Husband leading a double life

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this Hurts beyond belief. Found out my husband has been having an affair for over 2 years, since my baby was born and turns out he’s had a child with the other woman

has anyone else been through this? How do you get over the lies and trauma?

Are you leaving or has he left? I'm 9 months on from discovery of my husbands double life although incredibly different circumstances and I'm now in my own home and settled and happy. Divorce isn't quite finalised yet but very much feels like it all happened in a different life now.
For now keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Gosh OP, you must be reeling. What a bastard. One step at the time - look after yourself and your little one. How did you find out?

I kicked him out. He has no remorse, thinks he doesn’t have to pay for us now the lies have come out. It’s just so hard to think the entire time since our child was born has been a complete lie. I just want to hurt to go away

I’m so sorry OP, no advice really other than to say I hope you have some support in real life to help you through this x

What a disgusting betrayal.

Focus on the practical side for now. Get his stuff out if it's not all gone, contact the CSA to get a maintenance claim underway, try and look after yourself physically, eat good food, try and sleep well, hug your lovely toddler, talk to friends and family.

Thank you everyone.

You hear about these things but never think it would happen to tou. You question your whole life with this person. It just makes me sick to my stomach