Do your adult children visit their grandparents?

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GPs live 4 hours drive away (sometimes longer) which means we tend to visit infrequently for 2-3 days at a time.

For the last 2 years' we've been down for 2 days in the summer holidays. The DC begged not to go for any longer or more often as it was "boring". (We tend to spend most of the time sitting about; they live in a seaside resort so the traffic is a nightmare to go anywhere).

This year, DS is 19 and he says he doesn't want to go. He says he would happily go for a visit for a few hours, but he doesn't want to spend 2 days on it.

I'm not going to force him, but my parents are disappointed. I wondered how usual it is that adult DC don't really bother with visiting GPs any more?

I've got my 25 year old son and my 84 year old FIL here this bank holiday-son sees him at least 3 or 4 times a year at ours and meets up with him every 6 or 8 weeks too separately as FIL still ok to pop into London etc or son drives from London to Kent and has Sunday with him etc- he loves his grandad!!

My three always make the effort to visit my parents but make no effort with my in-laws. The 21 year old is home from uni for the summer and is just back from a week with them. Yes she was bored, but she knows how much they enjoy having her visit so she sucked it up and did a nice thing because she is a nice person.
They live a four hour drive away so none of us see as much of them as they would like but they all visit independently as well as tagging along for things like Christmas visits.
My husband’s parents put no effort into having a relationship with my kids so I’m not surprised they don’t visit them as adults. You reap what you sow in this case.