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Just hoping someone is up

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Upatthiahour · 06/10/2023 05:00

Ds (nearly 3) has been up since 4. His baby sister was awake at 130, so I’ve had maybe 4 hours sleep. I’m so fed up. I really think if I’d known how awful toddlers are I wouldn’t have had children at all

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Upatthiahour · 06/10/2023 06:15

Mine does but makes things worse, I’d have personally preferred him to stay in bed and weather some tantrums but DH got him up. Done now though.

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Andnowshesatoddler · 06/10/2023 06:16

I completely feel your pain.

I do only have one DD and disclaimer she is a fairly good sleeper. HOWEVER she will not nap EVER and the amount of screaming, the amount of being absolutely exhausted to the point she's falling over she will still not nap.

In the early days - it was last summer, I was recovering from a c section I had COVID it was the second 40 degrees day I remember rocking her and shouting what do you want from me?! She was only a week or so old.

We've all broken at times OP you are not the first and you will certainly not be the last who wants to scream.

Ladyj84 · 06/10/2023 06:21

We have 3 under 3 they sleep 7pm-9am but rarely sleep during the day. Maybe you need to change something

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Upatthiahour · 06/10/2023 06:25

Yeah mine doesn’t sleep during the day either. I don’t want to sound rude but I’m not following the point you’re making. I genuinely don’t mean that rudely, I just honestly don’t really know what you’re trying to achieve there.

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MinnieMountain · 06/10/2023 06:30

I think what @Ladyj84 means is that you need to send your DC back and get different ones. Maybe you’ll get lucky like her.

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Upatthiahour · 06/10/2023 06:31

I think he’s out of warranty!

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HelloDaisy · 06/10/2023 06:31

Poor you, it’s a tough time. Mine are teen/adult now but I remember that complete exhaustion so well! Would he go back to sleep with a dummy? Not ideal but will give you sleep…

It does get easier and they will either learn to sleep longer or will be more independent so you won’t need to be up with them.

Then they become teenagers and you’ll be struggling to get them up in the mornings whilst simultaneously trying to stay awake whilst they are out drinking and partying!

Imtootiredtothinkofausername · 06/10/2023 06:32

No advice but lots of solidarity. Thankfully my eldest is now good at sleeping but the baby is going through a regression so is an absolute sleep thief, ive barely slept for days as my DH has covid so is isolating as I'm CEV, the house looks like a bombs hit it, and my birthday happened without anyone (including me!) actually noticing.

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Upatthiahour · 06/10/2023 06:33

That’s rubbish, happy birthday anyway and I hope your next one is better.

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Rainbowqueeen · 06/10/2023 06:35

Solidarity here too.

Are you home with them both today? Go easy on yourself. Have a snooze if they sleep at the same time, ignore the screaming and pass off to DH as soon as he comes home

Give0fecks · 06/10/2023 06:35

Solidarity. We stupidly thought a low key holiday with grandparents might be a nice idea, with a 3 and 1 yo. The 3 yo has been stropping and thrown off by the change of routine, the baby has decided he just won’t sleep and my husband had to take him out in the car at 4am this morning as the only way to get him to sleep (after 2 hours of bouncing/soothing etc). The tiredness is making us argue loads and all in all, it was a stupid decision and waste of money. Fuck making memories.

HelloDaisy · 06/10/2023 06:36

Some parents are just lucky and their dc sleep, not sure it’s down to their parenting more the child themselves.
I had one that slept through and one that never did…

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Upatthiahour · 06/10/2023 06:37

Ds never used to be a bad sleeper but it’s just all gone to shit lately. Holidays where kids don’t sleep is horrendous.

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neveradullmoment99 · 06/10/2023 06:38

HelloDaisy · 06/10/2023 06:31

Poor you, it’s a tough time. Mine are teen/adult now but I remember that complete exhaustion so well! Would he go back to sleep with a dummy? Not ideal but will give you sleep…

It does get easier and they will either learn to sleep longer or will be more independent so you won’t need to be up with them.

