Just hoping someone is up

[Upatthiahour]

Ds (nearly 3) has been up since 4. His baby sister was awake at 130, so I’ve had maybe 4 hours sleep. I’m so fed up. I really think if I’d known how awful toddlers are I wouldn’t have had children at all

Bless you,it does get better honestly. Sleep deprivation is the worst thing about having kids, two out of my three were horrendous. 💐

Sell them and get cats.

It's so grim but it gets better. Then everyone sleeps properly for years.

Bless you,

My three boys tagged teamed me for a few years, the youngest screamed 23 hours a day!

They are teens now and it does get easier!

Thanks - it’s shit as you want to enjoy them being little but how when they keep you in a haze of exhaustion?!

I feel you! I had 2 under 2 and we call it 'the dark days'. It was so tough, but it's not for ever. It's hard now as it doesn't get light til later. These days I lie awake whilst everyone sleeps due to perimenopause 😐

We now have a screaming fit due to tiredness, this will last hours

@Upatthiahour can you insist on sofa time with an iPad or watching the tv? Will buy you some lying time at least. I’m up with the 2 year old so he doesn’t wake up the 4 year old and we all need to leave at 7 for nursery/school/work.

No, he’s just screaming his head off demanding a dummy. I know I’m awful but I just want to tell him to shut the fuck up, selfish little shit.

I feel for you, OP. My DD slept through, but DNephew is a crazy insomniac ... like me. One night when I was staying over he was jumping around after midnight, so I shut all the internal doors and we had a kitchen disco. It took about an hour, but it did wear him out, and he learned the Thriller dance.

OK, well we’re not doing that.

Another technique is a gentle backrub using your flat palm in slow, circular strokes and chanting hypnotically: '"Sleepy little bubs ... so sleepy... drifting off to sleep ... feeling very sleepy.... oh so sleepy now ..." 😴 You get the drift.

I’m here too 👋 up since 3 with newborn and finally gave up and came downstairs at 4.30. Met my husband in the kitchen getting a snack for our almost two year old who also woke up and now I can hear him upstairs trying to get him back down to sleep. It’s relentless isn’t it. We’re exhausted.

Could you try to get him back to sleep, it's still early ?

I’m up because alcoholic partner has gone AWOL 😥

Are they in nursery? Might help with sleep.
Can you all sleep together?
Is 1 years old on formula last feed? Helps to sleep.

Are you trying to get him off the dummy? Maybe just give it to him.

He just screams and gets out of his bed if you try. We don’t have any dummies - he hasn’t had one for ages but he still screams for it. So fed up of screaming. All sleeping together - not a chance. No one would sleep.

@Mugascauld it’s shit. I’m so fed up today already and it isn’t even 6.

Why not give him
a dummy?

Because we don’t have any

Because he doesn’t want it

Because if we give one to him after sending one of us to a shop this would keep happening

Because after dummy it’s something else he doesn’t really want

There you are OP, a brilliant suggestion from @Goldencup "try and get him back to sleep" 🙄

Fgs do you think the OP Is trying to keep him awake??

Idiotic

Oh bless you. It's soul destroying, isn't it?

I was just remembering yesterday with a toddler how seventeen hours can go by since 5am and you check your watch and it's 9am.

@HelloItsMeHowAreYou tbh we didn’t. I did go to him at 345 and then he started shouting again. DH didn’t realise the time and put me tumble on fml!

Tell me about it @WereYouListeningToTheDudesStory !

Swear away OP. I’ve never understood why some children (including mine) are up so horribly early.

All I can say is I feel your pain and although it’s thankfully a distant memory for me those dark days as a PP referred to them were bloody awful. I often felt like swearing at the little buggers in the middle of the night as between them I’d feel like I was up most of the night. I’d be desperate to get away from them but if I wasn’t with them I’d miss them. Then one would scream again within minutes of us picking them up and I’d feel like I hated the sight of them again. Amazingly despite it all we made it through relatively unscathed and we’re now well into teenage years with all of them and life is so much better. I wish I had been able to see the positives or be the fun mum with a kitchen disco but all I felt like doing was getting up and walking off down the street in my dressing gown. I hope your DH shares the burden with you as mine didn’t really and it was pretty unfair.