Am I the only one looking my age?

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I seem to be surrounded by women at work, friends, on the tv etc who look far younger than their age and it’s wrecking my head 😂. I am someone who nobody is surprised when I say I’m 48, there’s no “omg I thought you were in your 30s!”, people just nod (probably thinking ‘I thought she was in her 50s’). I have wrinkles around my eyes and a wrinkly neck and also baggy eyelids - I am paining a sexy picture here I know.

i don’t obsess about this but it just seems a bit unfair when so many women around me look so youthful and fabulous. I am no frump and have a young mindset, I just don’t have the neck to match!! Anyone relate, or can tell me where to find this mystical youth elixir that everyone else is bloody drinking?!

For my part, I eat healthily for the most part and I exercise and am a healthy weight. So if anything is getting me it is definitely stress and alcohol. Have had a lot of stress in the last couple of years and guess what alleviates this stress on a short term basis? Wine.

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You are not alone OP, nobody looks shocked when I tell them my age either (the bastards )

Same! You're not alone OP

Really interested in this Tretonin thing, lots of mentions about it here on MN but never heard of it previously.

I'm older now and I look my age but I no longer care. It doesn't matter a jot.

Nobody looks shocked at my age 57 so if desperate i pull out the 40 year old daughter they all say you dont look old enough 😂😂😂😂 sometimes i just take it sometimes i tell them i was just 17 when i had her 😊so im not really old enough.

I'm 38 OP and definitely look my age. I do find that with the increase in botox/fillers/lash extensions/very heavy makeup it can be hard to guess some people's ages, but also that this works in both directions - I know or have met quite a few women in their 20s who to me look like a 'well preserved' late 30s-40s because they have that 'had work done' look. Obviously there are also those lucky people who are just naturally young looking too!

There is zero youthful looking about botox.

IMO it is disasterously aging. People who have it just do not think so.

You can definitely tell when somebody has had botox, filler etc. Even when it's done really well and the person looks nice and glowy it's just easy to spot, so someone who "doesn't look their age" always does iyswim

Is tretinoin just the latest retinol style fad? What's the difference?

A lot is down to genetics. My grandmother looked young (didn’t have teeth or like wearing them so that made her look old) but my mum at 80 was always mistaken for 60 or worse still my sister when I was younger. No one thinks I’m my age. Also added to that is I had my child later so in people’s minds 20 years haven’t happened and I haven’t aged!

I look every second of my age and then some it honestly doesn't bother me.

I think most people look their age. There was an attractive lady in a restaurant I was in yesterday and she had a combo of wrinkled like her neck and chin area but then high eyebrows, no laughter lines, smooth forehead etc so obviously Botox - but I did wonder who was creating this very unbalanced look for her.

I am 60 in November but do not look it at all. No more than early fifties max.

I love this! I aspire to be a cool lady with lines 😊

It's similar but tretinoin is considerably stronger than retinol as it is the active form of Vitamin A and hence can get to work as soon as it is applied to the skin. Retinol and other weaker retinoids, on the other hand, require further reaction steps by your skin to activate them to work. This is what makes Tretinoin so effective and strong but also more irritating than retinol. In addition to wrinkles and hyperpigmentation, Tretinoin is also used by doctors to treat a wider set of skin conditions like acne, scarring and rosacea.

I have been told I look younger but I wear , concealer and big glasses and as I am short sighted, they actually reduce the appearance of my wrinkles hahaha .

I’m seriously debating Botox. I did a comparison photo on social media today. In the photo from this week, I look like my older brother! The other was 12 years ago so of course I look better facially. I look my age (50s), I have wrinkles ☹️

I am 57 and I now have that crinkley skin around my neck line just at the collar bone😐,so when I don't wear a scarf it tells you how old I am compared to my face Which looks about 47.. maybe 😂

I am late 30s and have got so many lines, my daughter drew a picture of me the other day and I looked like a grandma she put that many lines!

I started to feel like this when I turned 40, I used to be the youngest looking of my friendship group but suddenly I wasn't.

It took me a while to have the epiphany - they were all having Botox and fillers on the QT!!!