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Who is your “SIL”?

109 replies

Raincloudsonasunnyday · 23/10/2023 22:50

Is it:

  1. your DH’s sister
  2. your brother’s wife
  3. your DH’s brother’s wife
  4. 1 and 2 only
  5. all of 1, 2 and 3?

Having a not-quite-an-argument with my DH.

OP posts:
overfeckinstimulated · 23/10/2023 22:51

All of them

murasaki · 23/10/2023 22:51

4

jaychops · 23/10/2023 22:51

All

DrinkingAllTheGin · 23/10/2023 22:51

All

maimeo · 23/10/2023 22:52

One and two only. Not related at all to three!

SlippinJanie · 23/10/2023 22:52

All of them

SarahLKelp · 23/10/2023 22:52

All of them

CurlewKate · 23/10/2023 22:52

All of the above. And, Mumsnet notwithstanding, for those of us no longer living in the 1950s, DH can be replaced by DP!

Sommerled · 23/10/2023 22:52

All of them

EthicalNonMahogany · 23/10/2023 22:52

all

Bellabluea · 23/10/2023 22:52

All

Wimpod · 23/10/2023 22:52

I had to think there. But yeah all of them. 🥴

BarbieKew · 23/10/2023 22:52

All of the above, for me. Might depend how close you are in option 3.

Definitely/legally/traditionally the first two, but I do call my husband’s brother’s wife my SIL.

RosesAndHellebores · 23/10/2023 22:53

My SILs are DH's sisters. He has no brothers and I have no siblings. If that were different, all the options.

Wimpod · 23/10/2023 22:53

If his brother is my BIL, I guess it follows that his wife is my SIL 🤷🏻

Original poster
Raincloudsonasunnyday · 23/10/2023 22:53

maimeo · 23/10/2023 22:52

One and two only. Not related at all to three!

Really?!

Are your DH’s brother’s DC related to you?

OP posts:
potatoheads · 23/10/2023 22:53

Weird thinking about it. My brother's wife is my SIL as he is my brother. DH isn't my brother so why is his sister my SIL.

Patchworksack · 23/10/2023 22:53

All of them.

murasaki · 23/10/2023 22:54

I'm surprised to be in the minority. But then I don't really call second cousins etc cousins, and have no truck with random adults called auntie and uncle.

NouveauNom · 23/10/2023 22:54

1 and 2 only. I don't know if we have a term in English for one's husband's brother's wife. (Although I'd probably still call #3 my SIL for convenience).

Original poster
Raincloudsonasunnyday · 23/10/2023 22:55

CurlewKate · 23/10/2023 22:52

All of the above. And, Mumsnet notwithstanding, for those of us no longer living in the 1950s, DH can be replaced by DP!

I hear you, but I think the law begs to differ…

OP posts:
Cadburysucks · 23/10/2023 22:55

In other cultures there’s specific names for all of them.

TheFormidableMrsC · 23/10/2023 22:55

My ex-DH's, brother's wives remain my SILS. My late brother's wife has never been a SIL as such, she was not interested in having that relationship and that is ok if a bit sad for me.

Dragonsandcats · 23/10/2023 22:56

All of them.

Dragonsandcats · 23/10/2023 22:56

What did you think OP?