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Naked neighbour, WWYD?

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applesandmares · 27/09/2023 13:45

I'm going to start this by saying that the reality is I'm going to do nothing because I'd find it too mortifying, but I'm curious what others would do, if anything!

Basically I'm on maternity leave and breastfeeding so I'm often trapped on the sofa feeding the little one. I sit opposite a window and the TV is by the window. In the line of sight is my neighbours windows. I can see probably 3/4 houses from there.

One of my neighbours (I don't know her) is quite regularly naked in her bedroom with the curtains open. I notice this mainly at night as the light is on. It's a bit of a jump scare 😂

Anyway, I've wondered if she doesn't realise that she can be seen, as our houses aren't super close, and she doesn't galavant starkers right in front of the window, she's clearly further back into her room.

I've thought that maybe I should nip round and say that it doesn't bother me but maybe she doesn't realise? However the thought is horrifying to me. I even considered sending an anonymous letter, but there's only three houses it could come from, so pretty identifying.

Part of me thinks that if she isn't shutting her curtains then she clearly knows it's a risk that she could be seen but doesn't care.

If it was me, and I didn't realise I could be seen, I'd appreciate a heads up but would feel so awkward seeing them again knowing they've seen me in my birthday suit!

WWYD?

OP posts:
Vintagecreamandcottagepie · 27/09/2023 13:53

Not this again.

There was a very recent thread, a very long one with a range of opinions given. Hopefully someone can link to it...

jiinglebells · 27/09/2023 13:59

Need a diagram OP to figure out your line of sight 😂

Are we talking turning the light one when walking into the room naked? Surely she must know this makes it visible from the outside!

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applesandmares · 27/09/2023 14:00

Vintagecreamandcottagepie · 27/09/2023 13:53

Not this again.

There was a very recent thread, a very long one with a range of opinions given. Hopefully someone can link to it...

I don't know if I am horrified or comforted by the fact that this may be a common problem 😂

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MNetcurtains · 27/09/2023 14:03

There's zero chance she's not aware that she can be seen.

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applesandmares · 27/09/2023 14:03

jiinglebells · 27/09/2023 13:59

Need a diagram OP to figure out your line of sight 😂

Are we talking turning the light one when walking into the room naked? Surely she must know this makes it visible from the outside!

She'll just go in, turn the light on and then undress, or change, or come in in a towel with wet hair and drop the towel to bare all!

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WeWereInParis · 27/09/2023 14:04

Are you wondering what to do for her sake or yours? I mean, are you bothered and want it to stop? Or are you wondering whether it's better to tell her, like telling someone they've got something stuck in their teeth?

At night I probably wouldn't notice as I'd have my curtains shut anyway, if it was dark enough that she has her lights on and that's making her very visible. During the day without her being lit up I'm surprised you can see up into her upstairs window if the houses aren't that close and she's a bit further back in the room.

I probably wouldn't actually do anything.

PeggyPoggleshaw · 27/09/2023 14:08

Seriously, why are you bothered?

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applesandmares · 27/09/2023 14:09

WeWereInParis · 27/09/2023 14:04

Are you wondering what to do for her sake or yours? I mean, are you bothered and want it to stop? Or are you wondering whether it's better to tell her, like telling someone they've got something stuck in their teeth?

At night I probably wouldn't notice as I'd have my curtains shut anyway, if it was dark enough that she has her lights on and that's making her very visible. During the day without her being lit up I'm surprised you can see up into her upstairs window if the houses aren't that close and she's a bit further back in the room.

I probably wouldn't actually do anything.

I wondering what to do for her sake, it doesn't bother me. I've only seen her a couple of times during the day and that's only because she's nipped to the window to close it/open it and then fled the scene. It's much more noticeable at night and especially now as it's getting darker a bit earlier!

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NemoIsFound · 27/09/2023 14:23

You don't live in a town beginning with P in South Gloucestershire/North Bristol area do you? Because I also have a neighbour living adjacent to me who does this. She does have additional needs (MH) I believe and has a support worker come round to assist her with things.

Maybe we have the same neighb??

hazandduck · 27/09/2023 14:23

Oh god I hope I’m not your neighbour, I always walk around naked and never shut the curtains, I just don’t care, people shouldn’t be looking in my rooms any way and if they do that’s on them 😂

Bobbotgegrinch · 27/09/2023 14:26

I wouldn't worry about it.

