Both late 40s. We've been estranged sexually for around 4 years. Me menopausal, him (some) ED. Both working long hours, DC. Something happened recently that has brought us back together both emotionally & sexually. Since then, Lots of cuddling, kissing, touching, sleeping naked. We've been on the verge of sex and all he has wanted to do is finger me then me wank him off. We were on the verge yet again today and he again he just wanted me to wank him off. He had an erecetion. I said to put a condom on (we've always used them) he said he didn't have any. That was a lie as I've seen the box with condoms in. I said he would need to buy some. We later went shopping (supermarket) he didn't buy any.
Why does he not want sex ? He is v embarrassed about sex and wouldn't ever discuss with me.
Could he be worried about going soft during the event ? I've told him that his ED issues don't matter. I'm miffed why he lied about the condoms and why he doesn't want sex.