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Are you the star of the show?

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cheesybutter · 30/10/2023 14:27

I was talking to a colleague this weekend (works night out) and she made a comment about how she was the star of the the show. I said "well we're all the star of our own lives" and she said no that out of everyone in her life, her family, friends and colleagues she sees herself as the main player and that everyone else was just a bit part to her staring role and that everything revolved around her, everyone wanted her time and company because she's the star of their lives as well as her own!

She is a single, mid 40's women with no kids, she has a very active social life and in my experience a caring person who does a lot of people but can be a bit of diva but I was shocked that she literally thinks that she is the star not only of her own life but of everybody else's life!

She wasn't even tipsy because she was driving so it wasn't drink talking. In one way I admire her confidence but I also find it kind of bizarre, I don't know perhaps lots of people go about thinking that? I can be preoccupied with my own life and stuff like anyone else but I don't imagine anyone but my nearest and dearest think about me too much at all!

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SisterMichaelsHabit · 30/10/2023 17:23

It depends on the show really, doesn't it? I'd not want to be the star of The Shining or Carrie. Clueless or Kiki's Delivery Service might justify the effort of being the lead.

yellowsmileyface · 30/10/2023 17:24

Sounds like quite a narcissistic perception. If she's being serious, sounds like she experiences delusions of grandeur.

I sometimes get an opposite feeling, where I'm acutely aware I'm just a relatively insignificant background character in many people's lives.

Noseybonk7 · 30/10/2023 17:26

She sounds deluded and narcissistic

SisterMichaelsHabit · 30/10/2023 17:26

In all seriousness though she sounds a bit "in love with herself" and I'd question all her "caring" shyte if you've only heard it from her. Sounds typical of the type of people who want everyone to see them as an amazing person when in their personal life they're controlling self-centred arseholes who think they're it and treat their partner like shyte.

BooBooBaloo · 30/10/2023 17:31

Wow that's some giant ego she has

pizzaHeart · 30/10/2023 17:33

My sibling once stated that she’s like Don Corleone in our family. She said it in a joking way but she really meant it.

JamSandle · 30/10/2023 17:33

She sounds like a narcissist.

SmartiesAndFlakes · 30/10/2023 17:35

I disagree @Angrymum22 , I have met many child free people who are not narcissistic in any way, and conversely many mothers who think they and their children are the most important people on the planet. Some of them quite insufferable.

Anyone who thinks they are the star of my show has no place in my life anyway. What a weird thing to say!

Thequeenofwishfulthinking · 30/10/2023 17:36

She’s a knob.

TheChosenTwo · 30/10/2023 17:39

Wow 😂😂
I’m not even a minor starlet in my one household 🤪

HardcoreLadyType · 30/10/2023 17:44

I think the opposite.

I mean, everyone is the star of their own show, in a way, but often I think of all the people living their own little lives, in the same way that I am living mine. People I will never meet. I am so unimportant to them, and why would it be otherwise?

PictureOfFlorianTray · 30/10/2023 17:48

It's borderline narcissism .

It's a very, very nasty trait.

Breadahead · 30/10/2023 17:51

Hardly surprising that she's single and childless 😂

beeswaxinc · 30/10/2023 17:53

Sounds like she has recently watched the 'Joan is Awful' episode of black mirror recently😅

Confidence and self esteem are obviou sly important and good qualities but main character syndrome is the negative manifestation of these traits.

Gabby8 · 30/10/2023 17:54

By the sounds of it she’s maybe kind and caring, but it’s because she has an agenda to play a principle role in other people’s lives. Making herself ‘in demand’ as it were, rather than actually caring for others. She may or may not be a narcissist but she does sound disingenuous.

notprincehamlet · 30/10/2023 17:57

How can she be the star of everybody's show when that's me?
Mother is that you?

littleburn · 30/10/2023 17:58

What a bizarre thing to say. It makes her sound either a total narcissist or completely coked up! More generously, whilst there's obviously absolutely nothing wrong with being single and child-free in your 40s, maybe that's not where she wants to be. Maybe convincing herself that she's absolutely central to everyone's existence is a coping mechanism.

intherough · 30/10/2023 18:14

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 30/10/2023 17:12

She sounds ridiculous... totally lacking in any kind of normal self awareness.

Nobody is the star of anyone else's show, that's just common sense.

This

ColinFuckingRobinson · 30/10/2023 18:20

That's the kind of thing my aunt says when she's having a (now rare) manic episode. She cringes with excruciating embarrassment once it's over.

PrestonHood121 · 30/10/2023 18:28

Posturing because deep down, she’s worried she doesn’t really matter to anyone.

LaviniasBigBloomers · 30/10/2023 18:31

I'm managing the aftermath of a bereavement with a similar person and honestly, at least yours said it out loud. The sheer volume of drama around people not centering her experience and her experience only is exhausting.

LoobyDop · 30/10/2023 18:34

Angrymum22 · 30/10/2023 17:01

In my experience most single, childless women are the centre of their own universe. They have no one else to think about. I don’t mean it in a mean way, but those of us with DH,DC, a dog, a cat, etc. always put everyone else before ourselves. It’s our default setting. Although, I do know a few women who despite having all the above are still the centre of their own universe. It’s known as narcissism.

Are you deluded enough to think that you or your children ought to be the star of your childfree friends’ shows? Because they’re too tragic to have anything else of value? (obviously you may well not have any childfree friends)

”I don’t mean it in a mean way” my arse.

GuitarGeorgina · 30/10/2023 18:40

how narcissistic

Onethingatatime23 · 30/10/2023 18:43

Does sound rather narcissistic. I'd sack her even from her own show personally and replace her with a cheap, keen newcomer 😂

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