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Original poster

Will I hear from him.

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Greyfoot · 03/09/2023 15:09

I suspect not, but it all seemed so positive last night 😆

I was at a wedding, he was a friend of the groom, I know B&G. It had been a lovely day and the evening party was in full swing. I'd danced with lots of people, chatted and laughed with lots of people.

I'm not sure where he came from TBH, I hadn't noticed him earlier, but there he was next to me at the bar, with this smile.

We chatted and danced, spent the rest of the evening together. I really enjoyed myself. He asked for my number, which I gave him and he called my phone which was in my bag across the room (to check it worked or so I'd have his number?).

Anyway when I got home, I saw the missed call, saved the number and sent a quick text just saying thanks for a fun evening (should I have?)

I haven't heard anything. I wouldn't have expected to hear yet if I hadn't sent the text, but no acknowledgement?

We're both middle aged BTW, he a few years younger than me. I've been out of this game for a really long time!

OP posts:
OhComeOnFFS · 03/09/2023 15:11

Are you sure he was there without a partner?

Original poster
Greyfoot · 03/09/2023 15:12

OhComeOnFFS · 03/09/2023 15:11

Are you sure he was there without a partner?

Yes. Definitely and the groom made a point of telling me what a great bloke he is.

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OhComeOnFFS · 03/09/2023 15:17

I hope he does get in touch!

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Original poster
Greyfoot · 03/09/2023 15:31

OhComeOnFFS · 03/09/2023 15:17

I hope he does get in touch!

Me too!

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2B2G · 03/09/2023 15:33

Maybe he's just still in bed hungover. Hope you hear from him

Sparkshaveflown · 03/09/2023 15:51

Ahh op, I hope you do hear from him.

Autieangel · 03/09/2023 16:04

The missed call could have been a booty call. But hope it's not and he gets in touch.

Summer2424 · 03/09/2023 16:13

Hi @Greyfoot
Awww what a lovely evening you had, love it! I think he will message you! Xx

TheWrenTheWren · 03/09/2023 16:15

Autieangel · 03/09/2023 16:04

The missed call could have been a booty call. But hope it's not and he gets in touch.

No, the missed call was when they were together, when he asked for her number and put it into his phone and called it so she also had his.

slobro · 03/09/2023 16:17

I hope so! Ball is in his court now. Fingers crossed.

SquareOne01 · 03/09/2023 16:24

I think he could have replied to you after you texted.

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Greyfoot · 04/09/2023 18:45

Well I still haven't heard from him, so I guess I won't now?

I'm tempted to text ask what the problem is, but I guess I wouldn't get a response, so I shouldn't do that, should I?

What's the usual expected time frame?

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Thisweeksname · 04/09/2023 18:47

I wouldn’t text him, it’s up to him to text
you back. Give it a few days, I’ve found sometimes people hold off a bit then message.

Original poster
Greyfoot · 04/09/2023 18:52

Was texting him at the end of the evening a mistake? It feels like I have a lot to learn 😆

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SummerIsBack · 04/09/2023 18:53

Don’t text again, your first text was fine.

coloursquare · 04/09/2023 18:54

Don't think so. Sorry OP. Don't text him.

ScabbyHorse · 04/09/2023 18:57

Definitely don't text again - but he'll probably text you in a few days..he might be hungover

Cloudburstings · 04/09/2023 18:59

Greyfoot · 04/09/2023 18:45

Well I still haven't heard from him, so I guess I won't now?

I'm tempted to text ask what the problem is, but I guess I wouldn't get a response, so I shouldn't do that, should I?

What's the usual expected time frame?

if you were under 30 I’d say I reckon you won’t hear from him.

but in middle age not every adult messages rapidly or even likes texting back and forth that much

so possible you’ll hear from him in a couple of days when he’s got something to suggest (like meeting up again)

but if you’ve not heard from him by midweek that’s probably it.

no, I don’t think you texting him was a mistake. You are showing you enjoyed his company and life is too short to not do that.

Tracker1234 · 04/09/2023 19:02

Keep your nerve. What ever you do don’t send anything asking what the issue is. If he wants to contact you great but if he doesn’t it’s his loss…

FinallyHere · 04/09/2023 19:04

Tracker1234 · 04/09/2023 19:02

Keep your nerve. What ever you do don’t send anything asking what the issue is. If he wants to contact you great but if he doesn’t it’s his loss…

This ^.

Hold the line. Fingers crossed.

MeinKraft · 04/09/2023 19:13

Texting him wasn't a mistake. Texting him again would be!! He might reply in a day or two I wouldn't panic.

GreyCarpet · 04/09/2023 19:17

Your first text was fine.

Now you leave it.

If he texts again, you have choice to make then - reply or not

But don't text him again he hasn't responded once, he'll just not respond again if you do.

Cowlover89 · 04/09/2023 19:19

Hope he gets back I'm touch. Definitely don't text again x

Original poster
Greyfoot · 04/09/2023 19:21

Thanks. Last time I was "dating" they had to ring the phone in the hall and risk speaking to my dad 😆

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Tracker1234 · 04/09/2023 20:34

I remember the phone in the hall. My Mum used to listen at the living room door. She thought I couldn’t see her reflection!