Has 2023 been a particularly bad year for you?

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I can honestly say it's been a really challenging year for me so far, and I've known other people say the same.
Personal stuff, but also the state of the world - the middle-east of course 😔 But also worsening natural disasters. The NHS collapsing, the housing crisis and rising homelessness etc. I try generally try to be a positive person; but really objectively I have found 2023 uncommonly pants...

2022 plumbed a new low point, from which 2023 has been much more positive, but I can't not send to PurpleChrayne and several other posters whose losses and tragedies have been so traumatic.

I feel totally not entitled to feel as crap as I do.
I'm probably older than most of you but I lost my beloved 12 year old dog and more recently my 2nd marriage has been broken when my husband said our marriage is over. I find it hard to get myself up out and out of bed on a daily basis.
My Son and daughter in law are upset with me as they feel I don't care about my grandchildren as I just cannot commit to Xmas arrangements.
Never have I felt so low.

Not the awful things other posters are experiencing but I've just felt so low throughout this year. We have had some bereavements that have been terribly sad, and one of my DC is going through some mental health issues. But on top of that, it's felt joyless and as if the world is a terrible place.
In recent years I've also stopped thinking next year will be better because it often hasn't been.

Worst year of my life.

After separating from my husband (my choice) my 13 year old son got diagnosed with an extremely aggressive form of cancer, stage 3 and is currently undergoing high risk chemotherapy.

Yes. It's been the worst year of my life. I started a crap new job, my manager is a bully and I am completely miserable there. And my mother is dying of terminal lung cancer which has spread to her spine, hips, chest and brain. She wont make Christmas. So I have come home to care for her and have had to leave my husband and teenage son at home.

So sorry to those of you who have had some truly awful ordeals this year. I was about to complain about stroppy teenagers and crappy weather, but you’ve really put things into perspective. Wishing you all a much better 2024 💐

Oh @pulka I'm so sorry about your mum (and everything else)

It’s been a shit year for us 5 deaths in 6 months. Dh brother had a heart attack and we had to switch his life support off as he was brain damaged the same day my best friends husband died of a brain tumour
dd boyfriends mum died in planned surgery dh cousin then got diagnosed with cancer and given 8 weeks to live then passed away and dhs childhood friend died a few weeks ago. All of them were under 65

also had Dcat pts but he was 16 ddog 11 has suddenly got poorly and has now gone blind they think it’s got a tumour on his pituitary gland

my not so dsis who has always been a financial nightmare has been helping herself to elderly dm bank account she had stopped dm bank statements coming to her in the post dm asked me to take her to the bank to check her balance and upon getting the statements told me dsis had taken £10k over a few months. It also came to light dsis has sole POA dm agreed to give us equal POA. A family meeting was called dsis had obviously spoken to dm first so dm said she was happy for her to have the money and only wanted dsis as POA. Was all very polite and civil and I respected dm wishes but I’ve not heard anything form either of them since which was August which is hurtful

I've had a good year but a lot of my friends are really struggling.

2023 has been good for me. I'm another 12 months on from cancer treatment, with no recurrence.

I have hair that looks normal, that is normal 🤗

I've got my energy back, hung on to my job with my kind boss' support, am back in the swing.

I've paid another year's school fees. Only 2 to go. I'm a year closer to retirement.

Much better than 2022 for me personally.

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Yes pretty crud. Extreme stress, shock, then meh and then stressful again. Like every year since the old pando😭
Hoping for a brighter 2024!

My sympathies to everyone who has a terrible year.

Very sorry to everyone who has had a difficult 2023 especially @Downtoyou, I really hope the chemo works on your son and he can make a recovery, how terrifying for you all. 💐

2023 has been a mixed year for us but is on an upward trend now. I had a years cancer treatment for 2 cancers through to Aug 22 and now just Tamoxifen and reconstruction surgery left, still have the effects of chemo and breast chopped off on appearance but cancer is gone. Have managed 4 hours a week exercise this year to cut reoccurrence risk at stage 4 by half and feel much better for that, mainly swimming. DD is doing really well. DH is fine. Some lovely holidays in Azores, Porto, Mauritius. Awful year for my lovely DS who spent until April in hospital unable to move, see, eat etc since last September due to cahms making major error in drugs then hiding their error until Maudsley told us in March. An awful school who did not bother once to ask how he was. Signs of sexual abuse in hospital. Now home and terrified of anyone but us but can eat, drink, walk and see again but won't leave our side or our home. Still can't speak or write. Thankfully been allocated new caring school, 3 years too late and too afraid to go there.

An awful year in so many ways. I'm probably going to be homeless by the end of the month (long story) and I've been having panic attacks in the night about it. Sorry to others who've also had a terrible year 😔

2021 was worse. My brother died of suicide. Daughter became ill. The years since have consisted of me just putting one foot in front of another and letting them flow over me.

Yes the worst year of my life. I have family problems and health issues. I have wanted to die.

Yes, my brother who I was very close to died in a horrific accident in Austria 2 months ago. It's been one fight after another to get his cremains home/get his stuff home/ find insurance details and it just keeps going... I don't know how to deal with it, it has been 8 weeks of hell, my poor mother is heartbroken as are my other siblings and I don't know how I'll get through life without him😭.

I lost my beloved gran, haven’t felt supported by family and have had most attempts to build myself up thwarted. My health gas really suffered. I have lost a stone (was small to begun with) and am only in my 30s with very high BP. A year ago I was a competitive swimmer.
On the positive side I have made a lovely new friend who actually hugs me, which is what I absolutely crave right now. But the rest has been rubbish.

Yes, I felt very suicidal a few weeks ago too. It's still there a bit, but those thoughts have lessened.
It's such an awful feeling isn't it.

Take care x

@onlymyselftoanswerto1 I'm so very sorry to hear about your brother 😔 How utterly awful for you all

Yes awful.my 16 year old son was very ill.in February with acute necrotic pancreatitis, and collapsed in severe DKA , he spent three weeks on intensive care and a further week on a general ward
He recovered but he's now insulin dependent diabetic
Its been life changing ,but im.very proud of how he's dealt with but 2023 can do.one.

Oh, I'm so sorry. Your poor son.
Yes, I'll rejoice on January 1st 2024!

my year has honestly being shit start of the year my brother w ADHD n autism broke his teachers finger n the schl he was in kicked him out idk how too my mom then later decided she should go to sri lanka leaving me with my aunty and her two kids my aunty took away my social life isolated me n now im phsyically exusated n mentally upset n i jus want happpiness n peace