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Charged £5 to attend a wedding?

73 replies

AmyGraceJ · 06/09/2023 16:05

An old neighbour got married recently, we don't talk anymore but I did what people do and had a nosy on her Facebook.

She had created an events page for her wedding, which was in a field, called it a 'Festival' and sold tickets at £5 to attend.

That's crazy right?! It was like a viking theme wedding.

Each to their own but charging to attend a wedding is just a super level of Cheeky Fuckery, surely?

OP posts:
PackBacker · 06/09/2023 16:08

£5 wouldn’t bother me.

Iwasafool · 06/09/2023 16:12

Well it is cheaper than a present and I wouldn't take a present if I'd paid to attend.

Iliketulips · 06/09/2023 16:13

I'd definitely want to know what was included, ie was it just entrance or food and drinks.

tattygrl · 06/09/2023 16:28

From the title I was prepared to be outraged, but from what you've described it sounds as if they've decided to do something different, and actually create a little event and host it as such. Sounds like there will be things to do maybe, entertainment, a theme, etc. Could be fun! The viking theme really makes me think they're not going for standard "wedding" and more coinciding their wedding with an event they're putting on for family and friends. Personally I don't think this is too bad. They might be strapped for cash and decided to provide a fun day in exchange for a bit of contribution rather than hosting an entire wedding "gratis" for guests.

Mumbrg · 06/09/2023 16:28

Just 5 pounds wouldn’t bother me, personally.

Fupoffyagrasshole · 06/09/2023 16:37

hmmmmm wouldn't care about this tbh!

I mean most people expect you to book into hotels at / pay for transport to get there / presents etc

so how is this any worse

Greyfoot · 06/09/2023 16:43

I'd raise an eyebrow but not object at £5 in lieu of a present. If it's being done as a charity fundraiser it's quite a good idea.

TheFutureMrsWolowitz · 06/09/2023 16:44

Last wedding I went to (obligation as it was DH's godson) we paid £200 ish for travel; £300 is for accommodation and a deeply irritating £500 for a cash gift. Then it was a cash bar and the food was a cash fish and chip van.

I'd be bloody thrilled with a fiver tbh.

meemawwww · 06/09/2023 16:49

TheFutureMrsWolowitz · 06/09/2023 16:44

Last wedding I went to (obligation as it was DH's godson) we paid £200 ish for travel; £300 is for accommodation and a deeply irritating £500 for a cash gift. Then it was a cash bar and the food was a cash fish and chip van.

I'd be bloody thrilled with a fiver tbh.

That's shocking!!

topnoddy · 06/09/2023 17:16

They would have had to pay me a lot more than a fiver to attend any wedding

TheThingIsYeah · 06/09/2023 17:21

@TheFutureMrsWolowitz a cash bar is enough to send me in a tailspin, but paying for food is on another level. Seriously?

£500 is very generous of you btw.

amispeakingintongues · 06/09/2023 17:25

Cheaper than the £3k I've had to shell out to attend a wedding abroad. No choice bc partner is a groomsman. I loathe people who charge anything but £5 I wouldn't lose sleep over.

TheFutureMrsWolowitz · 06/09/2023 17:27

TheThingIsYeah · 06/09/2023 17:21

@TheFutureMrsWolowitz a cash bar is enough to send me in a tailspin, but paying for food is on another level. Seriously?

£500 is very generous of you btw.

Thanks. DH and I had an argument about it. He was wanting to pay more so as not to appear cheap. We ended up compromising on what we thought was reasonable. I am glad to hear you say that £500 was okay- he was stressing about it.

(We are not that close to the GS. DH sends over a Christmas gift every year but in the 26 years we have been together I'd only met him twice!... for context.)

swimlyn · 06/09/2023 17:49

Maybe the £5 included a burger and Coke or similar? 😄

Thoughtful2355 · 06/09/2023 18:04

Id be happy paying £5

uncomfortablydumb53 · 06/09/2023 23:53

I'd be happy to pay £5, even happier if I didn't have to dress up as a Viking

UndercoverCop · 06/09/2023 23:56

I'd pay £5 to go to a Viking wedding

TomatoSandwiches · 06/09/2023 23:56

Sounds more fun than most weddings tbh, if I resented paying to go I would have done what any decent viking would do and pillage at least a fiver worth of goods.

MeinKraft · 06/09/2023 23:59

I'd rather they charged £50 under strict instructions not to bring a gift.

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/09/2023 00:08

I'd pay it just for the craic.Grin

Fortunately you don't have to make such a decision as you're not invited OP. Stop snooping and enjoy your fiver.

KingCharlesCoronation · 07/09/2023 09:45

I couldn't get worked up about this, £5 isn't much.

Riverlee · 07/09/2023 09:49

I think that’s a bit cheeky.

I went to a wedding recently. Free bar, but people could make a donation to the couples favourite charity. Thought that was a lovely idea.

ohdamnitjanet · 07/09/2023 11:15

@TheFutureMrsWolowitz

£500 is a bloody fortune! Deeply irritating is putting it very very very mildly 😊

DottyLottieLou · 07/09/2023 13:41

Sounds fab. I would love to go.

Thinkingpod · 07/09/2023 15:26

You know what I think is cheeky fuckery?? Shaming people online for having their wedding how they wanted to.

People clearly went and paid and what the heck does it matter to you