I'm completely unbothered by people seeing me naked (to the extent that I modelled for art classes when I was younger, it was decent money for a skint student)

As such, the only reason I shut the curtains when naked is because it might bother other people. But because it's not for my benefit, I sometimes forget and will happily parade around with the lights on.

If it's bothering you, then by all means go and mention it, but if it's for her benefit then I wouldn't bother, she likely doesn't care.

VenusInPrimark · 27/09/2023 14:27

She knows and she doesn't care because she assumes only peeping Toms and creeps would be looking. Stop perving,there must be many other things you could look at instead.

Freezingcoldinseptember · 27/09/2023 14:27

Our neighbours over the back came round and told dd they could see us using the loo even with privacy glass. Both just laughed and I put a blind up! We see the man nd to them getting dried.. That towel must go right up his bum.... Hope his dw doesn't use it on her face.... Have no inclination to let them know. She is a bloody nightmare woman... Actually I hope she does use his towel on her face...

PinkRoses1245 · 27/09/2023 14:28

If she didn't want to be seen, she'd shut the curtain /blind before stripping off. Just look elsewhere!

BakedTattie · 27/09/2023 14:32

See I always wonder if I’m that neighbour. I’ve never naked. But I do change my trousers. I bet somewhere there’s a thread about me.

MidnightOnceMore · 27/09/2023 14:32

I worked with someone who told me she'd got rid of curtains, couldn't be bothered. Some people apparently don't care.

OneHornedFlyingPurplePeopleEater · 27/09/2023 14:35

Oh God. Definitely wondering if this is me.
Is the window back or front?
I don't think anyone can see me change, and I don't change in front of the window but I also don't close the blinds and may have occasionally gone and closed the window quickly.

Madamwahselle · 27/09/2023 14:40

I think this when for the millionth theme I've forgotten to close my blinds and realised halfway through my drying off routine

WeWereInParis · 27/09/2023 14:40

I wondering what to do for her sake, it doesn't bother me.

In that case I wouldn't do anything. I occasionally might change with the curtains open just for the sake of speed. I'm aware that maybe someone might catch a glimpse if they happened to look through my window at exactly that moment. I don't really care. I'd assume she's similar.

In fact, this may well be me. I think the woman in one of the houses opposite does have a small baby... I don't tend to do it with the light on though, as then I would just close the curtains and leave them closed. It's the day time I can't be bothered closing and then reopening curtains just to change a top.

theemmadilemma · 27/09/2023 14:44

I have no one opposite now, but in my old house I was probably guilty of this at times just presuming the likelyhood of anyone being sat looking out one of those widows to see me was highly unlikely, you just sort of do it without really thinking.

It doesn't sound like she's purposely posing in the window like a previous thread...

Blackbyrd · 27/09/2023 14:46

VenusInPrimark · 27/09/2023 14:27

She knows and she doesn't care because she assumes only peeping Toms and creeps would be looking. Stop perving,there must be many other things you could look at instead.

Hardly perving when the OP literally states that she is essentially restrained by her baby breastfeeding. It is instinctive to notice other people, especially if the lights on and night has fallen. I would ignore it OP, if she wants to prance about let her

BasicBinaryBitch · 27/09/2023 14:50

Hardly a peeping Tom if you see your boring out (starkers) from your living room sofaConfused

NemoIsFound · 27/09/2023 14:56

The OP isn't a peeping tom, nor is the nudey neighbour. I would ignore it and just carry on if I were in the OP's shoes. It's a non issue.

Startyabastard · 27/09/2023 14:59

It's shocking that she's naked inside her own bedroom isn't it? FFS!!
I thought you were complaining about her being naked in her own garden and even then I'd say 'it's her garden'.
Are you bored or something?

MsFrost · 27/09/2023 15:00

applesandmares · 27/09/2023 14:09

I wondering what to do for her sake, it doesn't bother me. I've only seen her a couple of times during the day and that's only because she's nipped to the window to close it/open it and then fled the scene. It's much more noticeable at night and especially now as it's getting darker a bit earlier!

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If it doesn't bother you then don't do anything. I don't understand the issue. She will obviously be aware that there is a window opposite her. If she cared then she would close the curtains, so she obviously doesn't care. If you don't care either then this is a complete non-issue.

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