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Would you find this message weird?

81 replies

aretok · 26/10/2023 15:12

If your partner, who lived with you, sent you this. Would you find it weird?

"Would love to catch you as soon as I am finished work. You looked so gorgeous yesterday"

No plans of meeting before he comes now

OP posts:
Fancylike · 26/10/2023 18:22

Agreeing with others here, that message was for someone else. My guess is that it’s someone in his office/building who he sees often in passing but not working with directly. He’s hoping to leave work at the same time with them, for a bit of whatever stage of the affair he’s up to.

I would not let him know you’ve cottoned on, just stay aware and look for more evidence. Or if your sex life is already dead, drop him and leave him to it.

mrsbyers · 26/10/2023 18:23

Tell him he needs to come home now , this doesn’t sounds right at all or go to his work and see if he is there

Someoneonlyyouknow · 26/10/2023 18:23

The telling bit for me is that he sent that kind of message to you when you were first dating. He is starting (or trying to start) a new relationship

Misspacorabanne · 26/10/2023 18:25

im sorry op! That clearly isn’t for you, and now he’s obviously seeing her after work!
You deserve so much better! Leave him!!

DNAwrangler · 26/10/2023 18:26

Is he a bit… slow?! Unless he wants you to find out he should’ve obviously cancelled anything that ‘came up’ this evening…

Whathappensnow11 · 26/10/2023 18:34

Yup, seems dodgy....and now he's working late.....I'd be in the car doing some spy stuff right now....but that's just me lol.

ExTheCheater · 26/10/2023 18:37

I'd read that as he's having an affair with someone he saw yesterday. Maybe works near him or in the same building. He wants to catch them before they go home, when he leaves work.

OooohAhhhh · 26/10/2023 18:44

Working late? Seriously, after that message? Surely you can put the two together?
Either he didn't mean to send you the first text and it was meant for someone else, but then pretended it was meant for you or....
he is letting you know plain as day what he's up to.
Either way it isn't looking good.

Ididntknowuntiliknew · 26/10/2023 18:45

I would be advising him not to bother coming home.
So sorry. What a twat he is.

Foodorder · 26/10/2023 18:50

Oh wow he's not even trying to hide it now is he? There's "someone" he wants to "catch" as soon as he finishes work and now he's mysteriously working late when apparently he was desperate to get home to you. So sorry OP.

It might not have even been a mistake, this way you get to do his dirty work for him by ending things.

SleepingStandingUp · 26/10/2023 18:52

readbooksdrinktea · 26/10/2023 18:22

This.

However, in light of update: not great. That would make me wonder.

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Arc after work, yes, but with who?
She looked gorgeous yesterday but they spent the night together, didn't have sec and he saw her this morning. Catch her tonight? They live together and have no other plans

lemmein · 26/10/2023 18:59

DNAwrangler · 26/10/2023 18:26

Is he a bit… slow?! Unless he wants you to find out he should’ve obviously cancelled anything that ‘came up’ this evening…

This. The audacity of the cheeky fucker to carry on with his plans!

DNAwrangler · 26/10/2023 19:02

it doesn’t look good, sorry OP.

it doesn’t sound like you are enamored with this relationship, so maybe use this as a chance to think about what YOU want. Whether / who he is seeing is all secondary, really.

Cowhen · 26/10/2023 19:30

I agree with PP that his working late after that message is highly suspicious. :(

Whiskerson · 26/10/2023 19:32

OK, so he has a porn addiction, and now he is blatantly cheating on you, and lying to you.

Please, please, please tell him to pack his bags.

Don't invite him to insult your intelligence with more lies. Just tell him (as calmly and firmly as you can) that you've had enough and it's over, no discussion.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 26/10/2023 19:32

Your partner is having sex with someone else.

I don't know whose name is on your house/flat, but if it's in your name, pack his stuff and leave it on the doorstep. Then leave your key in the door/snib the lock so that he can't get in.

dapsnotplimsolls · 26/10/2023 19:35

LTB.

Hiddenvoice · 26/10/2023 19:59

If my dh sent that to me then I’d probably think it was meant for someone else. It doesn’t seem very romantic or what you’d send your live in partner

ThreeRingCircus · 26/10/2023 20:06

I was 99% sure that text was meant for someone else until I read your last update. Now I'm 100% sure, and I think you are too.

What a fucking moron he is. He sounds absolutely thick. Kick this porn addicted imbecile out.

Azaleah · 26/10/2023 20:49

@aretok So he's gone from porn addict to bloody cheater. Kick this @rsehole out of your life.

itsmyp4rty · 26/10/2023 20:58

That clearly wasn't for you and now he's completely taking the piss by 'working late' and not even bothering to rush home for sex to keep up the ruse.

Make sure when he gets home that you're clearly anticipating some hot sex and see how many seconds it takes him to decide that unfortunately he's too tired after working so hard.

What a bastard.

itsmyp4rty · 26/10/2023 20:59

Azaleah · 26/10/2023 20:49

@aretok So he's gone from porn addict to bloody cheater. Kick this @rsehole out of your life.

I reckon the porn addict thing was an excuse to avoid sex with the OP while he was busy shagging his bit on the side.

OooohAhhhh · 26/10/2023 21:01

Is he back home? What did you say?

Azaleah · 26/10/2023 21:05

Anyway, thank goodness for the Freudian slip text message. That's my Pollyanna optimism talking.

Almostateeagersmum2023 · 26/10/2023 21:06

I’d FaceTime him and tell him if he didn’t answer and show you he was in work then he’s out.

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