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Would you be happy for DH to take part..Strictly come dancing

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itsallfunand · 17/10/2023 07:06

Watching strictly on Saturday and seeing how close the celebrities get to their dancing partner and I remember reading some celebrities had gone on to leave long term partners to go on to marry and have babies with their partner.

It got me thinking I wouldn't be happy for my DH to take part in SCD. I wouldn't be comfortable with them getting so close, spending so much time together, even though I 100% trust DH. discussing in work a colleague said I couldn't trust him if that's how I felt 🤷🏼‍♀️

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KilgoreTrouts · 17/10/2023 09:57

SmallSoupcon · 17/10/2023 09:53

My experience of the theatre world is that its full of bedhopping, even at an amateur level!
You form incredibly close bonds with people when you're rehearsing and working towards a performance. Problem is, it's an artificial bond that usually falls apart when the show has ended.
I don't fancy any of the pros these days, but if I'd been paired with Matthew Cutler... 😉

Yes, I’d agree — intense emotional and physical bonds forged fast, being in a different headspace and often away from home etc. Even if no one lays a finger on anyone, I think the average actor’s bond with other people during rehearsals/filming would be well into Mn’s idea of ‘emotional affair’ territory.

AmazingSnakeHead · 17/10/2023 10:01

I'd be ok with this. I view my DP as a person I'm in a partnership with, not a possession to jealously guard from theft.

It isn't the same but my DP's job requires him to spend all day alone in close physical proximity to a female colleague. I don't mind at all, I'm actually happier than when he was working with a man as they get on better and so he's less grumpy when he comes home. I trust him. And honestly if the only reason he is still with me is lack of physically proximity to other women I'd rather he go off with someone else so that I can find someone who actually wants to be with me.

HowNice23 · 17/10/2023 10:01

Didn't Krishnan say something in the paper about never being so happy as he was on the show and I thought his wife might have found that a bit 🤔

fungibletoken · 17/10/2023 10:02

I don't think my main concern would be cheating, but more generally whether it might make him wistful for a way of life that is a bit of a fantasy. Everyone involved talks about the Strictly Bubble - it's anything between 1-4 months of close physical contact, compliments, being dressed and preened immaculately, being chauffered around, camaraderie etc. Every season at least one of the celebs says something to the effect of: "This is the happiest I've ever been" and DH and I look at each other and say "ouch". Normal life just can't stack up and I think some of the celebs forget that - hence the relationships between celebs and pros tend not to last.

fungibletoken · 17/10/2023 10:05

HowNice23 · 17/10/2023 10:01

Didn't Krishnan say something in the paper about never being so happy as he was on the show and I thought his wife might have found that a bit 🤔

Snap! Every year something like this.

Switcher · 17/10/2023 10:09

I used to do a lot of ballroom dancing as a teenager. I had a regular dance partner, who was also my best friend. He was an amazing dancer. I never fancied him for a second, and I assumed he was gay. It was awful when he later professed his undying love for me, as it meant we couldn't dance together any more, or be friends (he went the whole hog, the threatening suicide if he couldn't be with me bullshit). So...yeah I can imagine if there was attraction on both sides, it would be hard to resist.

Teaandbiscuits60 · 17/10/2023 10:12

SCD it’s a bit close for comfort sometimes isn’t it? I find the Argentine Tango is when the audience can really see if there’s any intentions - remember a certain male swimmer almost kissing Katya at the end ? Katya is no stranger to controversy is she?

Sonolanona · 17/10/2023 10:13

I trust my DH 100% but I still wouldn't like it ! I'd be yelling 'Hands off he's MINE!' at the TV Grin Plus, as others have said, the come down back to real life... back to your HGV darling... would be a bit miserable!

My DH CAN dance and used to compete with his sister, and I've always felt a bit sad that I have two left feet as he would love to dance again, so I'd be feeling jealous on those grounds!

Monkeytrousers04 · 17/10/2023 10:20

I wouldn’t be bothered. The fact that it doesn’t happen to every partner to me suggests that there must have been/ be something wrong with their existing relationship for them to be “tempted” by another. It’d hurt like hell at the time but if ultimately people end up happier then I’m all for it. There are others who end up finding themselves/ more confidence because of being on the show like Louise for example. She didn’t cheat on Jamie but finally doing something for herself made her realise what she’d given up for her husband and kids so left him. I think there are thousands of people out there putting up with the wrong partner in life for so many reasons. If you find something or someone that makes you happier then go for it.

QueenOfTheLabyrinth · 17/10/2023 10:33

HowNice23 · 17/10/2023 10:01

Didn't Krishnan say something in the paper about never being so happy as he was on the show and I thought his wife might have found that a bit 🤔

His WIFE JOKED TO HIS BROTHER (Krishnan joked she talks to his brother now as she doesn’t get to talk to him anymore because he’s so busy) that she doesn’t think he’s been happy the last 32(?) years because of how he is now! Krishnan went on to explain that his day job is very serious so it’s made a difference to him to have something like Strictly to counterbalance the heaviness that comes with his job.

