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Would you be happy for DH to take part..Strictly come dancing

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itsallfunand · 17/10/2023 07:06

Watching strictly on Saturday and seeing how close the celebrities get to their dancing partner and I remember reading some celebrities had gone on to leave long term partners to go on to marry and have babies with their partner.

It got me thinking I wouldn't be happy for my DH to take part in SCD. I wouldn't be comfortable with them getting so close, spending so much time together, even though I 100% trust DH. discussing in work a colleague said I couldn't trust him if that's how I felt 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Northernladdette · 17/10/2023 12:59

Surely this post isn’t for real? 😂😂

bengalcat · 17/10/2023 13:03

I wouldn’t have a problem with it - I’d love to do it myself though.

itsmyp4rty · 17/10/2023 14:15

Monkeytrousers04 · 17/10/2023 10:20

I wouldn’t be bothered. The fact that it doesn’t happen to every partner to me suggests that there must have been/ be something wrong with their existing relationship for them to be “tempted” by another. It’d hurt like hell at the time but if ultimately people end up happier then I’m all for it. There are others who end up finding themselves/ more confidence because of being on the show like Louise for example. She didn’t cheat on Jamie but finally doing something for herself made her realise what she’d given up for her husband and kids so left him. I think there are thousands of people out there putting up with the wrong partner in life for so many reasons. If you find something or someone that makes you happier then go for it.

Unfortunately from what I've read she's been regretting it ever since :-( I think between the show and Daisy Lowe she experienced a different life and wanted to party and have an exciting showbiz time like she was 25 again. But it doesn't seem to have really gone anywhere and he's moved on and had a child with someone else. It's a shame they couldn't find a middle ground between them.

I wouldn't trust anyone 100%, I think it's just naive. The number of people I know who have cheated and you'd never have imagined it in a million years. I think sending someone off to work 8 hours a day in very close physical contact with someone, where they're spending most of that time working one on one, arms around each other, gazing into each each others eyes......in fact in Saturdays show there seemed to be a few dances where they looked like they were going to kiss (as part of the story of course) and i don't think I'd ever noticed that quite so much before.

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itsallfunand · 17/10/2023 14:31

hellswelshy · 17/10/2023 10:33

Ha yes, me and dh always laugh about the fact it's all abit close and intense with the celebs and their dance partners and have agreed should we suddenly become celebrities then it's a no no 😆I have noticed more than one celebrity kind of 'falling in love' during the show...I did wonder about Hamza last year...

I remember Greg Rutherford and you could tell he developed feelings for his partner they way he cried when they got voted off the way he looked at her and then you could see his angry wife in the audience clapping pretending she is okay with it all. It's all a bit weird. The way they cuddle and hands around each other

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LouOrange · 17/10/2023 14:34

He could do it if he wanted to. He wouldn’t though 🤣

If your husband is going to leave you for another woman if they don’t take up ballroom dancing there’ll be something else, it’s a marriage issue not a jazz hands issue.

BogRollBOGOF · 17/10/2023 14:35

DH would be out quicker than you could say Les Dennis.
Stompy and lacks musicality. 😂

He'd be too busy trying to earnestly learn the moves and have his eyes on the glitterball to be seduced and then be stunned when he fell into the dance off.

Blanketpolicy · 17/10/2023 14:39

I dont think I could get over the fits of laughter at the suggestion of dh on SCD to even consider anything else!

JMAngel1 · 17/10/2023 14:39

KatyN · 17/10/2023 07:16

Our biggest argument in 17 years is about strictly.
My then fiancé said 'No wife of mine would go in strictly'
I kicked off questioning how many wives he was planning on having.
It went on for HOURS.

There may have been alcohol involved

😂

SahliJ · 17/10/2023 14:42

OceanicBoundlessness · 17/10/2023 09:43

Any other sport where there's some risk and a need to depend on the people you do the sport with will build a closeness and bonding.

Rock climbing
White water
Mountain trekking

Boundaries are very important.

Too some extent anyone in a high pressured role that involved teamwork or close partner work would also have this. Especially if working away and having to eat out together.

and so on.

Not sport, but my ex DH had an affair with his police officer partner.

Similar (not in costume or spray tan obviously 😆) but a reliance to look after and trust each other, especially as fire arms officers.
Add in long hours sitting, talking in a car all night and shift patterns that meant he and his partner could socialise into the night during the week ( when I had DC’s to take to nursery and a teaching job to get to by 7.45am) and BINGO!

Many do the same!

Slightlydustcovered · 17/10/2023 14:48

Actually that bit wouldn't be an issue for me, but in all honestly I would be jealous as hell of all the time off. I'm sure it's hard physical work but it's a bit, You go off learn new skills make new friends and have fun for weeks on end, meanwhile I'm at home raising our children cracking on with life. Maybe that says more about me than I should admit. Anyway wouldn't happen I'm not married to a celebrity.

