My sister is dreadfully selfish and very self-centered. She does absolutely NOTHING to help or support my mum who lives on her own. She buggered off down south many years ago, has a career, a child and makes zero effort to do things which are convenient for anybody else. A lot Everything is on my shoulders. I also have a brother with a disability and needs a lot of help. When my mum passes, it will probably fall on me to help him too. Because I am the one who stayed closest to my mum, it has fallen on me to help out with everything. Obviously, it's my mum so I don't mind, but it does piss me off that I feel like I am on my own and my sister gets to live her life down south without doing anything.
My dd has a dentist appointment on Monday, and now I'm having to cancel it because she and my mum are going to see my sister down south because that's the only day she can make it apparently. This is just one very small thing. For Christmas, it's too expensive for my sister (who has a career) to come and spend anytime with my mum, so the emphasis is always, always, on my mum to fork out to go down there. Then there is the presents issue. My sister decided years ago that she 'doesn't do Christmas' so my dd never gets a present, or my mum. Yet, my dd likes to give her dd a present.
I don't even know why I started this thread...is anyone else in a similar position?! Obviously, I will continue to support my mum and do everything I can because she is a widow but I wish my sister would step up once in a while.