Context is everything.

hellswelshy · 17/10/2023 10:33

Ha yes, me and dh always laugh about the fact it's all abit close and intense with the celebs and their dance partners and have agreed should we suddenly become celebrities then it's a no no 😆I have noticed more than one celebrity kind of 'falling in love' during the show...I did wonder about Hamza last year...

GuitarGeorge · 17/10/2023 10:59

Yes. It would be absolutely hilarious. I can’t think of anyone less suited to this than him.

On a serious note, people will cheat if they want to cheat. If it’s not then it will be somewhere else at some other time.

JustEatTheOneInTheBallPit · 17/10/2023 11:01

There was a “strictly” dance competition in my town about 15 years ago. Local businesses put people forward and entry fees went to charity. The husband of a friend of mine won, but not before he fucked his dance partner in their marital bed.

MoonriseKingdom · 17/10/2023 11:02

My husband is Quentin Wilson level at dancing so I’d have no fears 😄

TheChosenTwo · 17/10/2023 11:02

Never watched it but laughing to myself about the image of burly builder dh with a spray tan wearing sequins and tap shoes 😂
If he’s going to cheat it’s a lot easier to do it away from the glare of the media.

TheLonelyGoatTurd · 17/10/2023 11:05

For me the closeness during the dancing wouldn't bother me, but there's no need to sit together holding hands etc when being interviewed. That's weird.

LightSpeeds · 17/10/2023 11:15

AnnaMagnani · 17/10/2023 09:15

Quite happy as I've seen him dance and he'd be out in week 1 😂

😂😂 I'd like to see that episode.

Graciebobcat · 17/10/2023 11:24

Yes I'd be happy. I like all the dancers so much, you know what, I'd probably understand if he danced off into the sunset with Nadiya Bychkova. Though I don't think she would ditch Kai for my DH TBH.

TillyTrifle · 17/10/2023 11:29

I read one of the celebs talking about this in an interview recently and I thought it was very insightful. I think it was the chef (John?) who danced in a same sex couple last year, I can’t remember who with. He was basically saying that you kind of fall into fake love with the person because you’re so entangled with them in such an extreme situation, but it isn’t real and all fizzles out as soon as the dancing is over. I can absolutely see that would be very easy to happen - you have to rapidly develop an intense close partnership with someone, very close physical contact and trust….of course lines get blurred and feeling could become very complex very quickly. I think that phrase ‘strictly bubble’ probably sums it up best - the bubble will burst at some point but while you’re in it it’s like you and your partner against the world in this crazy, fun media storm.

Graciebobcat · 17/10/2023 11:33

DH can dance a bit- we used to do salsa and ballroom lessons together. He'd be a bit like Krishnan I think, rather endearing and surprising.

I like to think I'd be somewhere between Amanda and Annabel. I'm Amanda's age and do yoga but couldn't execute perfect handstands and splits like she has done. I have some dance experience though so could perhaps be a little more confident than Annabel and maybe have an ounce of her elegance, I'm the same height. Definitely not the same weight though. I would love to dance with Johannes, Gio or Kai.

Scrammymummy · 17/10/2023 11:43

hellswelshy · 17/10/2023 10:33

Ha yes, me and dh always laugh about the fact it's all abit close and intense with the celebs and their dance partners and have agreed should we suddenly become celebrities then it's a no no 😆I have noticed more than one celebrity kind of 'falling in love' during the show...I did wonder about Hamza last year...

I read an interview with Hamza recently and he mentioned that he’s in love with someone but that it’s unrequited 😔he always gazed adoringly at his professional partner so I wouldn’t be surprised if he had feelings for her. Lovely man.

Nonplusultra · 17/10/2023 11:51

I wouldn’t be ok with it. Being honest there’s a lot of Mumsnet Approved things that I wouldn’t be ok with either.

It’s not exactly about trust either - I just don’t think I’d like dh to be publicly dancing quite intimately with another woman. And I wouldn’t be happy about him spending so much time away from us either.

Londonscallingme · 17/10/2023 11:53

KatyN · 17/10/2023 07:16

Our biggest argument in 17 years is about strictly.
My then fiancé said 'No wife of mine would go in strictly'
I kicked off questioning how many wives he was planning on having.
It went on for HOURS.

There may have been alcohol involved

There may have been alcohol involved

😂

TravelInHope · 17/10/2023 12:12

Sounds like you don’t trust him. Perhaps make plans to leave him now, in advance of the day when he does cheat on you?

mydogisthebest · 17/10/2023 12:24

I would be happy if DH wanted to do it. I find men that can dance very sexy.

I would find it a bit weird to watch him dancing very closely with another woman and, to be honest, would not be that keen if he had to do a lift that involved his teacher having her privates literally in his face.

I totally trust him and know if he started having feeling for the pro or she came on to him he would walk away