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Would you be happy for DH to take part..Strictly come dancing

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itsallfunand · 17/10/2023 07:06

Watching strictly on Saturday and seeing how close the celebrities get to their dancing partner and I remember reading some celebrities had gone on to leave long term partners to go on to marry and have babies with their partner.

It got me thinking I wouldn't be happy for my DH to take part in SCD. I wouldn't be comfortable with them getting so close, spending so much time together, even though I 100% trust DH. discussing in work a colleague said I couldn't trust him if that's how I felt 🤷🏼‍♀️

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ThePoshUns · 17/10/2023 07:08

Oh yes those female dancers fall for every male they meet 🙄

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itsallfunand · 17/10/2023 07:09

ThePoshUns · 17/10/2023 07:08

Oh yes those female dancers fall for every male they meet 🙄

Not all of them do but it does happen, and the other way round

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MyCircumference · 17/10/2023 07:10

i remember debbie harry demonstrating the close dancing on graham Norton

EfficientlyDecluttering · 17/10/2023 07:10

Well, mine hates dancing so much there is zero chance even if he was a celebrity. But for all those that have had affairs there are many more that have had life-changingly brilliant experiences, got fit, lost weight etc without being unfaithful. If it was me and DH tried to stop me or even just didn't support me doing it I'd be questioning my relationship anyway.

MyCircumference · 17/10/2023 07:11

or was it debbie harry?

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itsallfunand · 17/10/2023 07:12

I love dancing but I would feel uncomfortable dancing with a male partner getting that close, must just be me then.

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Nopetryagain · 17/10/2023 07:13

For a show presented as wholesome entertainment I think it’s really grim to be honest.

I get that the professionals aren’t the ones cheating on their spouses but it seems very unprofessional to embark on an affair.

KatyN · 17/10/2023 07:16

Our biggest argument in 17 years is about strictly.
My then fiancé said 'No wife of mine would go in strictly'
I kicked off questioning how many wives he was planning on having.
It went on for HOURS.

There may have been alcohol involved

MyCircumference · 17/10/2023 07:18

nope, it was Pamela Stephenson demonstrating on the graham norton show

Patchworksack · 17/10/2023 07:21

I trust my DH but I would be uncomfortable with him spending 8? hours every day with a young and beautiful woman in a situation designed to promote emotional and physical closeness, on a ‘journey’ together. It’s not surprising there have often been affairs.
He’s not a celebrity or a dancer so I’m unlikely to have to confront it.

pickledandpuzzled · 17/10/2023 07:27

I think the professionals have a very different approach to intimacy, as dancers strip off and get physically close together all the time. I think it’s easier for the celebrity to get confused. I noticed Bobby’s partner did a whole lot of mentioning ’like a little brother’ which I thought was her putting in boundaries!

I wonder if professionals might be more relaxed about physical faithfulness as a result, though. I sometimes think the family gets wheeled out when there’s concern about boundaries getting blurred!

I’d hope there was a programme counsellor giving pep talks and advice! It’s all very intense.

YoghurtCoatedMeerkats · 17/10/2023 07:52

I'm married and started going to beginners' jive classes with another married friend (both female). We assumed we'd be dancing together, but the format was men in a circle and the women rotated around the circle, so every woman danced with every man and vice versa. I found it very strange to be in such close physical contact with random men. The teachers would demonstrate moves then we'd practise to music. Often they'd stop us while in a close hold and explain and demonstrate the next move while we held the position. So, standing arms around each other or holding hands trying to act like that wasn't weird. A great way to meet men if you're single and looking for a relationship, but we stopped going after 3 weeks.

With SCD, the professionals don't give that kind of physical closeness a second thought, but the celebs may read something into it (maybe like emotional closeness with a therapist) particularly with the more sensual dances. I do find the pawing at each other during judges comments really odd and unprofessional though and no I wouldn't be happy for my DH to take part (highly unlikely as he's not a celeb and doesn't dance!).

SundayCherry · 17/10/2023 08:35

Well it is true that you can’t trust him 100% then because if you did 100% implies that it would be ok.

Beezknees · 17/10/2023 09:04

Well you don't trust him 100% obviously or you wouldn't mind.

SirChenjins · 17/10/2023 09:06

Yes, if he wanted to - it would be a hoot, and I'd be very proud of him for putting himself out there.

SallyWD · 17/10/2023 09:09

I wouldn't be happy but of it was his dream I'd just put up with it. Obviously celebs go on it as a career move so I suppose their partners support it for that reason.

AnnaMagnani · 17/10/2023 09:15

Quite happy as I've seen him dance and he'd be out in week 1 😂

VeridicalVagabond · 17/10/2023 09:24

Surely the point of 100% trust in a relationship is that you trust that when their faithfulness is seriously challenged it will remain strong and they'll stay true to you?

"I trust you, except...." isn't really 100% trust is it? And that's actually ok. Blind trust isn't a requirement of a relationship. It's ok to not want your partner to put themselves in a position where cheating would be possible or easy. But you don't 100% trust him if that's the case.

Laurdo · 17/10/2023 09:33

Wouldn't bother me at all. I trust him 100% and I know if the woman was inappropriate in the slightest way he would stop dancing with her.

Robotalkingrubbish · 17/10/2023 09:35

I felt uncomfortable watching Amanda and Giovanni being interviewed, as Giovanni had is hand on Amanda’s thigh during the entire interview. It looked very sexual and possessive. If I was the partner of either of them I would not be happy.

BinturongsSmellOfPopcorn · 17/10/2023 09:37

If someone is going to cheat, they'll find a way; if they aren't, they won't. It's a matter of honesty and morals, not circumstance.

I've done ballroom & Latin dancing. I've (separately from the dancing) been in far more intense working situations. Neither ever tempted me to cheat.

QueenOfTheLabyrinth · 17/10/2023 09:43

I get that the professionals aren’t the ones cheating on their spouses but it seems very unprofessional to embark on an affair.

The professionals most definitely have cheated on their partners and it’s extra awkward when those partners are on the show too!

Shirley has just released a book set in the dance world and from what I gather, shagging each other behind the scenes is quite common in the professional dance world. That’s why so many of them actually end up romantically involved with their professional dance partners.

OceanicBoundlessness · 17/10/2023 09:43

Any other sport where there's some risk and a need to depend on the people you do the sport with will build a closeness and bonding.

Rock climbing
White water
Mountain trekking

Boundaries are very important.

Too some extent anyone in a high pressured role that involved teamwork or close partner work would also have this. Especially if working away and having to eat out together.

and so on.

Frodedendron · 17/10/2023 09:44

Does anyone else feel they wouldn't trust themselves? I'm 99% certain I wouldn't cheat but (in a fantasy universe where they'd want me) I wouldn't be first in line to volunteer to go on it, not sure I'd want to put myself in the position of being physically and emotionally close to a very attractive man for 12 weeks, never mind my DP.

SmallSoupcon · 17/10/2023 09:53

My experience of the theatre world is that its full of bedhopping, even at an amateur level!
You form incredibly close bonds with people when you're rehearsing and working towards a performance. Problem is, it's an artificial bond that usually falls apart when the show has ended.
I don't fancy any of the pros these days, but if I'd been paired with Matthew Cutler... 😉