Then they become teenagers and you’ll be struggling to get them up in the mornings whilst simultaneously trying to stay awake whilst they are out drinking and partying!

This! I mean to hell with it, give him a dummy so you can get some sleep. You can wean him off it when your baby is sleeping better.
I had a nightmare baby and 15 months between him and his sister. Absolutely awful. Make it easy on yourself, any way you can for now.
It's do hard. Mine are now 15 and 16! It honestly gets better.

rileynexttime · 06/10/2023 06:38

@MinnieMountain made me laugh!
When mine was little,I used to look at those "baby change" signs on public toilets and think "yes please "
I also used to conjure up the image of my toddlers sweet face during a non crying moment as I left my warm bed for the zillionth time to go to him.
Bless all of you with non sleepers and screamers.
And others with different, terrible problems.

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Upatthiahour · 06/10/2023 06:38

Does no one bother reading posts? And no I’m not giving him the dummy that doesn’t exist at twenty to bloody seven to get him back to sleep to get him up at seven are people barking mad??

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JonjoMonjo21 · 06/10/2023 06:40

Might be in the minority here but anything for an easy life. I’d give mine the dummy for a good night sleep. My toddler went to bed at 8pm and has just woke up, I could not function with that tootle sleep. Sometimes u have to pick your battles

JonjoMonjo21 · 06/10/2023 06:41

Little not tootle

Soonenough · 06/10/2023 06:41

Many years ago now but I feel your pain. My first DC was textbook baby slept through at 6 weeks . Just for bring smug, I next had a girl who found it hard to get to sleep and then woke at 5am.for the day .

Interesting the boy slept a lot during the day , two naps a day. Saw something recently that advised bringing bedtime forward a bit to make sure they are not overtired . Hard to accommodate in modern living though.
Don't think you are asking opinions just sympathy and support .
The struggle is real 😴

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Upatthiahour · 06/10/2023 06:46

<snarls> we don’t have a fucking dummy.

Look, he doesn’t want the dummy. He just defaults to screaming for it when he’s screaming, if that makes sense. If he got the dummy we’d have no end of tantrums day and night wanting it all the time. His speech still isn’t brilliant tbh and I think that is dummy related. And in any event it’s 645. I don’t think getting him back to sleep now would be very sensible.

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ConnieTucker · 06/10/2023 06:47

Why do people keep telling the op to give the child a dummy she doesn't have?! Might as well tell her to use a magic wand.

op, toddlers are savage. You need to up your meditation and mindfulness to get through it.

does he go to nursery during the day?

HelloDaisy · 06/10/2023 06:47

Upatthiahour · 06/10/2023 06:38

Does no one bother reading posts? And no I’m not giving him the dummy that doesn’t exist at twenty to bloody seven to get him back to sleep to get him up at seven are people barking mad??

Sorry if I upset you, was only trying to help and in one of your earlier posts you said he was wanting a dummy….

PinotPony · 06/10/2023 06:49

I suspect the stories of other posters' toddlers sleeping through the night isn't helping OP..!

It's shit, OP. I remember it well. What have you got lined up today? If he's unlikely to sleep, could you at least put him in front of the tv so you can have a nap for a bit? If not, I think you'll just have to main line coffee all day and try to stay sane until bedtime. 💐

WatchOutMissMarpleIsAbout · 06/10/2023 06:52

God I remember those days dc1, We were referred to a sleep clinic it was so bad.

In the end when I was pregnant with dc2 we bought a bigger bed and that seemed to help.

Dc2 was a nightmare sleeper and would only sleep with dc1 next to them. Moved the bed in. No it had to be a mattress on the floor next to the cot.

You have my sympathies. It’s a shit time and does get better.

clearwaterfordays · 06/10/2023 06:52

My child js turning three in a few days and has only slept through once. I feel your pain. I'm a single mother and battling a really bad cold, I'm ashamed to say I did shout at her yesterday as I was just so tired and exhausted. I obviously apologised and showered her with hugs and kisses! She is currently sleeping horizontally in my bed at the moment! I work full time and am running on empty so I understand... sending you lots of love xxx

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