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Message from beyond the grave

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fuffa · 17/10/2023 21:42

I do a lot of family history research. Through my interest I discovered a family member doesn't have the birth father they thought they did.

This family member is happy for me to help them discover their birth father and I have spent some time investigating this.

Today, I spoke to another family member who went to a spiritualist last night and had a message to pass onto me telling me to stop delving into the past. It is believed the message is from the man who we all thought was the birth father but isn't.

I'm not looking to discuss how I came to discover this about the claimed birth father, or how this family member now knows their father isn't their birth father. I'm looking to find out people's opinions or whether you would stop investigating based on the message received last night.

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DustyLee123 · 17/10/2023 21:43

Why don’t you just do a DNA test like Ancestry ?

AuroraForever · 17/10/2023 21:46

No because the message is bogus! Someone in the living world doesn’t want you poking around. Agree with a PP and do a dna test.

EmpressaurusOfCats · 17/10/2023 21:46

Did the family member who went to the spiritualist already know what you were doing?

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Buggerthislove · 17/10/2023 21:47

I'd carry on the research, the suspicious part of my brain says the relative with the message via the spiritualist knows all about the history and doesn't think you should carry on.

Gardeningtime · 17/10/2023 21:47

Well no as that’s not real and you know that right?

HermioneWeasley · 17/10/2023 21:47

There’s no such thing as messages from beyond the grave. A living person doesn’t want you looking into it, which would make me more interested personally

LuluBlakey1 · 17/10/2023 21:47

What a lot of rubbish- can't believe you are taking it seriously!

Oohmontydon · 17/10/2023 21:49

I'm really not sure. I am a believer of psychics - well some of them as there are lots of charlatans around - but it's an odd message to receive. Could the psychic know the person involved do you think? I wonder if it will open up a bigger can of worms that could hurt even more people.

LeonBlack · 17/10/2023 21:50

Don’t be silly. You do know there’s no such thing as a message from beyond the grave? 😂

Quitelikeit · 17/10/2023 21:52

following

eandz13 · 17/10/2023 21:55

Depends if you believe in that sort of thing.

Me personally? No, it wouldn't put me off (if my family member wanted the help obvs), as I don't believe in 'spiritualists' or the like. I believe they're cold readers and they say things that can apply to anyone and everyone. If the person seeing the spiritualist is a big believer they're more likely to offer the spiritualist some insight into their current situation, too (eg. Asking the spiritualist specifically what the deceased thinks of a particular current affair).
I'll hazard a guess that the person that went seeing the spiritualist already had their reservations about this, the spiritualist picked up on this and it gave them a better idea of what answer to give.

EasterMummie · 17/10/2023 21:58

Do you suspect the person who received the bogus spiritual message might have some involvement in what you are researching? Because I do.

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fuffa · 17/10/2023 22:00

I'm not a believer but this person who went is close to me and has made it clear that they think this family member who died has come through to them telling me to stop. They were aghast when I said I wouldn't be unless the person who is the child in all this didn't want me to.

It's so bizarre. I had no idea when I started all this I would be feeling like I lived in a paranormal movie.

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Jewelspun · 17/10/2023 22:01

If the dead man wanted you to stop investigating I'm sure he could tell you himself in some way such as writing in condensation on your bathroom mirror whilst your having a shower or shoving you down the stairs.

RosieMilkJug · 17/10/2023 22:02

Rosabelle - look - tell

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fuffa · 17/10/2023 22:02

Yes, the person who went to the spiritualist knew I was doing this. I didn't tell them because I know their feelings on things like this ("digging" around in the past), someone else in the family told them.

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SecondUsername4me · 17/10/2023 22:03

Is the person who went to the spiritualist likely to be the father? Or the wife of the father?

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fuffa · 17/10/2023 22:04

They didn't go for a one on one reading but were picked out of an audience because the spiritualist mentioned something specific about this situation that made my family member speak up that the message was specifically for them.

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OrlandointheWilderness · 17/10/2023 22:04

Jewelspun · 17/10/2023 22:01

If the dead man wanted you to stop investigating I'm sure he could tell you himself in some way such as writing in condensation on your bathroom mirror whilst your having a shower or shoving you down the stairs.

😂

SharonEllis · 17/10/2023 22:04

No of course not!

EmpressaurusOfCats · 17/10/2023 22:05

fuffa · 17/10/2023 22:04

They didn't go for a one on one reading but were picked out of an audience because the spiritualist mentioned something specific about this situation that made my family member speak up that the message was specifically for them.

So the spiritualist cast a line & caught your family member. How specific is specific?

SecondUsername4me · 17/10/2023 22:06

fuffa · 17/10/2023 22:04

They didn't go for a one on one reading but were picked out of an audience because the spiritualist mentioned something specific about this situation that made my family member speak up that the message was specifically for them.

What, like "a brown haired man who loved football is speaking to me"

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GoodOldEmmaNess · 17/10/2023 22:06

Really the question is: 'I have a relative who feels unhappy about me looking into family secrets from the past. Should I defer to his/her preferences?'

Borborygmus · 17/10/2023 22:06

You must surely know that spiritualists are con artists.

PatriciaHolm · 17/10/2023 22:07

Well, I think that's your answer! Either they are using the visit as an excuse to tell you to stop because they don't approve, or they have chosen to interpret something meaningless from the visit "ohhhh someone you know needs to be careful!" Or some such gibberish as A Warning....