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How to describe someone. Is there a term?

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okiedokie1 · 09/08/2023 17:27

Occasionally in life I come up alongside a type of character I struggle to be around. If I try to describe the reasons I don't like being around them to my dh it sounds so wishy washy as there is nothing that sounds dramatically difficult. I was wondering if there was a term that describes this type of character. Like CF or narcissist or toxic or clingy. I can't think of a describer that feels accurate.
Overly in your face
Not able to sense that you don't want to talk. Just keeps on invading space until I just want to tell her to back off.
Never stops talking
Asks too many questions
Discusses things they suffer with in minute detail and shows you ...rashes, boils, random yucky body things
When it's time for them to leave they don't go. They sort of cling on and just keep in finding things to talk about
Overly keen
Overly friendly
Overly everything
When I know they are going to be somewhere I desperately don't want to go.
If I had to sit next to them at a dinner o would have to feign illness and leave.
Gives me the ick

It's not just me who feels this way. I haven't actually spoken to anyone but I can see people backing away or finding excuses to not be around her

But she's not nasty. She tried to be nice. I don't know what it is. Please help me understand what is repelling me

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GoneWithTheWin · 09/08/2023 17:29

How old

CardiganBardigan · 09/08/2023 17:30

Unboundaried.

Shoxfordian · 09/08/2023 17:31

Wrongun

BiscuitsandPuffin · 09/08/2023 17:32

Maybe she's attracted to goady thread writers. 🙄

erikbloodaxe · 09/08/2023 17:32

Lonely

BlastedSkreet · 09/08/2023 17:33

Intense

Enoughnowbrandon · 09/08/2023 17:34

No boundaries.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 09/08/2023 17:34

She just sounds a bit desperate

SoShallINever · 09/08/2023 17:35

Someone who doesn't have your superior level of social skills, (But then she's maybe not got your smugness either)

ReeseWitherfork · 09/08/2023 17:40

Brash?

mildlydispeptic · 09/08/2023 17:42

Has no filters? Socially tone deaf?

Busubaba · 09/08/2023 17:43

Insufferable.

marshmallowfinder · 09/08/2023 17:43

Bolshy.

Incognito2023 · 09/08/2023 17:44

Pushy, intense… possibly lonely /bit desperate to be friends. Feel sorry for them, they definitely need some help with social niceties

Original poster
okiedokie1 · 09/08/2023 18:04

SoShallINever · 09/08/2023 17:35

Someone who doesn't have your superior level of social skills, (But then she's maybe not got your smugness either)

Unnecessary comment. I actually want to know if there is a word for this sort of character. I haven't gossiped about them to anyone. I simply feel uncomfortable around them and so do others and I want a word to describe the character type. Not sure why you are so hostile.

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Robinbuildsbears · 09/08/2023 18:06

Space invader?

Original poster
okiedokie1 · 09/08/2023 18:06

Incognito2023 · 09/08/2023 17:44

Pushy, intense… possibly lonely /bit desperate to be friends. Feel sorry for them, they definitely need some help with social niceties

I think you are right. I think they probably are lonely due to people finding them sort of repellent. Do people back away so then she pushes more and the cycle continues. I thought if there was a name for this personality type I could read up and see what constructive ways to behave around them might be. She's not a bad person but she gives people the ick and it's hard to put a finger on why.

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Original poster
okiedokie1 · 09/08/2023 18:07

GoneWithTheWin · 09/08/2023 17:29

How old

Oh....early 50s probably

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Clytemnestra21 · 09/08/2023 18:09

Sounds like someone who struggles to pick up on social clues, maybe she's autistic?

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okiedokie1 · 09/08/2023 18:12

Clytemnestra21 · 09/08/2023 18:09

Sounds like someone who struggles to pick up on social clues, maybe she's autistic?

I don't think so. Only because I know several people on the spectrum and generally I don't find them overly in your face or overly talkative about small talk. Whilst there does seem to be some sort of social blindness, she doesn't really seem to fit most typical behaviours of someone with asd

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LaMaG · 09/08/2023 18:19

My American friend would say 'she's a lot' and it's a good expression. Intense is probably what I would say maybe

CurlewKate · 09/08/2023 18:26

Lacks boundaries. Struggling to overcome social anxiety and going to far.

SlowerMovingVehicle · 09/08/2023 18:30

Emotional vampire. Literally feed off other people's energy leaving them feeling drained and slightly 🤢. Her life is completely empty.

MichaelAndEagle · 09/08/2023 18:57

LaMaG · 09/08/2023 18:19

My American friend would say 'she's a lot' and it's a good expression. Intense is probably what I would say maybe

Yes. Or I might say she was a bit too much.

nameitagain · 09/08/2023 19:06

SlowerMovingVehicle · 09/08/2023 18:30

Emotional vampire. Literally feed off other people's energy leaving them feeling drained and slightly 🤢. Her life is completely empty.

Total energy vampire yes. But it's hard to put my finger on why someone who is objectively being nice is actually stressing people out