People who say 'and what did she say when you confronted her?'...

[Darkdiamond]

...should be banned from Mumsnet.

That is all 😀

YANBU!!!! Winds me right up.

It feels so horribly petty and passive aggressive, and the person saying it seems to have an underlying resentment towards the OP any time it's used. It makes me feel all twitchy and mad when I read it!