Has 2023 been a particularly bad year for you?

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I can honestly say it's been a really challenging year for me so far, and I've known other people say the same.
Personal stuff, but also the state of the world - the middle-east of course 😔 But also worsening natural disasters. The NHS collapsing, the housing crisis and rising homelessness etc. I try generally try to be a positive person; but really objectively I have found 2023 uncommonly pants...

Yes. A beast of a year in this family. And it could still get worse as I'll probably be taken to court for DD not going to school.

I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope things get better for you and your family.
It's weird, as I've known so many people in RL say it's been an rubbish year.

It was going well until October 7. DH's childhood friend was taken hostage at the music festival, and our other friend's twins were murdered at Kibbutz Be'eri (we presume his daughter was; her remains have yet to be found, and she's not among the hostages).

So not great.

I'm so sorry @PurpleChrayne that's awful

@PurpleChrayne Oh my word, I'm so so sorry 😔
It must feel like you're all in a nightmare.
Please accept my very sincere condolences. An unbelievable and terrible thing. Sending love to you all

God how awful @PurpleChrayne I’m so sorry

Mine has been rubbish. I’ve lost my dad and my nan, my mum has been diagnosed with a progressive disease that will get much worse in the not too distant future. I’ve also got divorced and lost my beloved dog three weeks ago. Will be glad when this year is over.

@PurpleChrayne That is truly awful. I’m so sorry 💐

@Iheartmysmart I'm so sorry you've had so much to deal with at once.
So sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved dog. I've been there. It's so painful isn't it x

@PurpleChrayne I lost friends in a terror attack so I can honestly empathise.
It took me nearly a year to get over the shock. Big hugs to you and yours.

I guess yes, for me, 2023 has been crap

Mum having stroke/episodes of illness

She had 22 hours on a trolley in A&E and I was with her so I ended up hallucinating all week, I was that tired

Mum then refused care and I had a nervous breakdown

Still struggling to sell my flat

Maybe it's the pills but I am starting to feel better and I do remember the good things of the year! But when I thought of NYE, I thought, this is a year to dismiss and hope for better things.

the trouble is, with an elderly parent, there's not a lot of room for realistic hope for improvements.

I sometimes feel like I'm not really here. I think that's my mind protecting itself.

I'm starting to have really weird dreams but I don't sleep much.

@PurpleChrayne I'm so so sorry for your troubles.

I was just about to come on here and say i'd had a shit year because (too embarressed to say why now) but I've seen other peoples responses and it's brought it into focus.

I have much to be grateful for.

For all of you with such sad stories, I hope one day things get better for you.

@Iheartmysmart also of course all the human members of your family. It sounds like your dog passing was the most recent loss, so I commented on that first.
I hope things can be better than hoped for your mum

I got diagnosed with Stage 3 cancer a few months ago. I’ve had three surgeries since late July. I’m in hospital four weeks today. I just want my old life back.

That's really hard. I'm so sorry. I hope you have good news soon

Name changed because this could be outing.
2023 has been absolutely awful for us. My mum was very very ill, she died recently.
My husbands granny died.
One of our family dogs died.
My business was damaged by a leak that wasn't my fault.
My house was burgled. The last two things happened within 2 weeks of my mum's passing.
I am so ready for 2024.

@NotSuchASmugMarried You've got nothing to be embarrassed about. We've all got things to be grateful for, and there's always someone worse off; but that doesn't mean your own hurts and upsets aren't valid. You're entitled to feel whatever you feel. I hope whatever has made it a tricky year for you improves soon

2023 has been a terrible year for me,
my D FIL died,
my DF was diagnosed with dementia..( l already deal with my DM's dementia as they live with us...so know what's coming )
DH recently made redundant so serious financial worry..
but it all pales into insignificance against DD's diagnosis of a life long condition...that's the real kicker as she should have a carefree whole life ahead.....
So very sorry for all those upthread who have had such heartache.

@2023pileofshite I hear you. I will be so happy to see the back of 2023.
I'm so sorry you've been through so much. Sounds awful

So sorry @PurpleChrayne. I don’t know how you cope with the antisemitism all round us atm.

For me the year began badly as we finally evicted a tenant who hadn’t paid rent for 6 months and got into the house to find £20k worth of damage, new kitchen and bathroom and all new carpets required. Deep cleaning and decorating in every room.
Then my elderly df broke his ribs in a fall and needed a lot of care for 3 months. He’s also quite à difficult person.
I was so ill with a virus and had lost over a stone so I had blood tests and I’ve got a chronic blood cancer.
We’re also currently waiting for an expert to look at subsidence in our family home.
So not great but I look at the conflicts around the world, the poverty and homelessness and realise I’m very lucky.
I have support, a good family and we’re financially ok. My health is a wait and see condition and I need more rest but I’m ok.
And if anyone who knows me reads this they’ll know it’s me.

So sorry, especially for your dd.

@EmmaEmerald I know what you mean about not really being here. I've been dissociating a lot lately, and have to to cope.
I had a major mental health crisis following an accident, and the only way I'm coping with day-to-day stuff is by not being fully present. It feels like a film or something - hard to explain...

I'm going to buck the trend as we've had had a good great 2023.

We managed to buy our house after the landlord was forced to sell, it was stressful but we managed to get a 100% mortgage and keep the home we've been in for 10 years.

DH has just been given a new role/promotion at work - more money, better hours (no weekends or BHs).

And I finally got a long awaited hospital appointment this week that has the potential to change my life.

I'm so sorry for the shit everyone is or has been going through and I pray for better times ahead for you x

@squirrelnutkin10 I'm so sorry to hear about your dd

@FooFighter99 I'm really pleased you've had a good year. It's good to know 2023 hadn't been a doomed one for everybody 😊

@PurpleChrayne that is so sad and terrifying

Worst year of my life after losing my wonderful Dad