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What is your favourite thing you've learnt from another culture?

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SandGroperNomad · 03/09/2023 15:35

I thought this would be a lovely thread to start and to see what other people's experiences were.

I have a few, and it's a hard choice but I would say the concept of blessing the children on Shabbat before I was Jewish. I love it, and it's now the favourite part of my week.

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Sgtmajormummy · 03/09/2023 15:52

Does buying cream cakes if you’re invited for Sunday lunch count??? Italy.

Being at ease physically around other people is another thing I’ve picked up (shaking hands, a touch on the arm, kissing and hugging family members without overthinking it) and practise maybe a bit less since Covid.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 03/09/2023 15:55

We had an Austrian student lodge with us when I was a child. She told us that in Austria, mothers are celebrated on their children's birthdays. Love that.

Italianasoitis · 03/09/2023 15:57

Not wearing shoes inside
Breastfeeding until toddlerhood
Washing out the nose as a cure for many ailments
Using a nebuliser for all of your kids' garden variety coughs

BiscuitsandPuffin · 03/09/2023 15:57

I'm sure this will offend some, but mine is that the pregnancy "rules" about things like hot tubs and sushi and folic acid are a cultural construct and can safely be ignored for the vast majority of cases. As everyone in China and Japan does (and we did when we lived there)

BabyStopCryin · 03/09/2023 15:59

How to cook proper - and I mean proper - rice. As any Persian will tell you, there is only one way 😉

Vallmo47 · 03/09/2023 16:02

The Brits have taught me to laugh at myself. That a funeral is a celebration of a person’s life.

The Swedes have taught me to be respectful to other people’s belongings (I.E always taking shoes off when entering).
The Swedes have also taught me that no topic is off the table - death being a part of life, it’s very much part of our conversations.
Not sure that’s just my family though.

BabyStopCryin · 03/09/2023 16:09

Wasn’t there a radio 4 show with a Brit living in Sweden and his parents in law were always going on about death? It was a lot funnier than it sounds!

BabyStopCryin · 03/09/2023 16:10

(the Cold Swedish Winter)

foulksmills · 03/09/2023 16:11

Siesta
'Nuff said.
😴

frisseaze · 03/09/2023 16:16

No outdoor shoes inside.

Summerhillsquare · 03/09/2023 16:18

BabyStopCryin · 03/09/2023 15:59

How to cook proper - and I mean proper - rice. As any Persian will tell you, there is only one way 😉

Came here to say tadjik! Yum!

MyFavouritePlace · 03/09/2023 16:20

Agree on the Persian rice. I can eat as a meal on its own!

Hawthornberry · 03/09/2023 16:22

I've come to know some west African people well from visiting Gambia and Senegal for holidays, and it has massively enriched my life getting to know the people and the culture. The main thing being how much people share how little they have got, how much they care for each other and will go out of their way to help you. It makes British culture look cold and unfriendly in comparison. It has really made me re-evaluate what is important in life.

womanone · 03/09/2023 16:22

Are we going to get any recipes for Persian rice??

We need more info!

TheFabledSnake · 03/09/2023 16:26

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 03/09/2023 15:55

We had an Austrian student lodge with us when I was a child. She told us that in Austria, mothers are celebrated on their children's birthdays. Love that.

Similar to this, my Bulgarian friend always gave me a bunch of flowers on my child's birthday, thought it was lovely and now I also do this

TheOccupier · 03/09/2023 16:28

How nice it is to have a really clean bum. Got a shattaf (Arabic bidet/bum shower) installed at home after travelling to the UAE for work. Love it.

yellowsmileyface · 03/09/2023 16:54

Ghanaian decorative coffins, one of the most interesting and unique funerary customs in the world.

The Ga people of Ghana see death as a rite of passage to be celebrated, and bury their deceased in artistic coffins in a symbolic and meaningful shape. Sometimes the coffin relates to their profession, such as a fish for a fisherman, or it relates to a hobby or interest.

In comparison, standard coffins are so bleak and impersonal.

In general, I find perceptions of death in various cultures very interesting. Much of the world sees it as an intermediate phase, rather than an end as we do in British culture, and this difference in perception is often reflected in a culture's funerary customs.

MountainGoatKeeper · 03/09/2023 16:55

Not drinking on an empty stomach.

Appreciation of cheese and wine.

Comfort with nudity.

Turning food preparation and presentation into an art form.

Co ordinating clothing and accessories.

Growing food as part of daily life.

Foraging for food in the forest.

Including children more into evening family entertainment with games etc, rather than shunting them off to their rooms early.

Being more welcoming and accepting guests more frequently in the home and doing it quite casually and building comfort with that - this has coincidentally opened more doors with us being welcomed to many more homes.

Being more direct and blunt when necessary.

DogandMog · 03/09/2023 17:07

Iceland/Denmark - two single duvets on a double bed.

BabyStopCryin · 03/09/2023 17:07

I’ll do the basic rice for now.

start with basmati rice. You have to go to a ME for for the good stuff! Tilda is expensive and a bit meh.

Use about 1 cup dry rice per person and rinse it in cold water, rub your hands through it and give it a real wash until the water runs clear. Cover in cold water and leave to soak for an hour or so.

rinse and then boil (I don’t add salt but some people do) until it’s almost cooked. Don’t stir loads or it will be mushy.

sieve and rinse in cold water to stop the cooking process

Put a little water in the bottom of your pan (enough to cover) and a tablespoon of veg oil. Heat.

pour the rice in and make it into a pyramid shape. Pop on the lid (close the steal holes) and leave it for a couple of minutes.

