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How often do you see your nieces and nephews?

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dooberydah · 21/08/2023 17:28

I’ve only met mine a couple of times and feel so sad about it. Granted they aren’t yet one.
I’m just wondering how often most people see theirs. A colleague sees hers several times a week!

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ToughFuss · 21/08/2023 17:29

Once a week generally. One sibling has children, they’re aged between 1 and 10. I have one child, who is nearly 2. We live approx 45 minutes from each other.
Why is it, do you think, that you don’t see much of your niece/nephew? Is it easily changed?

HAF1119 · 21/08/2023 17:32

Once or twice a month, but at times we go 3 or 4 months without.

ttcnumbertwox · 21/08/2023 17:33

Once or twice a week

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hdbs17 · 21/08/2023 17:33

I think it depends on how often you see your sibling/partners sibling.

I have no siblings so none my side, but DH is close with his sister so we see DN that side every other week or sometimes every week.

Spottywombat · 21/08/2023 17:33

Very rarely.

Their mother doesn't like me that much. I've always tried to turn up, remember their birthdays etc but don't get included in things and it gets to a point, there is no point trying to push a relationship that isn't there. Plus always a drama...

I really like them tho. Good kids.

TheFormidableMrsC · 21/08/2023 17:34

Nowhere near as much as I'd like. It makes me very sad.

Eyesopenwideawake · 21/08/2023 17:34

My adopted brother's children, I've never met (they are early 20's now), one half brother has two sons but lives in Australia so I've met the eldest when he was a tiny baby and the youngest once when he was 7. On my biological father's side I have 5 nieces and 3 nephews and met them all for the first time on March - they range from 29 to about 7. Granted, I'm probably a bit unusual in this regard!!

AuntieMarys · 21/08/2023 17:34

I have 6...we all live in totally different parts of the country and have done for 50 years. I probably have seen them 3 times in 5 years.

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dooberydah · 21/08/2023 17:34

ToughFuss · 21/08/2023 17:29

Once a week generally. One sibling has children, they’re aged between 1 and 10. I have one child, who is nearly 2. We live approx 45 minutes from each other.
Why is it, do you think, that you don’t see much of your niece/nephew? Is it easily changed?

My sister isn’t very nice towards me or babys other uncle so we don’t have much involvement

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Stompythedinosaur · 21/08/2023 17:34

2 or 3 times a year as we don't live close.

petridishmystery · 21/08/2023 17:35

At least once a week in the summer, it can sometimes be a little longer in the winter when we aren’t going to the beach but never more than two weeks, but I do live in a very small town so it’s easy to get together often.

VisionsOfSplendour · 21/08/2023 17:37

Surely it depends where you all live and what relationship you have with parents of the children

Between me and my ex partner we have 6 different sets whoi all live about 2-3 hours drive away but not in the same area as each other

I have no set pattern of when I meet up with various families

Enko · 21/08/2023 17:37

Well they are adult now. Niece lived with us for 18 months ages 16-18. She lives in Copenhagen these days (27 years old). dhs sisters boys we see once or twice a year both close to 30 but we never saw them much despite living 30 mins away . Sil was very involved with her then inlaws and didn't have time. After her divorce we see sil a lot more but the boys are grown

Dhs brothers sons I've only met a handful of times. They are mid 30s now.

I'd say I have a good bond w niece. Like 2 of the nephews well enough do t know the others.

MolkosTeenageAngst · 21/08/2023 17:37

Obviously a big part of this is going to depend on how far you live from them. I live at the opposite end of the country to my nephews so can’t see them that often, I’m a teacher so I usually travel to see them during school holidays and stay with my siblings for a few days to a week, so end up seeing them roughly every 2 months, depending how the holidays fall. Would love to see them more and if they lived round the corner I expect I’d see them every week or two and be more involved with stuff like babysitting but that’s not realistic when it’s a 5+ hour drive.

AuntieAunt · 21/08/2023 17:38

My DN live a long haul flight away. I try to go over there for at least once a year for two weeks.

When I was younger with no responsibilities I’d go over for at least a month/couple of times a year.

I love my DN as much as my own DC. But I am extremely close to my sister.

cherryassam · 21/08/2023 17:38

I’ve got several nieces and nephews (and more through my husband)

How often I see them depends on how close they are to where we live and how well I/we get on with their parents

My eldest sister has 3 DC who are now all teens / pre-teens. They live about 20 minutes away and we see them at least once a week, more during the school holidays as they often come and stay as their parents work shifts and we are around more to do things. I’m very close to my sister and we’ve been very involved with the kids since they were young - I still take my DNiece to an activity once a week as it doesn’t fit with her parents shift patterns very well.

My next oldest sister and her family (2 DCs aged 8-10) live about 4 hours away. I travel a lot for work and they live close to an airport I often need to use, so I’ll see them then. Otherwise it’s usually once every school holidays.

My brother and his family (1 DC pre-school aged) live a couple of hours away. We see them about once a month as they visit my parents who live close by.

My SiL has three DC who are teens but live abroad. We see them every summer when they visit the UK and we try and go and see them once a year where they live.

My BiL has two DC (5-7) and live about 15mins away. We see them about once a week in school time and do childcare for much of the school holidays as we both work flexibly and from home, so can see them every day for stretches of time.

Ponderingwindow · 21/08/2023 17:41

On one side, about once a year. It’s a 10 hour journey one way.

on the other side, about every 2-3 months.

moomoogalicious · 21/08/2023 17:45

About twice a year as its a 5 hour round trip.

DinnaeFashYersel · 21/08/2023 17:47

One set I see at least 2-3 times per week
Next set I see 2-3 time per year but for at least a week at a time
Third set I see once a year for an afternoon

Cauliflowersfloofy · 21/08/2023 18:15

Two I've not seen since pre-covid (teens), one I've never met (3 yo). I used to see a lot more of the older two when they were small but I lived much closer then.

ThreeRingCircus · 21/08/2023 18:32

Two or three times a year. Always around Christmas and in the summer and we try to go on holiday as an extended family at Easter but this doesn't always happen every year. I live 4 hours from one set and 3 hours drive in the opposite direction from another set. If we lived closer to one another we'd see them a lot more.

CharlotteStreetW1 · 21/08/2023 19:00

They're all over the country and they're all 30+ so rarely, but we all get on brilliantly when we do get together. There are two local nieces (on DH's side) who we see more often and we've been married for most of their lives.

I have several great "niblings", two of whom I haven't met yet (both babies) and some great-great nieces who I'm unlikely ever to meet (my eldest sister is a lot older than me and started very young, as did her daughter, as did her daughter and if her daughter follows the trend, I could be a great-great-great aunt in the next year or so 😬).

UsingChangeofName · 21/08/2023 21:57

Well, some of mine are adults now, and spread through different parts of the country, so less than I used to.

When I just had one dn and they were a baby, I used to see them about 3 times a week, because I got on well with my sister and they lived very close to me and I didn't have dc of my own so had more time.
OTOH, when my other sibling had their first, I saw them about 2 or 3 times a year, as that was as often as I saw that sibling, before dc. They lived a lot further away and were much more introverted.

However, if you and your sister don't get on, I'm not sure why you would expect to (or want to ?) see them more often.

Thereisnoname · 21/08/2023 22:07

When they were smaller and I had no children I would see at least once a week maybe a couple of times.
As they got older it became less, maybe once a month. Then I had my own DC and Dnephews older so probably every few months nowadays even though we are all local.

crossstitchingnana · 21/08/2023 22:08

One a couple of times a year. The others? Not for years.

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