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The idea of multigenerational living

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RoloThough · 05/08/2023 16:20

I think it’s a really good idea if it works for your family. Was having this chat with my mum earlier. They’re mortgage free & have a lovely big 4 bed detached forever home in a desirable area. We rent a 2 bed home. They have got, by their own admission, too much space and we could do with more space as we want to start a family soon. If we were to move in with my parents and pay all of their utility bills and food shopping, we would still be better off than we are now and they wouldn’t have to pay a penny.

I can really see why multiple generations stay in the same house and I in many ways wish it was feasible to move back in with them. As it stands, it’s not- main reason being we have different lifestyles, it’s hard to negotiate use of a kitchen for cooking (they like very particular food) & DH is a shift worker so him getting home or getting up at 4am and bumping around would disrupt their sleep.

I wonder if with rising costs more people will turn to living with relatives and this will become more normalised again? I know in some cultures it is already what most families do but you can easily see the positives to it i guess especially if the house you’re all living in accommodates different people

What are your thoughts?

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Sailingthissummer · 05/08/2023 19:52

My children will be welcome in our home always, their dps I am not sure. I guess it would depend on the character- I’d like to think I could accommodate almost anyone but I love a tidy orderly home and early nights so we would compromise. The idea of watching and helping my gc would be an incredible incentive however!!

Museya15 · 05/08/2023 19:53

I live with my dad, myself and my child. He's elderly and I look after the household but its his house. Works for us.

Sunsnowsun · 05/08/2023 20:00

@FourTeaFallOut 😂😂😂 that’s a hell no from me too

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CaramelMac · 05/08/2023 20:00

I’d be on remand for murder within a week, no jury would convict me though!

mondaytosunday · 05/08/2023 20:05

Anyone I know who lived with parents they had separate space - own kitchen and livingroom as well as bedroom. I lived my mum but no way could I ever live with her. So a self contained floor might work, but not sharing all facilities!

CurlewKate · 05/08/2023 20:24

My sil does this. She, her husband, their two daughters, their partners and 2 grandchildren all share one big house. It seems to work really well. They do all have separate spaces though, although they also share one big kitchen. The plan was for mil to move in too, but her health suddenly went downhill, so that bit of the plan didn't work.

LizBennet · 06/08/2023 10:26

Yeah @Ponderingwindow I’ve always done the bulk of looking after our disabled child and I’m doing 95% of the cooking and cleaning now 😣
We’ve been here since March and I honestly feel more tired now than I’ve ever done. FIL is 89 and certainly has the attitude “it’s women’s work” 😑

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