're taking a lot more care than many people I've seen at funerals. Most of the older generation turn up dressed like they've taken a break from their gardening in jeans or brown cords and fleeces. They, rightly, think that the most important thing is to be there, and clearly aren't stifled by convention any more.

I'd wear it

It really depends on the person and you relationship with them. We had flowery dresses and ties but we knew the person very well so it was appropriate for us.
If it’s someone I don’t know well then I’d stick to plain black. I liked the first one btw, I didn’t think it was inappropriate.

You're taking a lot more care than many people I've seen at funerals. Most of the older generation turn up dressed like they've taken a break from their gardening in jeans or brown cords and fleeces. They, rightly, think that the most important thing is to be there, and clearly aren't stifled by convention any more.

This is very true.

You're relying on the chief mourners thinking similarly though @Solongnow

There's no need for this level of uncertainty.

Who doesn't own black trousers and a black top? The OP is somehow picturing this as a grand social event, all she needs to do is be present and appropriately dressed. It's so so simple.

Who doesn't own black trousers and a black top?
I don't own either of those things. Which is why I wore a dark background dress with a flower pattern to the last funeral I went to. Which was totally fine. As is OP's first dress.

I don't own either of those things

And if you don't own them you can spend £20 in Tesco, it would be completely appropriate and not like you're away to skip out of the funeral and straight to date night.

And if you don't own them you can spend £20 in Tesco, it would be completely appropriate and not like you're away to skip out of the funeral and straight to date night

Yes, I think this is the problem OP. You’re trying to find something for an “occasion” where you want to look pretty, but what you should be aiming for is “unobtrusive”, “unremarkable”. I bet I could look in your wardrobe and pick out something suitable. Is there someone who might do that for you?

I think those dresses are fine OP tbh. Does your fiance have any view?

If you’re worried, are you planning to wear a cardi or a coat over anyway?

I think the dress is fine for a funeral.
I have been quite bamboozled at recent funerals I have attended by how dressed up some people get.
In my opinion, you're going to pay your respects to the person who died, if anyone judges you because of what you're wearing, that is very much their problem.

Agree with "why a dress?". I wear black trousers, grey or maroon (i.e darkish) top or jumper, a dark coat or jacket/cardigan. Heavier top and coat in the Winter, lighter jacket/cardi in warmer weather. Unfortunately as I get older there are a few more funerals now than before. Don't misunderstand, I like dresses, but trousers are very practical for windy cold graveyards, and hanging around outside the crem. I find.

I'm smiling at myself describing my funeral gear, honestly what am I like!

No I wouldn't wear that to a funeral. I wear full black unless asked to wear something different by the family.

I agree with this.
Turning up and paying your respects can be done in any type of clothes.
I have been to plenty funerals where some of the men have attended in their work clothes,they came from their work and were going back to work after the funeral.
It is not disrespectful.
That dress would be suitable for any funeral I have ever been at. It's also very pretty ,I might buy it for myself for Christmas Day .

I was in matalan the other day OP and the dress is absolutely fine!!

I was tempted to buy it myself 🤣

I think it depends on who it is for. Unfortunately I’ve been to 2 recently for people in their 30’s/40’s. One I had a pink theme so some people wore black dresses with a pink print. The other was someone who was into sparkly things and a few people had sparkly shoes, broaches etc.

Update: I ended up wearing the second dress with thick black tights and heeled boots and my sister in law was wearing the exact same dress! Should have talked to each other beforehand 😂 It gave everyone a laugh on a sad day. So I think it was entirely appropriate as two of us happened to choose it.

Op ,I just bought the matalan dress today.so thank you for posting. I love it 😃