Social situation anxiety?

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I have learnt post divorce that I get anxiety in specific social situations, especially meeting new people.

I overthink so much afterwards how I may have come accross, could I have said something better to not offend someone, to make them like me more? . I always worry about clothes and what to where, I need so much more confidence but no idea how to achieve this.

has anyone been similar, have any useful words of wisdom?

I think I feel to defend myself, I’m defensive and almost put a barrier in the way to try and stop myself being hurt again. It sounds stupid but also makes a lot of sense in my head