Lou982 · 17/10/2023 22:47

I did it for charity! I can’t dance for shit, pulled out the leg warmers and glitter and done flash dance for the craic. Rehearsed for weeks, he’s still my pal and no point did I ever want more than a giggle. Incidentally we raised 9k for RNLI too. If you get the chance do it! X

FiddleLeaf · 17/10/2023 22:52

No and he feels the same. It’s loads of time for starters and secondly, the way the partners physically hang off each other all the time is disrespectful to their real life partners. They all seem to do it 🤷🏻‍♀️

fulawitt · 18/10/2023 00:58

But I know I would not want my husband to be touched by anyone else but me. Not like that. He has one hell of a body I would not want to share it with anyone. Sorry.

AmyandPhilipfan · 18/10/2023 01:46

It is a bit odd how touchy feely they get with their partners during the interviews etc. My husband wouldn't dream of being so demonstrative with another woman so while I'd enjoy seeing him dance, if he was suddenly picking someone up to celebrate their score or kissing her on the side of her forehead while they wait to see if they're in the dance off, then I would start to worry as it would be extremely out of character for him.

SirenSays · 18/10/2023 01:49

I think I'd rather he sleep with another woman than be on strictly.

IhateHPSDeaneCnt · 18/10/2023 04:01

I think it was John Thwaite who said he was initially hurt that his partner (Johannes) didn't spend any breaks during rehearsals with him. He later realised Johannes was deliberately trying to separate the professional side from being 'mates' and segueing into a possible danger zone.

What I would loathe is the sweaty hanging around poor partners' neck whilst they get the judges critique. Poor women are practically wilting whilst being used as a human crutch / sweat absorber!

BlibBlabBlob · 18/10/2023 09:46

Those commenting on their DH's lack of dance ability and/or the fact that he is not a celebrity are missing the point. I'd find it weird watching DH being intimate (because that's what they're doing, it's intimacy despite not being sexual intimacy) on the dance floor. I'd find it unbearable if he was clinging onto another woman, or vice versa, once the dance had finished. I can't understand how the partners of the celebs and the dancers are OK with them cuddling up on the It Takes Two sofa, pawing at each other in the Clauditorium, hugging and kissing (not on the lips) when celebrating success (going through to next week's show) or mourning failure (being kicked out of the show). Nobody should be behaving like that in a professional context, physical intimacy like that belongs between partners and family. I happily hug and cuddle with my daughter. I'm not doing it with a colleague!

Never mind the potential for developing inappropriate feelings when you're spending all day every day in the arms of another person in such a high-pressure situation.

SirChenjins · 18/10/2023 12:47

Blanketpolicy · 17/10/2023 14:39

I dont think I could get over the fits of laughter at the suggestion of dh on SCD to even consider anything else!

Same here! The thought of my very lovely (but objectively - slightly overweight, balding 60 year old) DH strutting his stuff to the tango would be a sight to behold - he and I would both find it hilarious. I'd be dead proud of him for giving it a go though.

whatausername · 18/10/2023 13:08

BogRollBOGOF · 17/10/2023 14:35

DH would be out quicker than you could say Les Dennis.
Stompy and lacks musicality. 😂

He'd be too busy trying to earnestly learn the moves and have his eyes on the glitterball to be seduced and then be stunned when he fell into the dance off.

That is both a stunning and brutal assessment 😂

Straightawayso · 18/10/2023 19:52

I would be happy for my dh to go on strictly. I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him and if the professional is that desperate, she is welcome to him 🤣

afrikat · 18/10/2023 20:03

There was a really interesting interview with Sophie Ellis-Bexter (Baxter?) a few years ago where she said the holding hands and clinging to each other was really pushed by the producers and it made her feel really uncomfortable

minipie · 18/10/2023 20:07

I’m not sure I’d trust myself, so by extension I’m not sure I’d trust DH

There is something incredibly sexy about dancing with someone who really really knows their stuff

(Only semi joking)

shittyshittysangbang · 18/10/2023 20:55

Graciebobcat · 17/10/2023 11:33

DH can dance a bit- we used to do salsa and ballroom lessons together. He'd be a bit like Krishnan I think, rather endearing and surprising.

I like to think I'd be somewhere between Amanda and Annabel. I'm Amanda's age and do yoga but couldn't execute perfect handstands and splits like she has done. I have some dance experience though so could perhaps be a little more confident than Annabel and maybe have an ounce of her elegance, I'm the same height. Definitely not the same weight though. I would love to dance with Johannes, Gio or Kai.

Edited

Gracie

i can see you’ve given the question some thought!

Paintedtoenail · 18/10/2023 21:02

No fucking way would I like this. I already know that I’ve lost it physically in terms of how attractive my husband finds me ( just turned 48 and have also had major surgery recently which has made me gain a bit of weight) so feeling incredibly ugly and insecure as it is.
Nah fuck that

shittyshittysangbang · 18/10/2023 21:06

I absolutely hate the aura of love, adulation and romance the celebrities seem to have for the professionals. Looking at Angela R going all Google-eyed at Kai as she lays her head on his shoulder during comments is a bit much. I know it’s all intense, but it’s not real!

If it was up to me, I ban all that full body hugging and wrapping legs around at the end of dances. I don’t expect them to give them a slap of congrats on the shoulder, but really their end of dance behaviour is a bit intimate.

I wouldn’t put temptation in either DH’s or my way- I am more than half in lust with most of the men, and many of the women!