Overseas Hen Doo. What’s the Budget?

[GimmeGin]

Been invited to a hen next year. Want to go, but think the budget is a bit mad (£1500) for a 3 or 4 night trip.

what did you spend for flights, villa and a few activities? It’s in Europe so nowhere particularly exotic.

do you think £1500 is excessive? I have a young family, and think i would rather spend that on a family holiday for all four of us.

Why not say something along the lines of "It sounds great, but beyond my budget. Can we look at somewhere less expensive?"

So, you get the message across that you don't want to drop out, but want to do something a little more wallet friendly.

i would say that message but instead of can we rethink say ‘so I wouldn’t be able to make it 😥- but absolutely understand if you all can ‘

then others can agree if they feel the same but you won’t have stepped on the organisers toes.

Bloody hell! DH and I are going for 10 nights AI in Turkey next week for £1800, fuck that it's a ridiculous amount to spend on a hen do 😳

Agree with this.

If you're a periphery hen, if you go first, it gives others permission to also say so!

I’d just say, ‘That’s way out of my budget so I’m going to have to drop out.’

For context, I've just got back from a European City break.
4 nights / 5 days. The flights and BnB in total came to £204 each.
Obviously food on top, and any places we pay to go in to, but I couldn't make that up to £1500 however hard I tried.

You are my kind of woman! 👏👏👏👏

I think it is totally OTT. Spend your money on your family and make memories together with them.

i think it’s totally OTT too! But it may be my only chance of an overseas hen (I didn’t have one and neither did any of my close friends). We are obviously a sensible bunch.

However, although i’m a peripheral hen this time, they are a really lovely and fun group of women. Have been on nights out etc, and we always have a laugh.

so I’m hoping it gets downgraded a bit. Seems like £700 is the average spend for most people on here. That is what I was sort of expecting, so was a bit 👀 👀 at the £1500.

nothing else has happened since last week, so maybe there are some side chats going on that I’m not aware of. Watch this space!

I could afford this bit I refuse to spend that amount of money on someone else's wedding celebration. Once you factor in the costs to actually attend the wedding later on, it's too expensive.

What happened to the meal and night out for those who want to go dancing later on?

That’s the kind of hen I had. Drinks dancing etc in home town.

I can afford £1500 too, but can’t justify it when I have other more important things to spend my cash on.

£1500 is absolute madness when you're a "periphery hen". Will you just get an evening invite then to the actual wedding?

I feel a bit sorry for the organiser tbh, surely someone needs to respond, she isn't a mind reader. OP something like " I really want to go to friends hen do, but that's out of my price range. Should we look at other locations?" I mean if you're not hugely in the friendship group you've nothing to lose.

Exactly @rookiemere . It's a week since the OP started the thread, so at least a week since the organiser has put the information in the Group chat.
I can't believe how rude everyone is to not reply.
Even a thumbs up or a "great, count me in", or, as the OP is thinking, "sorry, that's out of my price range, but I hope you all have a great time", or whatever.

Bollocks to that. Get out while you can