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Would you find this message weird?

81 replies

aretok · 26/10/2023 15:12

If your partner, who lived with you, sent you this. Would you find it weird?

"Would love to catch you as soon as I am finished work. You looked so gorgeous yesterday"

No plans of meeting before he comes now

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TookTheBook · 26/10/2023 16:13

Have you seen him since yesterday? It doesn't make sense for it to be for you. He definitely meant that for someone else, either a colleague or friend he saw yesterday.

Azaleah · 26/10/2023 16:20

Is English HIS first language?

EmpressSoleil · 26/10/2023 16:45

You looked so gorgeous yesterday

It's this bit that doesn't make sense to me, if it was to you. Wouldn't he have said "this morning" rather than yesterday? Did you see him this morning? Did he want sex yesterday but for some reason it wasn't possible? Were you particularly dressed up yesterday? The "catch you" bit could be explained away but this bit doesn't make sense to me. Also is this something he would usually send you?

Catsanfan · 26/10/2023 16:48

OP, my first thought is that he wants to bang the moment he walks through the door, don't be too worried

EnjoyTheMushrooms · 26/10/2023 16:59

somebody else

KitCatKitty · 26/10/2023 17:06

Very weird. To me the "catch you" implies that seeing whoever this message is for after work is not a given. Presumably if you live together then there's no catching for him to do, you'll be there. And the "you looked so gorgeous yesterday" suggests that he was not able to comment on this person's gorgeousness when he saw them yesterday.

I'd be on your guard OP. So sorry this is happening to you x

TerrysNeapolitan · 26/10/2023 17:13

It sounds like he is talking to a third party. Not you.

LakeTiticaca · 26/10/2023 17:33

Hmmmm....that's the kind of text my OH might have sent 30 years ago when were in the first flush of romance......now?
No ruddy chance 😉

ThreeRingCircus · 26/10/2023 17:38

I'm sorry, it does read to me like it's meant for someone else. It's too weird an expression. "Catch you" to me means meet up, not have sex with your partner. And if he meant you looked gorgeous he'd have said "you looked so gorgeous this morning" if he's seen you since yesterday.

LadyWiddiothethird · 26/10/2023 17:40

Clearly that message is not for you OP.

Wolfen · 26/10/2023 17:42

Was there a reason he couldn't have sex with you yesterday, seeing as you looked so gorgeous?

Otherwise I'd be sending him a
Message saying 'you must think I'm stupid'

Jessforless · 26/10/2023 17:43

I initially read it as he wants to have sex when he gets home…

ginasevern · 26/10/2023 17:44

@aretok

I'm taking "catch you" to mean catch up with you. As in, before I/you leave the office. I doesn't make sense to use that phrase for someone waiting at home. OP, does he ever send you texts like this or would it be out of character?

JMLStickyBuddy · 26/10/2023 17:48

If you dressed up yesterday for some sort of occasion I'd be more inclined to believe him.

CandyCane75 · 26/10/2023 17:56

I'd be checking his phone regularly.
It could be innocent, but sounds like it was meant for someone else and sent to you by accident.

SleepingStandingUp · 26/10/2023 17:58

aretok · 26/10/2023 15:12

If your partner, who lived with you, sent you this. Would you find it weird?

"Would love to catch you as soon as I am finished work. You looked so gorgeous yesterday"

No plans of meeting before he comes now

That to me would suggest he isn't sure if he'll see you today, he saw you yesterday and you looked gorgeous but he didn't get to do anything about it.

If you live together and he was home last night and you assumed you were both home tonight then sorry, it definitely looks like it was made for someone else.

Probably not having sex with them but definitely working on it

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aretok · 26/10/2023 18:04

SleepingStandingUp · 26/10/2023 17:58

That to me would suggest he isn't sure if he'll see you today, he saw you yesterday and you looked gorgeous but he didn't get to do anything about it.

If you live together and he was home last night and you assumed you were both home tonight then sorry, it definitely looks like it was made for someone else.

Probably not having sex with them but definitely working on it

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Yes that is the case. We saw each other yesterday and spent the night together, I also saw him this morning before work. We didn't have sex yesterday.

Our sex life has been virtually non-existent, but he put it down to his porn addiction.

He's never sent those types of messages to me. Or not since we had just started dating anyways.

English is his first language.

He told me his message was meant to be romantic and he didn't want to come across as boring.

He just texted me that he'll be working late.

Ugh

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Carrotcake93 · 26/10/2023 18:12

LTB!

VisionsOfSplendour · 26/10/2023 18:16

aretok · 26/10/2023 18:04

Yes that is the case. We saw each other yesterday and spent the night together, I also saw him this morning before work. We didn't have sex yesterday.

Our sex life has been virtually non-existent, but he put it down to his porn addiction.

He's never sent those types of messages to me. Or not since we had just started dating anyways.

English is his first language.

He told me his message was meant to be romantic and he didn't want to come across as boring.

He just texted me that he'll be working late.

Ugh

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In no way is that a romantic message, he needs to stop digging

What kind of work environment is he in?

determinedtomakethiswork · 26/10/2023 18:17

Janieforever · 26/10/2023 15:24

I also assumed he wanted to have sex when he gets home.

Would you really? It seems pretty obvious the message isn't for the OP.

Justcallmebebes · 26/10/2023 18:17

From your update "he just text to tell me he's working late", I don't think original text was meant for you.

Initially, I was prepared to give him the benefit of the doubt. Not after that

determinedtomakethiswork · 26/10/2023 18:18

I think he has a lot of explaining to do. However, with a lot of men, they will not do the explaining, they just wait until you are either driven crazy or figure it out for yourself.

However, that message is pretty clear. The fact he's not having sex with you as well, makes it even clearer.

TheShellBeach · 26/10/2023 18:21

I'm sorry OP - have you any other reasons not to trust him?

MsRosley · 26/10/2023 18:21

Justcallmebebes · 26/10/2023 18:17

From your update "he just text to tell me he's working late", I don't think original text was meant for you.

Initially, I was prepared to give him the benefit of the doubt. Not after that

Yup. Shady as fuck.

readbooksdrinktea · 26/10/2023 18:22

Janieforever · 26/10/2023 15:24

I also assumed he wanted to have sex when he gets home.

This.

However, in light of update: not great. That would make me wonder.