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Crap halloween givers

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WashingAt30 · 31/10/2023 19:15

It's nice when someone opens the door to you, and they at least smile, and maybe have a little chat about the DC's costumes. My god, some people don't even look happy, just shove a bag of sweets at you as close the door! I wouldn't be surprised if one creepy man we met was on some kind of offenders register. Why bother if you're not going to get into the spirt?!

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rampagingrobot · 31/10/2023 19:35

Isn't the convention that you only knock on doors with a pumpkin out? We don't have one and have had no knockers.

Others round us who are less antisocial than we are do have pumpkins and have had loads.

Seems like an easy way to show if you are in or out...

rampagingrobot · 31/10/2023 19:36

But quite frankly even if we were taking part I wouldn't be arsed to have a chat about your costumes!

Pipistrellus · 31/10/2023 19:37

I'm happy to give out sweets but I'm not good at talking to people I don't know .

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CremeEggThief · 31/10/2023 19:37

Wow you sound ungrateful. I didn't even bother to answer the door to any of them!

BananaHamster · 31/10/2023 19:37

Don't knock on houses that aren't decorated then! We only knocked on the houses done up and had a lovely time.

That or buy your own sweets.

SM4713 · 31/10/2023 19:40

So the person who opens the door also needs to have a good old chit chat about each childs costume, in addition to giving out FREE sweets to random children???

Have you heard the term ENTITLED OP??? 🤔

Ididivfama · 31/10/2023 19:41

WashingAt30 · 31/10/2023 19:15

It's nice when someone opens the door to you, and they at least smile, and maybe have a little chat about the DC's costumes. My god, some people don't even look happy, just shove a bag of sweets at you as close the door! I wouldn't be surprised if one creepy man we met was on some kind of offenders register. Why bother if you're not going to get into the spirt?!

Sounds like my husband who had to take over when I was busy with ds 🤣

I don’t think it matters, it’s nice they’re giving something.

Prescottdanni123 · 31/10/2023 19:43

Some people feel awkward or have social anxiety. But they have still made the choice to get involved by providing sweets. Do you try to engage them in conversation?

Some people may be going through some really bad stuff and are upset/scared about it but they have still gone out and bought sweets to give to your kids.

RedHelenB · 31/10/2023 19:43

rampagingrobot · 31/10/2023 19:35

Isn't the convention that you only knock on doors with a pumpkin out? We don't have one and have had no knockers.

Others round us who are less antisocial than we are do have pumpkins and have had loads.

Seems like an easy way to show if you are in or out...

Not a thing where I live. I've no decorations up but have bought a bag of lollies and have had some trick or treaters round.

EnjoythemoneyJane · 31/10/2023 19:43

Jesus wept. Do you have the remotest idea how awful and entitled you sound?!

Not only are complete strangers supposed to have decorated their houses and spent their money on sweets for other people’s kids, they’ve got to get up and open the door to your little darlings with fucking jazz hands (even though they’re the thousandth kids they’ve seen tonight, and a lot of the others have been rude and grabby and far too old to be trick-or-treating), or else be suspected of child sex offences.

Your kids don’t light up everyone else’s life, believe it or not, and it’s only through the kindness of strangers that they get to have an evening like this at all.

DragonFly98 · 31/10/2023 19:43

So a man was kind enough to give your children sweets and your response is to go on social media and call him a peadophile.

Northernsouloldies · 31/10/2023 19:43

Op keep your poisonous opinion to yourself that a person might be a paedophile, they might have mh issues, learning disabilities so I suggest you keep off of fb that the guy at no 7 is a nonce. Oh and did you accept sweets from said sex offender.

bossybloss · 31/10/2023 19:46

WashingAt30 · 31/10/2023 19:15

It's nice when someone opens the door to you, and they at least smile, and maybe have a little chat about the DC's costumes. My god, some people don't even look happy, just shove a bag of sweets at you as close the door! I wouldn't be surprised if one creepy man we met was on some kind of offenders register. Why bother if you're not going to get into the spirt?!

Maybe if my husband went to the door, crouched down to speak to the little ones, joking about their costumes you would see him as a creepy man! Ffs 🤦‍♀️ ffs !!

