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Will I hear from him.

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Greyfoot · 03/09/2023 15:09

I suspect not, but it all seemed so positive last night 😆

I was at a wedding, he was a friend of the groom, I know B&G. It had been a lovely day and the evening party was in full swing. I'd danced with lots of people, chatted and laughed with lots of people.

I'm not sure where he came from TBH, I hadn't noticed him earlier, but there he was next to me at the bar, with this smile.

We chatted and danced, spent the rest of the evening together. I really enjoyed myself. He asked for my number, which I gave him and he called my phone which was in my bag across the room (to check it worked or so I'd have his number?).

Anyway when I got home, I saw the missed call, saved the number and sent a quick text just saying thanks for a fun evening (should I have?)

I haven't heard anything. I wouldn't have expected to hear yet if I hadn't sent the text, but no acknowledgement?

We're both middle aged BTW, he a few years younger than me. I've been out of this game for a really long time!

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Sparkshaveflown · 08/09/2023 20:01

Maybe he didn't think you were that in to him? You snogged but, could you in any way have appeared to be in it just for the eve snog so to spk?

Personally and at this stage of life, I would be tempted to just send a hi how are you txt. If he does not reply, no biggie, you can move on . Not like you will see him everyday. Sometimes OP, you have to take a very moderated risk.

He could be waiting for you to initiate in these most confusing of modern times . Maybe he is afraid of his life to contact you for fear of how he could potentially be perceived. I would txt him something bland and introductory/ catch up. You exchanged numbers, you are waiting for him to msg you, he could be in all likelihood waiting for you to msg him .

Sparkshaveflown · 08/09/2023 20:07

He was determined enough to make sure you had his number, use it!

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Greyfoot · 08/09/2023 20:30

Oh no, stop that. I've been told all week not to do that 😆 I did wonder if my short text might have come across as "thank you and goodbye" but as he didn't even say "me too" or anything bland, I think he's just decided not to bother.

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Sparkshaveflown · 08/09/2023 21:42

"@Greyfoot Oh no, stop that. I've been told all week not to do that 😆 I did wonder if my short text might have come across as "thank you and goodbye" but as he didn't even say "me too" or anything bland, I think he's just decided not to bother".

I think you are overthinking/doomsday this. .

Just msg'd him and leave it there. he will msg , or he wont. Then you can move on or , forward with him!

WhisperingHi · 08/09/2023 21:49

Unfortunately I think he probably asked for your number so it wasn't awkward after you kissed.

I would say he's not looking for a relationship, probably just wanted a fun night.

It's not you.

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Greyfoot · 08/09/2023 22:48

WhisperingHi · 08/09/2023 21:49

Unfortunately I think he probably asked for your number so it wasn't awkward after you kissed.

I would say he's not looking for a relationship, probably just wanted a fun night.

It's not you.

Maybe, but I don't think it would have been awkward, it was just a bit of fun at the time.

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Frangipaneloathing22 · 08/09/2023 22:55

x2boys · 05/09/2023 13:24

Why can't the Op.text him?
Mumsnet is so weird about dating its 2023 why can't a woman text a man?

I agree with this in theory but I think in reality blokes don’t like this, they prefer to be the pursuer. I know.. I know …

IncognitoMam · 08/09/2023 22:55

I wouldn't text. If he was so keen he'd have been in touch.
Put it down to experience and start dating a few.

blackbeardsballsack · 08/09/2023 23:17

Sparkshaveflown · 08/09/2023 20:07

He was determined enough to make sure you had his number, use it!

She has used it, he hasn't replied. Chasing him won't change anything.

Bansheed · 09/09/2023 04:11

I dated in my late 40s before I met my current partner.

Never double texting is an absolutely great way of getting rid of those who just aren't into you. Another friend was lamenting about a v similar situation to yours and I just said men KNOW they should text. Discussed this with my DP and he said "Yep, we know".

This is a new experience for you, your hormones and heart are running wild. It is not about this man but about the promise a man could be.

If you want more of the excitement and a relationship, start looking. Get on OLD, join a club, get yourself put there basically.

Do not waste any time on a man who didn't bother to text you back

IncognitoMam · 09/09/2023 06:23

DH was always in touch even before we met on OLD. Definitely move on.

Sparkshaveflown · 13/09/2023 19:42

"@blackbeardsballsack @Sparkshaveflown
He was determined enough to make sure you had his number, use it"!
"She has used it, he hasn't replied. Chasing him won't change anything".

Yes, I see that now from thread and agree. I myself in a similar demographic. I don't know! I had a somewhat romantic view for Op. I had hoped he would call/txt. I hope OP enjoyed the snog and is not deterred by this.

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