Take off the lid, pour over about half a cup of water (you shield hear it sizzle) then put a tea towel over the top and jam the lid on (I tie the towel over the top of the lid so that I don’t set it on fire).

Leave on high until you hear a ‘tic tic’ sound - just a minute or so, then turn the heat down to almost the lowest setting. Leave for at least 20 mins.

saffron - to colour the rice, grind up a pinch of this and add hot water. Leave to one side. When you are almost ready to eat, take off the lid (mind the steam) and pour it over the top, I usually fill the mortar with water again and pour that over too) and put the lid back on. When ready to eat I take off the lid and give the rice a bit of a light ‘scrape’ with a spaghetti-serving spoon to distribute the colour. Some people serve and add a knob of butter (to melt into the rice).

Now Tadhig is a whooooole thing on itself and there are loads of ways of making it.

  1. don’t do anything special but just do as above then steam the rice on a slightly higher temp to get the golden crispy finish (I add some ground saffron to the water in the bottom to enhance the colour).

  2. thinly slice potatoes and add these to the pan after you have put in the small amount of water and oil before the pyramid stage. This is my favourite.

  3. aunt makes it with yoghurt - I’m not quite sure how but it’s bloody lovely. Must find out.

  4. bread - ive only just found this one and am investigating!

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adding herbs and stuff…

you add flavours in layers - so a layer of rice, then sprinkle on the herbs or lentils, another layer of rice, another layer of herbs….

sabzi polov (herbs) - I buy the ready mixed dried herbs (nicer taste and texture) and will sometimes add some fresh herbs or some baby garlic (this looks like long spring onions).

Adas polov (lentils) - those little greeny brown lentils. Cook them first (until almost cooked) then add in layers. Some crazy people add sultanas (yuk).

baghali (Broad beans) - just peeled Broad beans and fried dill - again in layers.

zereshk - barberries. Get ones that are like little rubies. Wash and pop in the pan with a little oil and tiny bit of sugar as they are rather tart. Same as above, in layers. Not nice cold though - the berries are tart!

albaloo - only for the truly crazy. It has cherries in it a makes me sick! I call it jammy polov. Weird one.

How much of each ingredient I hear you ask? As much or as little as you like!

now we get to the advanced rice making…

loobia - cook onion, carrots and green beans with tomato, turmeric… so it’s like a little stew. I add a dried lime - I really like them. It sure it’s ‘traditional’. Some people like to add cinnamon. Let it cook, they layer it up with rice (always start with a layer of the plain rice). It takes a bit of practice to get the moisture levels right as you don’t want the rice to cook in the juice and become mushy. It’s worth it though and one of my favourites.

there are loads of recipes.

Best thing to have with it -

borani - steam some spinach, add some garlic salt to taste then mix into yoghurt.

mast o khiar - grate cucumber (squeeze out the liquid), add crushed up dried mint and garlic salt, yoghurt. And no, it’s not Tadzhiki (yes it is).

salad salad salad and more salad (fresh herbs, feta, walnuts, radish, spring onions).

These are the bare-arsed basic versions as I am lazy, but some people really go to town with lots of ingredients.

there are some amazing vegetable stews (pomegranate and walnut is a favourite) and grilled salmon is popular.

A Persian kebab (for the meat eaters) is pretty awesome and very easy (grate an onion and shove your thin slice of meat onto a Tupperware dish with it and marinade over night). Wipe off the onion and griddle with some tomatoes.

BabyStopCryin · 03/09/2023 17:13

Excuse typos. And don’t use too much saffron. It makes you laugh hysterically… (actually, as with a lot of ye olde folk law there is some truth here as it can exacerbate symptoms of bipolar disorder but I suppose you need to eat loads).

Again, get it from a ME store - the little strands in boxes - and not the manky fluffy yellow monstrosity my sister gave me (they must’ve seen her coming).

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 03/09/2023 17:16

Lovely idea for a thread, OP.

I have learnt so much from other cultures that it's hard to pick.

I love South Asian hospitality and how they make you feel like you've done them a massive favour just by turning up! I also love the care and commitment that they show to elderly relatives.

I love the thoughtfulness of Japanese culture and the incredible consideration that they show towards other people.

I love the German concept of a second breakfast!

Rysimo · 03/09/2023 17:20

Ghana and Nigeria. 'No, the bus doesn't leave at a set time. The bus leaves when it's full of passengers'.
The West African view of time is so much less anxiety inducing than Europe's. Makes complete sense.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 03/09/2023 17:25

Rysimo · 03/09/2023 17:20

Ghana and Nigeria. 'No, the bus doesn't leave at a set time. The bus leaves when it's full of passengers'.
The West African view of time is so much less anxiety inducing than Europe's. Makes complete sense.

That's is the same in Indonesia. The bus leaves when it's full!

They have a concept called "rubber time".Smile

carouselthoughts · 03/09/2023 17:36

BabyStopCryin · 03/09/2023 15:59

How to cook proper - and I mean proper - rice. As any Persian will tell you, there is only one way 😉

Agreed.