Appropriate for a funeral??

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I've got this dress for a funeral I'm attending soon, and now I'm looking at it I'm like.. is this appropriate? 🤨

I'd wear with black tights and heeled boots

I think the most important thing is your presence and honouring the persons life.It's a pretty dress.

I think it depends on the audience so
to speak. Thankfully the uptight nature of British funerals seems to be waining and this would be appropriate in my circles. You can pay respects whatever you’re wearing imo.

I think it depends on the deceased and their family. I was recently at a funeral of a dearly departed neighbour and it was more of a party than a solemn affair. She loved colours and florals and hated anything “drab and dull” so most of us were there in fun prints. Not everyone was comfortable with the setup but alas that’s how she’d have wanted it and that’s how her family wanted her funeral to be too.

I wouldn't, big flower prints a no imo

So snarky! Lots of funerals aren't all black these days esp if person a bit younger

I think wear whatever you like. I didn't care what anyone wore when they attended a close family member's funeral recently, I was just glad they were there.

I couldn't tell you what any of the guests wore to my sisters funeral a couple of months ago.

I just remember feeling overwhelmed with gratitude and love to see people standing at the door to meet the cars as we turned the corner. If anyone had worn your dress, no body in my family would have minded one bit.

I'm firmly in the all black camp I'm afraid.

A colleague was attending a funeral in my home city, he said his wife and mum in law had chosen to wear floral, uplifting prints. I said that would be a mistake. He later admitted they were the only ones not in all black and felt paranoid.

That said, I don't find it inappropriate, just not traditional

I seem to buy something and then overthink it to the point I last minute buy something else for literally everything. I panic in shops I think, I get overwhelmed and buy the first thing I like that seems a good idea at the time. Shopping with 2 under 3 plays a part in that I think 😄 For anyone who mentioned above the age bracket. I'm 29 and the funeral is that of my fiancés grandad

I kind of think the closer you are to the deceased the more you can be confident about making your own decision about this because you are likely to know the wishes or attitude of the deceased and you are actively grieving so you can do that your way. If you are further removed and you are attending from duty or to support someone else then I think its best to go with safer colours so you don't stand out or offend the family unless you've been made aware of dress code. But other than that , i guess its the usual guide that if you are unsure you should probably choose something else.

It's a lovely dress and l would wear it, maybe with a dark coat or long cardigan over the top, because it's cold. Does anyone really take any notice of who is wearing what at a funeral?

Well you just don't know do you @LearnFromMyMistakes so I think sticking with tradition and convention is the safest bet.

Sure the OP would be mortified if the chat later was 'what was Bob's fiancée wearing to Grandad's funeral.'

It's all avoided by just wearing something plain.

Depends on the family, but combined with thick black tights, boots and a black jacket (not cardigan) I would say it's fine

I'm not so worried about the print- I think it's too short.

It looks fine to me. Do people really notice and comment on what others wear to a funeral?

It's fine. I wore a similar dress to a funeral recently. No-one will a) notice or b) care.

It looks fine to me. People don’t tend to wear all black to funerals these days.

I find it hard to understand why people have to be so judgmental about what someone else wears to a funeral. I guess I'd rise my eyebrows if someone pitched up in lurex hot pants or something but generally if people are dressed normally I think that's ok.

It might be ok with black tights and under a big black coat. I'd always go plain black unless asked to wear colours. I have a funeral dress. It's plain black long sleeves and 2 inches under the knee. I never eat it for anything else.

I go to a lot of funerals (don't ask!) and I would wear that, although only with black accessories to smarten it up.
Funerals are usually not as formal as some people expect.

Plain black, at a push a dark neutral like grey. Maybe borrow something if you don’t have anything plain enough ? Think smart work wear in a dark colour.

I see you've bought it specifically, so my comment is now going to be pointless, but what the hell. I would like to live in a world where people just wore their ordinary clothes to things. I know this is silly but i think the idea of special dress is very old class stuff - aspiring to be "proper"= what wealthy people do.

@Lorrymum "It looks fine to me. Do people really notice and comment on what others wear to a funeral?"

Probably not, but the OP is obviously not sure and wants to feel appropriately dressed.

I personally think it’s fine . It does depend on how traditional the family You would be surprised at how scruffy some people look at funerals .