I posted a few days ago about my nans stamp collection.
It was a large rare and valuable collection and the day after she died my mother and her brother went into the house and took the lot . My Nan had 3 other children , when one of them turned up and tried to stop them she was hit in the face by my mother who said she was getting them valued and selling them.
Following this my mothers brother contacted the other siblings saying take no notice and that he had them for "safe keeping "
Well he died a couple of months ago , his dd told me she would return the stamps using me as a go between
Long story short - they weren't there . It looks like they did exactly as my mother said and sold them but only split the processes between themselves.
My mother is a hateful human being . A truly evil piece of work . I cannot begin to explain how awful a human she is here . But she really the cruelest, meanest , most vindictive and bitter person I've ever met. She's poison.
I've tried desperately to let it go . My Nan raised me and it hurt that her beloved collection was sold in this way and didn't go to the people she wanted it to go to. It really should have stayed in the family, it was her life's work and her fathers before her .
I've found my mother on fb. I'm so tempted to send a message asking how much she got for the stamps . She tried about 10 years ago to engage me on fb but I said I wished her no harm but didn't want a relationship with her. She has zero concept of her actions toward me as a child but dismissed it all as water under the bridge. I had ptsd from things she did to me as a child and had to have rewind therapy to even talk about it .
Should I do it? Should I ask where the stamps went ? Deep down I know but she is never ever held to account . She is in her mid 70s now and hopefully something will befall her soon if there is a god .
It's playing on my mind . I want her to know I know what she did. I want her to tell me . I've no intention of further contact.
What would you do if you were me .