Is Cavendish a nice surname?

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Or a bad one?

How exciting to be choosing your future name.
But I'm guessing also sad that it's not a name you will be sharing with your dh. Do you have dc?

Cavendish has a definite romantic, aristocratic vibe. If that's what you're looking for go for it 😊

It's one of my favourite surnames.

Thanks for the explanation, now I know the content I agree with all PP that it is a lovely name.

Yes - it's distinguished-sounding.

No Dc, just me and the cat now.

It won’t sound out of place on me, I can carry it off.

What is wrong with London and English?

Does the cat approve?

I really like Cavendish. As everyone has said, it sounds very distinguished.

I also like Carrington, which has a similar vibe.

So sorry for the loss of your husband, but love that you had discussed it and he was also keen on Cavendish.

I say go for it.

Nothing, but this is Mumsnet 😂😂😂

Lovely name.

I’m a big fan of Mark Cavendish, known as the greatest cycling sprinter of all time, he’s also a gold medalist in track cycling, he’s from the Isle of Man and he’s not posh. It’ll be great to share a name with him.

I’m sure she will approve next time we go to the vets. I have previously contemplated changing her name anyway.

I liked Carrington but dh said no. It’s a bit much. I grew up wanting to be Krystle so much.

Cavendish sounds lovely. Most importantly, does it go with DCat's name?

This is a bit strange. You say your husband ‘gave you the option’ of not changing your name to his? Are you a time traveller from the 1860s? You get that he didn’t in fact get a say in your surname, and neither did your PILs, right?

Why not return to your birth surname?

Puddy Cavendish sounds quite nice, like a early 20’s girl in pearls or in the party section of Tatler “My names Arabella but Nanny called me Puddy because <insert anecdote involving ancestral homes and ponies> and it stuck”

No what's strange is trying to wind up the OP about how her relationship was with her deceased husband. Why would you even.

Cavendish is a really nice surname OP. I'd go for something that sounds as if it's out of a period drama too, maybe even more outlandish, like Poldark

You have to tell us the name that is laughed at. I would just keep it at this stage, especially as you aren’t passing it down. Why not just return to your maiden name?
In answer though I like the name. It’s in fitting with period dramas which I love.

What a nasty post.

Good name that. I love posh/historical/romantic surnames.

Some others are:

Buckingham
Courtenay
Grosvenor
Salisbury
Ambrose
Lancaster
Campbell
Hamilton
Beaumont

Until a few years ago if I’d made this list I would probably have included Saville. But not now (even thought the shell-suited monster’s name had one ‘l’ not two).

In Scotland, may I offer you Snowball or Hailstones.

I have a brilliant surname but I might adopt a middle name in my eccentric years.

Honeyball is another cracker.

What is nasty about it? Her husband didn’t get to decide on what the OP’s surname was, regardless of how he felt about being called Peter Onions or whatever.

I like it. I also like Beaumont, and I’ve always liked Boleyn too.

So someone with a cat called Snowball would be registered at the vet as Snowball Snowball? (This is news to me - I don’t have a pet and didn’t know that vet registrations were for Fido Smith-Williams or Fluffy Patel.)

It’s nasty because you’ve twisted her description of events to make her late husband look as bad as possible (I read her description as meaning that he was easy as to whether she took his name or not) and then pissed all over the idea of her using the name she and her husband had considered taking together. Why would you do that? It’s just unpleasant.

I think it intrudes on what might be complicated feelings for the OP about her loss. Why go there? It wasn't what she was asking about and he's no longer here so whether he was traditional or old fashioned or whatever, or what their marriage was like, is not relevant to this thread really.

Cavendish is really nice OP.

Fortunately for most of us, the days where we need male permission not to engage in reactionary patriarchal nonsense are long gone.

The OP has a birth surname she already has and hasn’t mentioned so I assume it’s inoffensive. The rational for choosing a new joint name has gone.