Nearly in a serious car accident - hand hold please

[Usedandhurt]

Im literally shaking. Just had a driver nearly kill me and my dc on the motorway. He/she must have not checked before they pulled onto the motorway from a slip road, I literally had to slam on the breaks to avoid crashing into them and thankfully the driver behind me and the one behind them etc etc were able to stop also. My dc would have been very badly hurt - it was a huge bus and I can only imagine the driver got distracted.

Im a nervous driver at the best of times and Im literally sick with nerves.

Was it a slip road or a junction? You're not supposed to stop and wait for a space on a slip road. The point of a slip road is to give you time to get up to speed of the main motorway then...slip on to it. You're not supposed to crawl along it then stop and wait. If you see a vehicle level with you on a slip road you need to either slow down or get out of the way because they are about to join your lane.

Sounds scary OP. pleased you reported it. Maybe he will think twice next time. Have an early night and chill. Pleased you’re ok xx

ITs a motorway, if someone moves into a lane in front of you with no notice what do you do?.

But that's not the same thing. Someone swapping lanes without indicating or using their mirrors is indeed dangerous and would cause any driver to take avoiding action.

However, every single vehicle approaching from a slip road is going to want to join the motorway. The slip road does not sneak up on you unnoticed, or shouldn't. You know you are at a junction, you know traffic is going to want to merge, you plan accordingly.

Post it Im so glad Im not your friend. You sound awful

Why do you keep saying ‘at speed?’

You should be getting up to the speed of traffic on a slip road to join.

It’s not normal to get to the end and stop.

I'm wondering this too. It would make more sense. Although there wouldn't be a junction on a motorway would there?

You could actually try to keep your catty comments to yourself!

Not criticising your driving, but as a former motorcyclist I treat everyone else on the road as a homicidal maniac.

Whenever I see a slip road off the motorway I realise that a little further on there is a slipway onto the motorway and is at that point I move over into the middle lane. It gives you much more time to find a gap.

Have you thought about doing a session with the institute of advanced motorists? They would be able to give you a lot of tips that might help you become more confident?

Sorry you've had this bad experience, but I'm surprised at your over reaction.

You say you've been 'violently I'll' since you got home, and have had to sip water?

You do realise you weren't in the accident right?? As in it didn't actually happen, it was just a near miss?

Maybe you should be driving if you are this nervous?

Nobody crosses their arms whilst steering

proving my point

People do get nervous you know.

The OP managed to avoid a collision - that has to count for something???

Thanks all for your response. I have had a lovely chat with the police officer who called me back to say he cannot get through to the bus company as the switchboard is closed for the night but he will be dealing with this in the morning. I again asked if I had behaved in any way incorrectly and he assured me not. Strangely, like the Highway Code states, the onus is on the person joining to ensure that it is safe, not everyone else to get out of his/her way. For all your lovely posters who were kind and caring - thank you - I really appreciate your support. For the rest, I dread to think what your driving record is😂

I hope you feel better soon OP, I’ve been in a car before where a coach nearly went into us and it was horrible.

Don’t worry about the unsupportive responses. You get some weird people on here who just want to show off about how amazing they think they are at driving and act like they’re the only woman who understands how to use the motorway.

😂 Yeah ok.

Every driver will have had a near miss (or many) either through their own errors or those of another driver. Driving isn't always about doing the right things, it is also about driving defensively. I would fail the hazard perception test as potentially everything is a hazard, so I'd be constantly clicking the mouse. (And then fail)

You are ok OP, and dealt with the situation. That's the important thing.

This! I'm not sure what some of the twats on here know what "having priority" means.

Maybe she means a side road on a duel carriageway or something like that. I'm confused by how she didn't see or predict the bus on a slip road was going to join her lane, or the comments about her previously waiting at this "junction".

Hope you feel better soon OP. Next time best to speak with family and friends not the tossers on this thread

For the rest, I dread to think what your driving record is😂

Just normal people who see a sliproad ahead and either move over or slow down. Still can’t understand how a bus could surprise you unless you thought he should stop at the end to let you pass.

Of course some people do! It's a bad driving technique (although not illegal) so driving instructors should be advising people to do the hand to hand/push pull technique instead. But some people have bad habits.

It’s not normal to get to the end and stop.

But sometimes it is necessary. This was one of those times.

What on earth is that supposed to mean? Our driving record???

Just because I'm not a nervous wreck like you when driving, doesn't mean I've got a bad driving record??! 😂😂😂

Quite the opposite.

This is a lovely and kind response, wish more were like yours