Gothambutnotahamster · 31/10/2023 19:47

Sweets should be enough Op - you sound very ungrateful / entitled!

AvengedQuince · 31/10/2023 19:47

Northernsouloldies · 31/10/2023 19:43

Op keep your poisonous opinion to yourself that a person might be a paedophile, they might have mh issues, learning disabilities so I suggest you keep off of fb that the guy at no 7 is a nonce. Oh and did you accept sweets from said sex offender.

I'm autistic and very glad I'm not male. Children seem to be a bit scared of me if they don't know me, I just don't know how to talk to them like other adults seem to.

ilovesooty · 31/10/2023 19:47

Moreempatheticmyarse · 31/10/2023 19:29

be surprised if one creepy man we met was on some kind of offenders register.

You should work for the police being able to work out so easily who is an offender and who isn't just by how they look and act

Exactly.

FrostieBoabby · 31/10/2023 19:50

I'm not really interested in random people's kids and it's a pain having to get up and answer the door continually after being at work all day and it's letting the cold air in the house.

Yes, I'm a miserable bugger when it's comes to Halloween!

Try sticking to visiting houses with tacky plastic pumpkins 🎃

SoShallINever · 31/10/2023 19:52

I have the opposite problem, the house is decorated, me and the dog are in fancy dress, tubs of sweets and chocolates at the ready.....not one caller. 🙄

Motnight · 31/10/2023 19:54

WashingAt30 · 31/10/2023 19:15

It's nice when someone opens the door to you, and they at least smile, and maybe have a little chat about the DC's costumes. My god, some people don't even look happy, just shove a bag of sweets at you as close the door! I wouldn't be surprised if one creepy man we met was on some kind of offenders register. Why bother if you're not going to get into the spirt?!

Maybe the creepy man whose house you knocked on the door of was concerned about being labelled an offender of some kind.

x2boys · 31/10/2023 19:55

Every year m there are countless threads on here moaning about about Halloween
Its just a warm.up.for the invariable lets suck the joy out if Xmas threads and the competative who can spend the least on their kids at Xmas threads 🙄

Slookie · 31/10/2023 19:56

…. and this is why I am glad I live in a country that doesn‘t do Halloween

mcmooberry · 31/10/2023 20:02

Totally agree with you, just don't do it if you are going to be unpleasant. One year when my children were around 4 and 8 a neighbour up the road was so ungracious that she totally spoiled the evening and I came home and wrote her a letter advising she doesn't bother next time (put my address and name on it, not anonymous) and posted it right through her door that evening. Children polite, no grabbing sweets or taking more than one etc.

pelargoniums · 31/10/2023 20:02

I always answer the door and do a fake jump and go “Aaargh!” then compliment their very scary costumes and wish them happy Halloween. In my experience very small children are brave enough to knock but not to say trick or treat and it’s up to the door answerer to lead them through it.

But really, it’s part of the rich tapestry of life: there’s always someone giving out something awful, like stale digestives, or tonight’s lollipop ghosts (unwrapped chupa chups wrapped in a tissue to look ghostly, but also unhygienic and inedible…), always someone too scary and frightens the little kids, always some drunk students.

Somaliwildass · 31/10/2023 20:03

We probably come across just like this.

It's because we have no decorations up and haven't invited this, I just got in from work and need the inside lights on go see, but don't want the house or cars vandalised as revenge for ignoring strangers who bang on the door.

Handing out random treats that are in my cupboards to entitled brats doesn't exactly fill me with joy, so I'm not going to indulge them further. I'd rather shout, don't bring your kids to my house when you don't know me.

And uncomfortably enough, I'd think those on an offenders register wouldn't be the ones trying to get rid of your kids quickly without engaging.

ComtesseDeSpair · 31/10/2023 20:03

I think if you take your children to knock on strangers’ doors to ask for sweets, you ultimately run the risk, and have to accept it, that some of those strangers may be child sex offenders.

And I’ve never heard of this rule that if you have decorations up you’re fair game for being targeted by kids, but presume this is why I’ve had to turn several away this evening: I presume they’ve been mistaking our colourful outdoor lanterns, up all year round, for a Halloween invitation. Poor sods. I only have fruit in the house.

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