I've gone absolutely sex mad

[Widowsfire]

DH died just over 2 years ago and was seriously ill for about a year before that.

Before he was ill we had been married a really long time. Sex, when we had it, was very good, but it wasn't that frequent, I'd have liked more but it didn't colour my life the way it does now.

My goodness, I'm thinking about it all the time. I'm sizing up the possibilites with every man I meet, from a new collleague to, the postman, to people on the train, aquaintances from way back, to anyone and everyone I meet at a social event.

I'm middle aged and not especially attractive, none of these men are very interested and if they were I daresay I'm giving off terrifying vibes.

What the hell am I supposed to do about it?

Get on OLD and advertise :)

Online dating 😉

Get a vibrator!

I agree, this is what Tinder is all about.

Online I'd say

I don’t know your age but could be your mid life crisis?

Not a midlife crisis as pp said! Why do we say that!? Get OLD and enjoy

widows fire. very normal.

Oh there’s an old thread on the Menopause board called Sex Surge… in fact there are 2 old threads. Go and have a read.

Are you pre menopausal? I went through a similar phase in my late 40s. Luckily was married and DH was exhausted!😂 Sadly it tapered off as meno hit but still have a libido thankfully.

I did put a tentative toe into online dating. God, that was depressing. I can only assume men of my age (mid 50s) with anything going for them are setting their sights much younger!

Date around, buy some toys, masturbate.

You could try younger men in their 30's, especially if you're mainly interested in the physical side of things.

Get on love honey and buy yourself a rabbit style vibrator. It will arrive in plain packaging and solve all your issues 🙂

Online dating is more trouble than it's worth OP.

This is better and less trouble than a man - www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/vibrators/magic-wand-vibrators/p/lovehoney-extra-powerful-multispeed-mains-powered-magic-wand-vibrator/a20464g73476.html

You're welcome.

Widows fire - been there, am still there. Very normal!

Get a vibrator and read some stories.

What’s making you insecure about dating OP?

As we speak I've just been contacted on the dating app by a lad of 23 🤣 Exactly the same age as my son. God only knows what he's thinking.

Have a go OP! You only live once 😂

I am in a Reddit group with a large amount of Pedro Pascal fanfic if that's your cup of tea

Probably wanting his dinner made

He's an attractive lad and he's written a decent profile too - a better effort than most of the older men anyway. He's been set up by his mates?

I don't think I'm insecure about dating, just not getting much opportunity.

I'm 45 and so horny nowadays! Would shah anyone! But I don't because I'm married. I'm jealous OP!

Might be the perimenopause... sex surge .... as others have said.

Personally I had a great time. Went online onto sex websites, specified what I wanted, found some highly experienced highly talented highly sexed individuals and had a good time. So much choice out there if you know what you want and like.

Absolutely no need to stick with a dull as ditchwater vibrator. Yawn.