What's the worst birthday present your OH has bought you

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I've just asked my OH politely to return my birthday present. He sulked a bit but will do. It's the first time I have done this.

So am I alone?

A book called "how to get your shit together". I had severe depression following a traumatic incident and he couldn't understand why I couldn't just shower or start looking after him again.

An ex got me a kung fu hamster toy that my friend managed to get stuck in my hair!

A toilet seat

Haha I bought the hamster kung fu thing for my husband as a stocking filler. We all laughed especially my grandson.
We are both usually pretty good as we tend to choose ourselves. The early years together not so good.

@DarkPsy 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

At 24 my partner of 5 years who I lived with bought me a watch - gold, tiny face, bracelet old lady type thing. Literally the opposite of the silver chunky jewellery I always wore. Not a big deal but was SO symbolic of how far apart we had grown - I remember thinking does he actually know me at all?! He then argued telling me I did wear gold 🤦🏻‍♀️ (I don't, ever). We split up a few months later, not because of the watch obv but we'd grown into totally different people who didn't like each other very much (and also he was cheating).

One Christmas I was gifted by my then fiancé a used travel hairdryer that was clearly used and very very old, the hairdryer was dirty and the box was literally falling apart. (His mother had just moved house and had found it when she was packing up her old house!)
The pair of them seemed to think it was an amazing gift that I should be thrilled by! Being gracious I thanked him but it went straight to the charity shop in the new year!!! Nothing like your mother in laws second hand crap to make you feel special hey!

I've never liked to eat food or drink in bed, ever. I have never liked tea and only drink coffee. My husband of 15 years bought me a Teasmade. 😱

I found one last night that I'd forgotten about - a second hand Ralph Lauren jumper made of horrible tight stiff wool that wouldn't fit a child, with weird blue stains on the sleeves and actual gravy (I hope) on one of the cuffs. Never worn or wanted a designer item in my life. Why he thought this was a good idea for a present I'll never know.

This might be a light hearted thread, but there is nothing more telling in a relationship than the times when your partner shows you that they just do not know you at all. Years together and they know nothing about you. A gift is supposed to show how well you know and how much you love someone, it's an expression of really knowing someone and what would make them happy, and I'd rather receive nothing than to be given random thoughtless stuff.

And yes, this is another stbxh situation.

I agree with you @MissInterpretation . It can be very painful when you realise how little a long term partner knows you or cares.

With my exh, it wasn't a birthday present but my first mother's day. I got a multi pack of hideous M&S granny pants, in the wrong size. His excuses were twofold - one was I was always saying I didn't have another pants, and two was that he was estranged from his Mother (his choice) so didn't think about mothers day being a thing. He was always terrible at present buying but that was a very low moment in our relationship!

My ex always bought me clothes in his mother's size and style. Wouldn't let me take them back to get something for myself, then give clothes and receipt to his mother so she could either keep them, which she never did, or return them which she always did often getting the money back, and you've guessed it never giving it to me.
Needless to say, I did eventually get a divorce....

I would love a spice rack :O

Two obvious ones. Slippers in a size 5. I’m a 7, his mother was a 5. We’ve been together 25 years and the slippers were bought 2/3 years ago.

A Clinique anti wrinkle cream which he bought me in my 30s.

Clothes in his mother's size and style, then him giving them to her (with the receipts so she can change them or get the money back for herself) because I want to take them back to exchange for something that fits, and that I would wear.

My Dad used to generally buy me things he wanted. So I'd get a book about football, or something he was interested in. Yeh, cheers. The best example of this was when I was in my early 20's and he bought me an erotic book, full of naked photos, by "Cicciolina", who is/was an Italian p0rn star now turned politician.

I'm completely NC with my Dad for a whole load of other reasons, but this was completely inappropriate and yet another disappointing gift. Ffs.

The exact same hand bag I had in a different colour. It was a coach handbag but I didn’t see the point in having two of the same bag. I ordered myself an MK bag after returning the coach.

Steering wheel cover.. but as it was leather it was a good gift...apparently. he soon learned his lesson

A book 101 uses for a dead cat

given to me the day my cat hadn't recovered from emergency surgery after being shot with an air gun 😭